Originally posted by KelliBlueEyes View Post
Originally posted by Raging Squirrel View Post
Not sure if the OP is looking to meet escorts for free or meet people for legitimate dates but there aren't many apps or transgender "dating sites" that work. In my limited experience they're all packed with fake profiles or girls over seas looking to cam with you.

If you want to meet escorts then your best bet is Eros, Shemale Canada or similar sites and fork over the cash.

If your goal is to meet someone for dating and an actual relationship then probably just a regular site like POF or okcupid would work.. Of course you need some luck on your side too. As for transgender dating sites, I would never take them seriously at all. Each one I've been on refers to these women as shemales, ladyboys or trannies. If they were serious about their site they'd never use those terms! And as I said above, tons of fake profiles.


P.S. I have dated a couple trans women over the years and met them on POF by accident.
I'm sure this thread is old, but there are plenty of places to me trans women who are looking to date.

Transgenderdate.com
MyTransexualdate.com
There is an app named "trans"
OkCupid has added "trans woman" as a gender
There really are some on CL

Personally, I use on line dating because guys are too shy or insecure to approach me in public most of the time. Online I can say, this is me, this is the kind of guy I prefer, chat a bit and see where things go, then go out on a date in public and see if there's any chemistry.

I can learn enough about people to screen out guys I am totally not looking for. Married or otherwise attached or "down low" guys are eliminated.
Guys who do not meet basic physical criteria I prefer such as height, etc., are eliminated.
Guys who are not local to me, or semi-local, are eliminated.

I also eliminate guys:
-If they use disrespectful terms like "Tranny" or "Shemale".
-If they send a picture of their cock, or describe their cock without my having asked.
-if they start talking or texting about sexual things before I am comfortable doing that.

Assuming a guy is attractive to me, and doesn't turn into an ass or a creep, or take things in a sexual direction before I am willing to go there, then the next step is to go out on a date in public and see if there's attraction in person.

Come over to my house and stay in is not a date, I never do that for a first meeting.
Coffee or lunch is fine for a meet and greet, but you will pick me up for coffee or lunch, and drop me off back home or wherever I'm going, you don't get invited in after taking me out for coffee or lunch. I guess pretty much with any mature woman a guy should plan to spend as much on a date as he would for an escort visit anyway.
Though it's not out of the question for a really hot guy who is just my type that I am super attracted to (Caucasians 6'4" or taller) to get lucky after a cheap date, or even get a booty call if he's dl or attached/married.


Dating a trans woman is like dating any other woman, except in many cases we probably have higher standards, at least about how we expect our potential partner to treat us.

And, guys who are determined to date trans women have to understand that we are cynical and jaded because of all the pricks and creeps who we've had to deal with before we talk to you, just as trans women have to understand guys have sometimes been taken advantage of by girls that were just on the make.


Any guy who is married, attached, or unwilling to date A trans woman publicly for whatever reason is better off staying with escorts. It is actually safer for them, if a married guy dupes some na?ve trans woman in to sleeping with him she could easily out him.

Also, when it comes to dating people from online, and I don't care what sex or gender you are, for me I insist on a recent face pic and an actual phone number. I don't communicate with potential dates through chat apps. I do not waste time communicating with people who are not local enough to meet in person within 2 weeks of my initial contact with them.

Why do I do things the way I do? Because I have enough experience to have seen the games that people play with online dating. I'm at the point where I'm seeing a couple people casually and I'm not looking for any new dates. If someone interesting popped up on OKC or somewhere I would probably go out to dinner with them.

For the guys who won't date escorts or former escorts, I just want to point out that transitioning is expensive, it's hard to find a good job as employment discrimination against trans people is prevalent, and unless one transitions at and older age after having a successful career or comes from family money then it is hard to afford things like cosmetic surgery. That's why such a high percentage of the prettiest trans women work as escorts.
If you're going to have a relationship with a trans woman you're either going to have to be in a position to help her out with her transition costs, or you're going to have to be OK with her profession.

Pretty transsexual women (I don't like the word "passable" to me it's offensive) are very, very rare. That's why they call us unicorns. And I mean pretty transsexuals, pretty transsexual women are rare as opposed to less pretty trans women, cross dressers or transvestites.
If you are looking for a pretty transsexual woman who is not now nor has ever worked as an escort, you are looking for something you will probably never find. They are out there but they are very very very very very rare.
And if you do not care to, or cannot, help her out with her transition costs then you are probably deluding yourself about finding one of these rare ones.


Clients are obviously another story for a different thread.