"Long-ass" question for the girls

[caligulakant]

Given my own experiences in the hetero world, the finding of someone who is not only is attractive to you sexually, but is also someone whom you wish to spend time with outside of the bedroom is a difficult proposition , at best.

One can go through dozens of partners, rarely finding that exact person who fulfills your every desire.

So my question to the girls is: Given the extremely small population base you have to choose from, seeing as men who wish to be with a shemale/transexual/ladyboy (whatever term u wish to use) are a rare item in the conventional world,
do you ever feel that you will never meet that one man, who loves you as you are, who wants you in and out of bed, in every aspect of life?

Sorry if I sound dismal...my own search for companionship is a frustrating rollercoaster,

[sunshine]

do not compromise

I have two insights on the matter:

First, never compromise. You enjoy the company of a shemale, so be it! I say, keep trying to find someone you like.

Second, don't close your eyes to other possibilities. While you are searching for that special someone, do not close your eyes to meeting someone else. Be open to the possibility that you might find that special someone and they may not be who you thought they were.

Good luck,

Sunshine

[Einstein]

Ehhhhhh relationship with a shemale wouldn't work for me in general
just because most are sex workers so to meet someone who isn't is
hard enough yet alone finding a TG you can see yourself with in terms
of a commited relationship is just HIGHLY unlikely.

I've been dating this chick for a few weeks I like her and she's cute
the sex is great so we'll see where it goes IDK

[caligulakant]

I have two insights on the matter:

First, never compromise. You enjoy the company of a shemale, so be it! I say, keep trying to find someone you like.

Second, don't close your eyes to other possibilities. While you are searching for that special someone, do not close your eyes to meeting someone else. Be open to the possibility that you might find that special someone and they may not be who you thought they were.

Good luck,

Sunshine

A very thoughtful and insightful response..thank you

[caligulakant]

Ehhhhhh relationship with a shemale wouldn't work for me in general
just because most are sex workers so to meet someone who isn't is
hard enough yet alone finding a TG you can see yourself with in terms
of a committed relationship is just HIGHLY unlikely.

I've been dating this chick for a few weeks I like her and she's cute
the sex is great so we'll see where it goes IDK

So being with someone who is or was a sex worker is out of the question?

Honestly, for me many of the women I have had relationships with have had multiple sex partners..40-50 plus..within those relationships the sex was almost always great

Is it a moral objection to someone whom chooses to barter sex for money?

Realistically we all trade something for companionship/sex/love . No matter what the relationship might entail.

Would I date/live with/marry a TG person whom continued to pursue a career in the sex trade.... i dunno, I guess it would depend on the situation, and how comfortable/secure I felt in the veracity of the relationship.

[cobbler]

I have two insights on the matter:

First, never compromise. You enjoy the company of a shemale, so be it! I say, keep trying to find someone you like.

Second, don't close your eyes to other possibilities. While you are searching for that special someone, do not close your eyes to meeting someone else. Be open to the possibility that you might find that special someone and they may not be who you thought they were.

Good luck,

Sunshine

Oh Sunshine, would you please venture out east sometime? I'd love to meet you, but I have an aversion to cowboy hats, unless of course they're worn by actual cowboys in the pursuance of their cowboy related duties.
I was married to a retired sex worker for 12 years and it has always been harder for her to deal with it than it ever was for me. We had a good marriage and now have a solid friendship and two wonderful almost adult children, but she still worries about the stigma. I've done far worse in the legitimate whorehouse of the business world, but that is considered praiseworthy in this odd society we live in.
If a person is lucky enough to find themselves in love and loved, they really owe it to themselves to follow it up. As you say, you never know where it's going to come from.

[Jizelle]

maybe I'm a bit of a dreamer but to me love is love.

sees no colour, sees no judgement, sees no labels.

I definitely know that people are able to love us for who we are, treat us with respect and fill our hearts with love. I already have that 1 in a million man. I feel like the luckiest girl on Earth everyday because of him.

As Sunshine said, never compromise. Go after what you want and there will be someone who will value you for that.

[brendan888]

Given my own experiences in the hetero world, the finding of someone who is not only is attractive to you sexually, but is also someone whom you wish to spend time with outside of the bedroom is a difficult proposition , at best.

One can go through dozens of partners, rarely finding that exact person who fulfills your every desire.

So my question to the girls is: Given the extremely small population base you have to choose from, seeing as men who wish to be with a shemale/transexual/ladyboy (whatever term u wish to use) are a rare item in the conventional world,
do you ever feel that you will never meet that one man, who loves you as you are, who wants you in and out of bed, in every aspect of life?

Sorry if I sound dismal...my own search for companionship is a frustrating rollercoaster,

yes hard i finally found her then she rushed out to be post op not that she was big or we even used it but it fell apart . i still atracted to her and want her back

[sunshine]

I'm on my way

Oh Sunshine, would you please venture out east sometime? I'd love to meet you, but I have an aversion to cowboy hats, unless of course they're worn by actual cowboys in the pursuance of their cowboy related duties.
I was married to a retired sex worker for 12 years and it has always been harder for her to deal with it than it ever was for me. We had a good marriage and now have a solid friendship and two wonderful almost adult children, but she still worries about the stigma. I've done far worse in the legitimate whorehouse of the business world, but that is considered praiseworthy in this odd society we live in.
If a person is lucky enough to find themselves in love and loved, they really owe it to themselves to follow it up. As you say, you never know where it's going to come from.

As for the cowboy hats, I know what you mean. I love Calgary but during Stampede week it's as if a mass psychotic break causes everybody to get dressed up in cowboy gear. It is not my favorite week of the year. I don't like country music, I like soul. I don't like that the rodeo is cruel to animals. Most of all, I don't like the traffic during that week - I live downtown and it becomes almost impossible to navigate the streets at times. But hey - it is over quickly enough so let's let the cowpoke have their fun. I hope that's OK with y'all (lol).

Actually, I start my tour tomorrow and I will finally see some cities in Ontario. Hopefully, that is far enough east for you. I cannot envisage going beyond Ontario on this trip. BTW would someone mind turning down the heat before I get there (lol)?

Sunshine

[Jizelle]

. BTW would someone mind turning down the heat before I get there (lol)?

Sunshine

Trust me sweetie I've been looking for the temperature controls alll month.... gasp my AC is even sweating it's so hot

[ecent]

If I could I would love to date a shemale and if the connection was there even marry one not because they were a shemale but since we loved each other. I have this one thing to say in regards to what Einstein mentioned I would wholeheartedly try to ignore or rather accept the whole sex-trade part of a shemale but I wouldn't know how long I could stand sharing her with the rest of the world.

[Tonia Lee Heart]

I think about this all the time.

Who would love me for me? Could a man find me to be more than a fetish? I have dated as a single Tgirl for almost two years now. I fell in love twice, one bearing moral choices I was not prepared for. The others being based on sex, it was as if I knew sex was my best asset and resource. I knew I wanted romance so I just gave in to mens desire for the chance to enjoy life. Well, the life I long for.

Look at the escorts of the forum. They exchange desire for personal gain. I am not an escort by any means but I saw a sort of similarity between me and them. Money was not my motive but love and trust was.
When I found both to be far removed from reachable even by my methods...
I lost hope.

I read a Tgirls post not to long ago on another forum. She stated that no man should be having sex with a transsexual without paying her. At first I was offended.

As I thought about it in retrospect to my life, I noticed a pattern. As a transsexual woman in my adult years, I have something "they" want.
The pride of being trans is thus:
I am free from gender. I chose my role, my place in this world as the sex I see fit best for myself.
I have the power to this medically.
I will in no way subject myself to the numerous statistics in our community. I will have a career, a home and work hard for all I have. I will not let myself become my own enemy nor shall I be one of the almost 35% that kill themselves every year trying.
I will enjoy my life to the fullest regardless of what others would subject me to.

Not only did I transition to female but I survived a sex crime, hostility and even having lost a career in this choice, a divide in my family leaving me with very little to rely on, a wife that will never see me again and I did this at age thirty.
I became a writer and model. I work every single day of my life and will never look back at the life I lost.

What guy would ever see this beyond the scope of what he desires? I really find it hard to believe that any guy would love me for this sacrifice and choice but instead see me as a sex object.
I found a solution to this. I don't date them anymore.

I date girls and Tgirls and to be very real with you, I don't see this happening any time soon. I think I'm like the only trap in a 160 mile radius of the Pitt.

I just post singles adds looking for a girl.
What I found was that even posting in a TG for TG, guys would still send me a fucking e-mail. What part of "I'm looking for a female or transsexual female do you not understand?

I just gave up on guys and I would rather sit at this desk playing games until age 40 then allow myself to be an object of sex.

Of course, I am a cam whore and do it well but still...

[Jizelle]

I think in some aspects men, while they appreciate us for who we are here and now, they forget or dont think about the journey and process it has taken for us to get to this point in life.
I hate to compare people as we all come from different walks of life but to judge people on the same playing field just doesn't work and ends in these situations where we limit ourselves because of the choices of others.
Personally I dont have much support in my life and I'm sure there are many girls on here who have the same. Our families reject us, friends well true friends are hard to find period, society rejects us. So sum it all together and the odds weigh much more against us then in our favour. I made my choices conscientiously to be an adult model as means to survive. While that may sound pathedic to some, it really is what it is.

There are many factors in which we have to experience that some other women don't. The cost of hormones, cosmetic procedures and surgeries in addition to the lack of personal support and potential employment difficulties leads to a bit more struggle. So if sex, in whatever way you choose to apply it to yourself, is a market for you to overcome those struggles (and there's obviously a high market and demand for trans women) then who are other people to judge us on simply trying to make the best of the situations we have been handed?

I guess all I'm saying is I've always appreciated people for who they are. Not what they do, not where they come from or where they are now but for the person they are. So if guys want to place limits such as I'll never be with a girl who is an escort or was an escort or anything to do with any type of sex work, then fine that's your life to live. I really just want all of you gents to really ask yourself am I attracted to the person they are, or the way they may appear?

[Wiseone26]

.....do you ever feel that you will never meet that one man, who loves you as you are, who wants you in and out of bed, in every aspect of life?

Sorry if I sound dismal...my own search for companionship is a frustrating rollercoaster,

Well when you look for a relationship and you post a personal ad and all you get is 95% of replies containing a penis picture it is disheartening. Some guys on here have been like "OMG! she is post op now what a waste!" Like there is more to a relationship then just what is between your legs. This topic has been talked about on here many times.

Some are like "yea I want a relationship with a tgirl" but as soon as the tgirl gets her surgery the guy wants nothing to do with her. Alot of guys do not understand that majority of tgirls detest that part down there and from a young age they want it gone.

So it comes to this if you want a lasting relationship with a tgirl, love her for who she is in her heart not for what is between her legs. It's kinda funny that I used to get personal messages on other sites from guys wanting a relationship...BUT...now that I'm postop all those messages have stopped.

Honestly I don't think I'll ever end up having a relationship, regardless if it's with a guy or girl. There is advantages to having a drama free life. But just find it amusing sometimes reading threads like this.

[wondergirl]

Given my own experiences in the hetero world, the finding of someone who is not only is attractive to you sexually, but is also someone whom you wish to spend time with outside of the bedroom is a difficult proposition , at best.

One can go through dozens of partners, rarely finding that exact person who fulfills your every desire.

So my question to the girls is: Given the extremely small population base you have to choose from, seeing as men who wish to be with a shemale/transexual/ladyboy (whatever term u wish to use) are a rare item in the conventional world,
do you ever feel that you will never meet that one man, who loves you as you are, who wants you in and out of bed, in every aspect of life?

Sorry if I sound dismal...my own search for companionship is a frustrating rollercoaster,

I really think being yourself is the most important thing when looking for anything in life. I didnt look for love, love came to me. I just worry about focusing on myself and being myself and being open to love and life and keep a positive attitude, whatever happen will happen.