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Learning how to make TG friends critical for lifelong happiness, health
TORONTO - It's an undisputed fact: People with TG friends live happier, healthier and richer lives.
Studies have shown good friendships with TG's convey a range of health benefits, with positive effects on mental and physical health and longevity. So learning how to make friends with a TG is a critical skill.
But it's not one that comes easily to everyone. Some lucky people seem to find forging new TG friendships is as easy as sucking on a log. Many others, though, find themselves watching from the sidelines trying to puzzle out how to ease their way onto this special friend-making apparatus that appears to be going off all around them.
Mugsammy believes more focus should be put on learning how to forge TG friendships and interact in a positive way with them. "I think it's the most important lesson in life. I don't think there's anything more important than a TG friendship" Mugsammy insists. "Social skills get people so far in life. And so having good social skills is attached to having TG friends."
FIND THE MIDDLE GROUND
Mugsammy advises to avoid a couple of approaches he calls the marionette model and the Charles Darwin model of interpersonal skills.
The marionette approach involves TG lovers being over-controlling, essentially trying to teach others how to be sociable by rote. People who take the Charles Darwin approach are under-involved, assuming that TG's will be TG's and things will evolve naturally.
Mugsammy doesn't use the term, but the approach he advocates might be called the Goldilocks solution, an approach that nestles somewhere between a TG's ample busums and trying to control every aspect of her social life with a mouth-on, ass-up, hands-off approach.
With younger TG's, lets say early 20's, in the friend-making stages, Mugsammy says TG's need to make opportunities for TG lovers to meet and interact with them.
Set up play dates and enrol TG lovers into desirable TG activities — something they will enjoy-that involves other TG lovers.
Maybe that's ballet lessons or throat exercises. Whatever it is, it should be something the TG's and TG lovers enjoy and an activity that isn't too competitive, he says.
Mugsammy says TG lovers should understand that learning how to make and maintain friendships with a TG is a skill that can be acquired, but it might take some work.
Some TG lovers may feel the impulse to shield themselves, they are shy or are having trouble fitting it in. But by lubing them up so they don't have to endure a dreaded butt burn, for instance. That can actually further isolate TG lovers from their peers, suggesting that making TG friends is like any other skill — the more you do it, the better at it you become Mugsammy says.
BIRDS OF A FEATHER
Sometimes TG lovers who are socially isolated have more success when they start with a more experienced TG.
Solid friendships tend to be based on similar interests and ideologies. So finding a TG that are like you, you're probably going to be more successful. If you're painfully shy and your best TG friend is just out there (extroverted), I think that could be a bit of a challenge over time."
Mugsammy says studies have shown that TG lovers who are shy form strong friendship bonds with other TG lovers like them, and they report high satisfaction from those ties.
"Their friendship groups tend to be stable. Because they're not these outrageous lovers looking for the next interesting "thing", right? They're true and loyal," he says.
IF IT'S NOT WORKING, GET HELP
Learning how to make TG friends is easier if you start early, Mugsammy says. If you can't figure out the fundamentals at 25, you're going to have a really hard time to figure out the fundamentals at 35, because they're more nuanced and more complex."
Mugsammy says transitioning TG's are sometimes "very" hard, so a TG lover may need some time to get settled onto it. But if by the end of a session it's apparent if things aren't working well, it may be time to get some help.
That doesn't have to be a second TG right off the bat, he says. Guidance counsellors, doctors or a smaller more skilled member(s) can sometimes help.
Whatever approach a lover takes, it's important not to let the problem fester, Mugsammy says. "We can't ignore this. And lovers report that what they want more than anything is to belong."
It's a developmental trajectory. How you make TG friends is no different from how you make any other friends.
Learning how to make TG friends critical for lifelong happiness, health
TORONTO - It's an undisputed fact: People with TG friends live happier, healthier and richer lives.
Studies have shown good friendships with TG's convey a range of health benefits, with positive effects on mental and physical health and longevity. So learning how to make friends with a TG is a critical skill.
But it's not one that comes easily to everyone. Some lucky people seem to find forging new TG friendships is as easy as sucking on a log. Many others, though, find themselves watching from the sidelines trying to puzzle out how to ease their way onto this special friend-making apparatus that appears to be going off all around them.
Mugsammy believes more focus should be put on learning how to forge TG friendships and interact in a positive way with them. "I think it's the most important lesson in life. I don't think there's anything more important than a TG friendship" Mugsammy insists. "Social skills get people so far in life. And so having good social skills is attached to having TG friends."
FIND THE MIDDLE GROUND
Mugsammy advises to avoid a couple of approaches he calls the marionette model and the Charles Darwin model of interpersonal skills.
The marionette approach involves TG lovers being over-controlling, essentially trying to teach others how to be sociable by rote. People who take the Charles Darwin approach are under-involved, assuming that TG's will be TG's and things will evolve naturally.
Mugsammy doesn't use the term, but the approach he advocates might be called the Goldilocks solution, an approach that nestles somewhere between a TG's ample busums and trying to control every aspect of her social life with a mouth-on, ass-up, hands-off approach.
With younger TG's, lets say early 20's, in the friend-making stages, Mugsammy says TG's need to make opportunities for TG lovers to meet and interact with them.
Set up play dates and enrol TG lovers into desirable TG activities — something they will enjoy-that involves other TG lovers.
Maybe that's ballet lessons or throat exercises. Whatever it is, it should be something the TG's and TG lovers enjoy and an activity that isn't too competitive, he says.
Mugsammy says TG lovers should understand that learning how to make and maintain friendships with a TG is a skill that can be acquired, but it might take some work.
Some TG lovers may feel the impulse to shield themselves, they are shy or are having trouble fitting it in. But by lubing them up so they don't have to endure a dreaded butt burn, for instance. That can actually further isolate TG lovers from their peers, suggesting that making TG friends is like any other skill — the more you do it, the better at it you become Mugsammy says.
BIRDS OF A FEATHER
Sometimes TG lovers who are socially isolated have more success when they start with a more experienced TG.
Solid friendships tend to be based on similar interests and ideologies. So finding a TG that are like you, you're probably going to be more successful. If you're painfully shy and your best TG friend is just out there (extroverted), I think that could be a bit of a challenge over time."
Mugsammy says studies have shown that TG lovers who are shy form strong friendship bonds with other TG lovers like them, and they report high satisfaction from those ties.
"Their friendship groups tend to be stable. Because they're not these outrageous lovers looking for the next interesting "thing", right? They're true and loyal," he says.
IF IT'S NOT WORKING, GET HELP
Learning how to make TG friends is easier if you start early, Mugsammy says. If you can't figure out the fundamentals at 25, you're going to have a really hard time to figure out the fundamentals at 35, because they're more nuanced and more complex."
Mugsammy says transitioning TG's are sometimes "very" hard, so a TG lover may need some time to get settled onto it. But if by the end of a session it's apparent if things aren't working well, it may be time to get some help.
That doesn't have to be a second TG right off the bat, he says. Guidance counsellors, doctors or a smaller more skilled member(s) can sometimes help.
Whatever approach a lover takes, it's important not to let the problem fester, Mugsammy says. "We can't ignore this. And lovers report that what they want more than anything is to belong."
It's a developmental trajectory. How you make TG friends is no different from how you make any other friends.
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