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    Hey guys,
    I?ve been meeting with ts escorts for a couple years now but have been attempting to date girls simultaneously. Anyways, I?m dating this one girl and it feels like a long a term type of relationship, and I was wondering since I?m sure many of you are currently in some kind of relationship do you still meet with escorts? Does it ruin how you feel with your girlfriends? Because my girlfriend can?t offer what I have felt with many ts escorts, but I don?t want to ruin anything with her or make myself feel weird after an experience and her not knowing. I would really like to know if it?s worth fulfilling this one fetish?
    Thanks
    Cheers.

  • #2
    Originally posted by Mikeliles66 View Post
    Hey guys,
    I?ve been meeting with ts escorts for a couple years now but have been attempting to date girls simultaneously. Anyways, I?m dating this one girl and it feels like a long a term type of relationship, and I was wondering since I?m sure many of you are currently in some kind of relationship do you still meet with escorts? Does it ruin how you feel with your girlfriends? Because my girlfriend can?t offer what I have felt with many ts escorts, but I don?t want to ruin anything with her or make myself feel weird after an experience and her not knowing. I would really like to know if it?s worth fulfilling this one fetish?
    Thanks
    Cheers.
    My $0.02?
    put the escorts on hold for a while, as you get to know the gf better bring up some of your wants/needs in the bedroom and see what she says
    SINcerely, Lora-Lana

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    • #3
      My suggestion is save yourself a lot of wasted years and money; dump the girlfriend since the escorts are offering what she can't.

      My $0.02 based on wasted years in relationships.

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Mikeliles66 View Post
        Hey guys,
        I?ve been meeting with ts escorts for a couple years now but have been attempting to date girls simultaneously. Anyways, I?m dating this one girl and it feels like a long a term type of relationship, and I was wondering since I?m sure many of you are currently in some kind of relationship do you still meet with escorts? Does it ruin how you feel with your girlfriends? Because my girlfriend can?t offer what I have felt with many ts escorts, but I don?t want to ruin anything with her or make myself feel weird after an experience and her not knowing. I would really like to know if it?s worth fulfilling this one fetish?
        Thanks
        Cheers.
        Depends on the connection, as suggested its worth a try to put this fetish on pause to find out if this girls for real.

        Escorts will always be there, but will she or this connection?

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        • #5
          Tell her

          Tell her your fantasy. She might join in

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          • #6
            Originally posted by Sweetbicock View Post
            Tell her your fantasy. She might join in
            Yeah she?s the first girl I?ve been with where I get a feel that she may be into this kind of experience. Like most of you have said, I?ll probably wait it out and get comfortable.

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            • #7
              Originally posted by Mikeliles66 View Post
              Hey guys,
              I’ve been meeting with ts escorts for a couple years now but have been attempting to date girls simultaneously. Anyways, I’m dating this one girl and it feels like a long a term type of relationship, and I was wondering since I’m sure many of you are currently in some kind of relationship do you still meet with escorts? Does it ruin how you feel with your girlfriends? Because my girlfriend can’t offer what I have felt with many ts escorts, but I don’t want to ruin anything with her or make myself feel weird after an experience and her not knowing. I would really like to know if it’s worth fulfilling this one fetish?
              Thanks
              Cheers.

              It may be too late now that you are dating and attached; but I made the decision a few years back to tell any girl I started dating that I enjoyed trans women and would continue to do so. Some would be put off, some would be cool with it. I generally found that women under 30 were cool, but the ladies my age were appalled.. lol so I have drifted to staying under 30 since then. As for your situation, since you didn't tell her up front, you will have to consider if you want to keep it a secret or not. I would recommend keeping it in your life because it is not healthy for a relationship if you are oppressing yourself and being unsatisfied with the woman who loves you. If you are fulfilling you other needs you can enjoy what she has to offer and find peace. The whole hard line morality of "you are cheating.. bad!" , sounds lovely to some people, but it lacks common sense when one has sexual desires their partner can not fulfill. hard line black and white morality does not work in most cases and leads to a lot of miserable people and dead relationships. If your partner fulfills all your desires, the you are golden and don't need to branch out.

              To answer your other question, it is possible to not ruin what you have with a current GF/Wifel and i fact can make it better. It can cause problems if you are saddled with conventional guilt (the most common issue due to our programming), religious stuff, gay phobia, etc... but if done in a healthy way, safely so she is not put at risk,and so forth, it can work.

              hard line moralists will find what I say appalling. But I feel in the real world, things must operate in context and a person is not healthy if they are oppressing themselves and putting that on their partner due to something being missing. Humans do not handle monogamy well, and it should be addressed in a positive way. Religion has tried to oppress sexuality and demand one man / one woman lifetime monogamy for 2000 years and program all of us to feel bad if we break out of that (Christianity in western culture), and that has been a complete failure.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by bigmtsl View Post
                My suggestion is save yourself a lot of wasted years and money; dump the girlfriend since the escorts are offering what she can't.

                My $0.02 based on wasted years in relationships.
                Relationships offer things that escorts can not so they are worth pursuing for most of us as we need to be fed in more ways than just the physical sex acts. There is a balance somewhere that a man can find where he can have both and be in a great place in life.

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by justvisiting2016 View Post
                  It may be too late now that you are dating and attached; but I made the decision a few years back to tell any girl I started dating that I enjoyed trans women and would continue to do so. Some would be put off, some would be cool with it. I generally found that women under 30 were cool, but the ladies my age were appalled.. lol so I have drifted to staying under 30 since then. As for your situation, since you didn't tell her up front, you will have to consider if you want to keep it a secret or not. I would recommend keeping it in your life because it is not healthy for a relationship if you are oppressing yourself and being unsatisfied with the woman who loves you. If you are fulfilling you other needs you can enjoy what she has to offer and find peace. The whole hard line morality of "you are cheating.. bad!" , sounds lovely to some people, but it lacks common sense when one has sexual desires their partner can not fulfill. hard line black and white morality does not work in most cases and leads to a lot of miserable people and dead relationships. If your partner fulfills all your desires, the you are golden and don't need to branch out.

                  To answer your other question, it is possible to not ruin what you have with a current GF/Wifel and i fact can make it better. It can cause problems if you are saddled with conventional guilt (the most common issue due to our programming), religious stuff, gay phobia, etc... but if done in a healthy way, safely so she is not put at risk,and so forth, it can work.

                  hard line moralists will find what I say appalling. But I feel in the real world, things must operate in context and a person is not healthy if they are oppressing themselves and putting that on their partner due to something being missing. Humans do not handle monogamy well, and it should be addressed in a positive way. Religion has tried to oppress sexuality and demand one man / one woman lifetime monogamy for 2000 years and program all of us to feel bad if we break out of that (Christianity in western culture), and that has been a complete failure.
                  This is great, thank you. Exactly what I?ve been thinking, definitely will be using this advice.

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                  • #10
                    In all seriousness, if you still feel like you need escorts, it sounds like you haven't met the right girl yet. Good luck man.

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                    • #11
                      Have you tried dating a transwoman?

                      You say you need a connection that trans-escorts can't provide... maybe if your girlfriend was Trans you would have everything that you need.... I find sex with a genetic girl to be so unsatisfying... probably 1/10th (if that) so I no longer date GG's.

                      Was married and did the whole hetero thing, but in order to have an orgasm with a Genetic Girl I had to fantasize that I was with a Transwoman... EVERYTIME. - So it was obvious for me, and I won't go back...my sex now, is too fucking awesome in comparison.

                      Good luck

                      again - 2 cents...& pennies are obsolete

                      PS - as a question to the forum.... how are trans women or retired TG-Escorts ever going to marry/date if "converted" men fall back into GG relationships that are unfulfilling

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                      • #12
                        Do you have any trans friends you don't try to sleep with?

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by porpoise_paul View Post
                          Do you have any trans friends you don't try to sleep with?
                          lol

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by alex99 View Post
                            In all seriousness, if you still feel like you need escorts, it sounds like you haven't met the right girl yet. Good luck man.
                            i agree

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