How many of you have friends or family that know you like tgirls?

[marinav2]

I am very curious on this because for myself, at least as far as I know zero people know I like tgirls.

[justvisiting2016]

Everyone knows in my life. I have personal life dated trans women before so I am "out" you could say. People in my life know I love women, CIS or Trans. Its worth being real with everyone. If you lose someone in your life over it, they weren't really worth it to begin with.

Trans women have to face that too. I recently met someone at a lounge and chatted her up and when she called me a few days later to chat one of her first questions was if I am ok going out and doing things or if i will want to hide at home when we spend time together. They have to struggle with being a hidden shame secret when meeting guys in the dating world.

I do, however, empathize with the shame men feel about worrying people will call them gay (which shouldn't be an insult, but still is for most men). I went through that a long time ago as well. It's unfortunate people still do that to one another , but its still very common. My best friend is highly attracted to trans women but is terrified to even get an escort in private. (he never has) He has even joined me for nights out with a trans girlfriend of mine but somehow can't openly admit it to anyone. It's a struggle for sure. Societal conditioning is really hard to break unfortunately.

[secrectlifee]

3 people know. 2 found out by going through my computer... 1 was an ex who asked who is my fav porn star

[marinav2]

3 people know. 2 found out by going through my computer... 1 was an ex who asked who is my fav porn star

That sucks that you have people snooping through your computer. Yeah its an interesting question. I am guessing most guys keep it a secret but I may be wrong.

[jhem]

An old friend told me 14 years ago he was into trans women, and I told him after my first encounter. No one else knows, but anymore I'm indifferent if they do. I'm not ashamed or embarrassed of it.

[travellingtom]

I have been open with my wife, a wonderful woman of many decades, and she is happy that I have found something close to a calling when it comes to my attraction to trans women. We have the most amazing, open friendship. It helps that I have a trans male nephew and have had other trans friends and acquaintances for many years. My wife and I have great discussions about the different personalities (not the sex) of the women I haver met and I have invited some trans gals to join us for dinner or drinks but it has never happened. I see trans women as women but even more as people with their own lives, joys and challenges. There is nothing to hide.

Ironically, the feeling has been there for a long time. After visiting a drag show in San Francisco some 40+ years years, I said to my wife 'If those actors were men, I must be gay. They were beautiful and sexy!" Then some 10 years ago I discovered trans women and the rest is history.

[marinav2]

The fear of being called gay by your friends or family assuming you are gay is an issue for many I presume. Having to educate that it is not gay to like trans girls would be quite difficult as well. Then of course one may say who cares if people think you are gay. Its tricky