Last Post of 2008: For Guys Only

[RoccoGT3]

Imagine that you were with your trans partner, and happened to run into someone you knew and respected; say, a family member, or very close friend. All of a sudden, you've been "outed" as someone who dates/sleeps with "that" kind of person. How would you handle it? What questions do you see as being hard to answer? What scares you about that scenario, if anything? If you had to go through that experience, what would be the hardest part?

That's the part I don't know - and I want you to post, PM or email your thoughts to me. It's something that a lot of people worry about, and I promised I'd write a column about it.

The hardest part would be having to live an honest life.

I don't know why, I guess in some way it's easier to pretend to be what other people want you to be, that way you can avoid the possibility of being ridiculed or rejected. The truth is people are cruel, especially family, the less they know the better.

[Rantsalot]

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The hardest part would be having to live an honest life.

I don't know why, I guess in some way it's easier to pretend to be what other people want you to be, that way you can avoid the possibility of being ridiculed or rejected. The truth is people are cruel, especially family.

I am very lucky then from what others have said to me that I haven't been subject to any cruelty or ridicule by family.

As for the rest......again...don't care what everyone else in society thinks.

[kristopin]

more thoughts about your article.

i'm just wondering how the people that outed someone would feel. it is more likely that they would not know what to say since it would have to be their objection that gets in the way. still it is a valid question and i think the answers will vary in a way that exposes our individual strengths and situations.

i remember the first time i went to Goodhandy's one of the girls and i stepped out for a smoke. i didn't think a second about it. maybe i'm a little ballsier. i have always been a bit of a non-conformist.

i remember reading your article about getting your liscense changed and your description of the people there. i think it would be very interesting to take a 'girl' friend with me to a company christmas dance and dinner and watch the reaction of the people around us. of course the girl would have to know i would support her all the way. she would also require a fair bit of courage.

i think also that the emergence and acceptance of tgirl realtionships will also eventually be common here. it will take a bit of time. but the 'struggle' for equality and social acceptance of tgirls is the same as it has been for mixed racial couples, gays, lesbians and all other groups seeking freedom. those willing to step up and face criticism against social injustice are the brave ones. whoops that may have gotten a bit too philosophical.

cheers all.

[kristopin]

thanks admin

i agree with you that this is an open forum and it is very important that the diversity of ideas, thoughts and opinions continues freely and without fear, however as we all know there are certainly limits when it comes to personal attacks. we all have to abide by our civility towards each other

the diversity of thoughts worded properly helps us all to understand what we are about. as we all know i havent been around very long but i would hope that some of my thoughts have been respected, however i am also open to folks who wish to offer a differnt perspective, if done in a civil fashion. how else can we learn?

cheers chris.

[cameraman]

Imagine that you were with your trans partner, and happened to run into someone you knew and respected; say, a family member, or very close friend. All of a sudden, you've been "outed" as someone who dates/sleeps with "that" kind of person. How would you handle it? What questions do you see as being hard to answer? What scares you about that scenario, if anything? If you had to go through that experience, what would be the hardest part?

That's the part I don't know - and I want you to post, PM or email your thoughts to me. It's something that a lot of people worry about, and I promised I'd write a column about it.


I would think it would be the same as telling friends and family you were gay. Not an easy task. I guess if you were in love it wouldn't matter as much. Many straight people have partners that their friends and families don't like. Life goes on.

I have gay friends that have gone through it and after the initial shock everyone gets over it. If I were to bring home Nikki and introduce her as my trans gf I think I would actually have envious friends. And of course loose some of the "good" friends that I really didn't need anyway.

Have a good holiday Nikki and everyone.......

Hope to see you ALL back after the holidays.