so what does it take to find.....

[Wiseone26]

to find a guy that doesn't just want sex from me??

Or am I just doomed?

[dan_calgary]

to find a guy that doesn't just want sex from me??

Or am I just doomed?

us guys have asked the same type of question,

What does it take for us do get a t-girl to even look at us without expecting $$$,

god i hope we are not doomed Paula, lol

[Wiseone26]

well I don't escort, I let my friends do that. Every guy that has showed interest only wants one thing...sigh! Maybe it is cause of my age? who knows...I know there are guys out there that want more then that. But have yet to find them....

[Rantsalot]

...

Well. Generally speaking when it comes to any relationship I have learned that if both involved truly love each others company and don't place any kind of "conditions" on one another then that helps to build a solid connection.

As to what does it take, I always reply to be yourself. If others can't accept that then forget 'em.

This may not be the answer you're looking for but I had to say something encouraging.

[cobbler]

I think most relationships start out as a simple sexual attraction and that stage runs its course. After the initial hunger is slaked a bit then the intimacy can proceed or not as the case may be. Without some sort of sexual connection it is a friendship. Give it some time and you'll know if they want you or just your ability to get them off.

[Wiseone26]

I think most relationships start out as a simple sexual attraction and that stage runs its course. After the initial hunger is slaked a bit then the intimacy can proceed or not as the case may be. Without some sort of sexual connection it is a friendship. Give it some time and you'll know if they want you or just your ability to get them off.

But why should I waggle my bum at the beginning of a possible relationship. There's more to it, sitting on a bench at the beach, going for walks or just doing non sexual stuff. Spending time with someone isn't always a friendship. Getting to now each other first, likes/dislikes, traits, habits, emotions. Sex doesn't judge that. It's when a guy expects sex after the or during the first date that annoys the hell out of me. If I wanted that I'd just post a personal ad for a random encounter.

[i_love_shemales]

to find a guy that doesn't just want sex from me??

Or am I just doomed?

Remember, not all men are the same.

[shemale_patriciaM]

to find a guy that doesn't just want sex from me??

Or am I just doomed?

Hi Paula...I do not think that you are doomed at all. You are probably just looking at the wrong places. Like for example, having this thread in here would not help you at all because most men here are paying customers. My advice would be to post an ad at a transgendered dating site and state what exactly you are looking for. Let the guys know that you are looking for a longterm relationship and I am pretty sure that you are not dumb enough to fall for their BS's. At your age you probably learned to smell a dog mascarading as a prince. Goodlcuk lady!

[JianGTR]

Isn't this true with most guys; straight, bi, or gay. Its the fact that depending on the place that you meet them. ie a forum that is mostly populated with guys that are looking for transexual sex, or a downtown night club for the transgender. I have to hand it to a lot of you. Finding someone special in a mix of men that only want it part-time or by the hour is draining. I now know that its not just the guys on here that are having this problem of finding that transgender that wants to have a relationship, without the dollar signs or egg timer going.

[kristopin]

have to disagree

I think most relationships start out as a simple sexual attraction and that stage runs its course. After the initial hunger is slaked a bit then the intimacy can proceed or not as the case may be. Without some sort of sexual connection it is a friendship. Give it some time and you'll know if they want you or just your ability to get them off.

sorry i have to disagree here. we all have to just be ourselves. when two people meet irregardless of their sex there is a chemical reaction that takes place in our brains. it seems to start with looking into each others eyes and seeing a certain sparkle that creates a reaction in the head, not the small one. i may be a bit of a romantic but it is how i have lead my life so far. i prefer to know the person a little before i have sex with them. if i just want to get my rocks off my hand can do that.
Paula i think some of us have a common problem. how to meet and how start dating and have that develop into a longer realtionship. i hope we all find it some day. someone to love us for who we are.

[papillion]

relationships

I know a few ex-escorts who found a long-term partner via their former business; 1 advantage to knowing a lot of partners is you have a large talent pool to draw from when it comes time to settling down

I think most relationships start out as a simple sexual attraction and that stage runs its course. After the initial hunger is slaked a bit then the intimacy can proceed or not as the case may be. Without some sort of sexual connection it is a friendship. Give it some time and you'll know if they want you or just your ability to get them off.

[Wiseone26]

I know a few ex-escorts who found a long-term partner via their former business; 1 advantage to knowing a lot of partners is you have a large talent pool to draw from when it comes time to settling down

See it all comes down to sex, the ex-escort would have never met these people if she didn't escort. And yet once again it all comes back to sex passing judgement. My point still stands...

[Wiseone26]

Hi Paula...I do not think that you are doomed at all. You are probably just looking at the wrong places. Like for example, having this thread in here would not help you at all because most men here are paying customers. My advice would be to post an ad at a transgendered dating site and state what exactly you are looking for. Let the guys know that you are looking for a longterm relationship and I am pretty sure that you are not dumb enough to fall for their BS's. At your age you probably learned to smell a dog mascarading as a prince. Goodlcuk lady!

I've tried that a bit, with no luck. Maybe it is my age, my height, maybe cause I don't have double D's or skinny and petite. Maybe cause I don't do the girly girl type look. Sometimes I think guys expectations are too high. Trust me I don't look like a porn star when I wake up in the morning. LOL! Like I said there is some decent guys out there, where I have no idea, most of them seem to have ulterior motives. I'm not bashing men I would never do that.

Maybe I'll just face the reality I'll die alone............

[shemale_patriciaM]

I am sorry to hear that Paula. The reality is that most men are so used to the internet and most of these girls are not even as pretty as they seem on those escort sites. Let's face it, photoshop has been one of the greatest inventions of our time. No offense to all the girls but this is really true. Even the most gorgeous tgirl uses it. So when it come to meeting tgirls, they expect too much not thinking of the fact that girls like youself have more substance because you are not an escort and I think you are a pretty girl and you should take a hard look at yourself and internalized the fact that you are not an escort. You may have not the double DD's that you are talking about but you have your morals and values intact. Beauty is really skin deep. If a guy sees you as a piece of meat then that guy deserves someone Barbie like looking tgirl who just had sex with ten guys at 5 pm. So you deserve more recognition that what you actually give yourself. Hang in there girlfriend...the right man will come.

[kristopin]

i hope note

Maybe I'll just face the reality I'll die alone............

that is just too sad to contemplate, i cntainly hope not.