To Come Out or Not To Come Out

[Ray]

I don't have a lot of friends and I sure don't want to lose the friendship of my best friend, but other than TGirls and those on forums such as this, I don't have anyone I can discuss my passion for TGirls with. So, to come out or not to come out, that is the question. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

[Lani]

Well...



If you value your best friend friendships that much and you have to know his feelings or know his attitudes towards a tgirl and transgender in general or people in an alternative lifestyle and after you have a sense and you think it'll jeopardize your relationships with them, then there's no need for you to divulge the special condition you are into, since it's not like a life threatening ordeal. some people carry their secrets to their grave and sometimes, the adage 'the truth can set you free' doesn't apply in some cases.

Let fate and destiny designed it for you, if they found out by accident or due to events that could happened not within your control, like they saw you and me walking up to a Motel room and kissing as we head upstair, only then that you in most probability have no other course but to disclose to them on why are you with this beautiful but very unique individual.

I don't have a lot of friends and I sure don't want to lose the friendship of my best friend, but other than TGirls and those on forums such as this, I don't have anyone I can discuss my passion for TGirls with. So, to come out or not to come out, that is the question. Any thoughts would be appreciated.

[snoodle]

I've already come out to a few people and will come out to more soon. I don't give a flying fuck anymore what anyone thinks. Most people around me are just a bunch of fucking hypocrites anyways. So if anyone doesn't like it well too bad for them.

[skipps]

If they're truly your friend they'll understand.
Haha, funny you mention that Jen. That exact thing happened to me. A friend of mine was on the computer and he accidentally got into my folder of tgirl pics.
Yeah, it was a little awkward at first, but we had a talk about it everything's cool now. He now works at a porn store and even gives me free tgirl movies
Be open and if he doesn't accept it, he's not a true friend.

[prettyboy]

I have been very open about my sexual tastes for a few years now and I have yet to receive any negative response. A few guys have mentioned that they have looked at Shemale porn with interest.
It is the guys who 'keep it in the closet' that cause 'it' to be in the closet. Until we are able to be open and honest about our sexuality the bigots will continue to shape our lives.
Even the married guys here should consider opening up to your wives. In one of my first posts [many years ago] I suggested a method to do this. When you have just had great sex with your partner and you are lying there all lovingly wet and happy, ask her if she has any unfulfilled sexual desires Inevitably she will ask you the same question, here is your chance to be an open and sensitive guy, tell her of your interest in making out with a TGirl,[ you don't have to admit that you have been visiting Lucy weekly for the past 3 years,] just that you have come across Shemale porn and that it has piqued your interest . You will probably get a better response than you think.
For her it would be the equivalent of her saying to you that she fancies a bit of 'sushi eating' and you know the possibilities that that conjures up.
Fortune favours the brave.

[kristopin]

hard decision

this is a hrad decision if you want it to be. i think that you have to be comfortable with your new found sexuallity before you can make this decision. if you have any hesitation then perhaps you are not ready.

[vangogh]

DON'T, if you don't need to ...

From my own personal experience which I could write pages about, I would not divulge that to anyone, however I'm not married and had I been then I would definitely tell my wife. Since they've found out at work my life has been quite miserable, and in Southern Ontario it is not too hard for the word to travel around.
I must say that both my jobs include a great deal of interaction with the public, therefore it just traveled like wild fire and the stares and the cold shoulders that you get from people whom you worked with for more than 23 years has made it absolutely unbearable. The cat calls and the chatter that constantly went on for the past year, thank God for the strict rules at work where by no acts of bigotry won't go unpunished by management.
On the positive side I have discovered who's been my true friends and accept me the way I am which is kind to the nth degree, and quite diverse.
Never explain to people who don't like you cause they won't believe you!
Never explain to people who like you cause they don't need it!
As far as I'm concerned what turns you on is only your business and needs no explanation. I don't like to go into details about how my co-workers found out but it was by total fluke.
Later I have told my closest friends outside of work about my alternative interest which was a totally bad move, as some of them don't associate with me any longer, but then again that is when you know who your true friends are!
So to summarize DON'T, enjoy it like a personal space that you only know the pleasures of, until this society catches up and loses it's archaic
views.

[Kage]

I would be open about it....In most cases i learned that guys who talk bad about alternative lifestyles lust after tgirls themselves in secret..Not all the time but most time..

[Ray]

Thanks everyone for all the replys. Unfortunately, I am basically in the same place as I was when I made the post. Guess I'll do as I have been doing and keep my mouth shut.

[bramptontop17]

Yes, mention it to your wife. Thats really solid advice. After that you can mention it to your lawyer, who can try to explain it to the judge in family court during your divorce proceedings. Feel free to explain it to your new landlord in your basement apartment after your now ex-wife has possesion of your house. Next up you can explain it to your kids during your weekend visitation. I'm sure everyone will accept and embrace it. Good advice.

[Lani]

Hahahahahhaha!

Yes, mention it to your wife. Thats really solid advice. After that you can mention it to your lawyer, who can try to explain it to the judge in family court during your divorce proceedings. Feel free to explain it to your new landlord in your basement apartment after your now ex-wife has possesion of your house. Next up you can explain it to your kids during your weekend visitation. I'm sure everyone will accept and embrace it. Good advice.

So fucking true!!! LOL! bramptontop17 you're good!

[vangogh]

Ne le dis a personne!

Yes, mention it to your wife. Thats really solid advice. After that you can mention it to your lawyer, who can try to explain it to the judge in family court during your divorce proceedings. Feel free to explain it to your new landlord in your basement apartment after your now ex-wife has possesion of your house. Next up you can explain it to your kids during your weekend visitation. I'm sure everyone will accept and embrace it. Good advice.

Though quite humorous that would be the eventual result by not telling your mate as well.
I did say at the end not to mention it to anyone else if you read my original post. Also ladies intuition is razor sharp and the slightest slip and you're caught going through the lawyer and family court etc.
So again to make my point clear if you're single keep it to yourself, and if married then beware of the much harsher consequences as eventually you'll
feel obliged to divulge your secret.

[prettyboy]

so when the urge grows too strong, or the opportunity arises , we don our dirty raincoats and furtively shuffle off, our heads bowed , to visit 'the lounge' or a prostitutes lair, so that we may wallow in our dirty little secret .
It's a sad world....but it doesn't have to be.

[Rockheart]

I guess I am out to everyone here.
However to people at work etc. I am not really but don't really care that much.
i recent engagement ceremony in Thailand.
So another limb out of the closet, I guess.

I'll invite you all to the wedding if you can find it.

[Lani]

My Best Wishes To Both Of You


Congratulations! and all the best. We all deserve to be happy, coz, it's the purpose of our existence in this world. You made her happy for sure and in return you found yours as well.

I could go to your wedding if you'll invite me, just do it in Changmai, coz, I have a friend there. lol!

HAPPY FOR BOTH OF YOU ( YOU'RE SUCH A PRETTY COUPLE )

I guess I am out to everyone here.
However to people at work etc. I am not really but don't really care that much.
So here is some pics from my recent engagement ceremony in Thailand.
So another limb out of the closet, I guess.

I'll invite you all to the wedding if you can find it.