Got to love your family

[O'C]

Well went to family reunion/slash 2nd wedding Uncle & Aunt re-took vows after 35 years of marriage. So tons of great food and music with a open bar. So pretty much the whole clan made it for the event.

Well I went to party alone and ended up dancing most of the night with my cousin Eddy new girlfriend Lisa [Eddy does not dance and was pretty lit up] as we all sat togather most of the whole night.

So my sweet loving Aunts come over to the table and ask me to introduce them to Lisa. So tell Lisa this is my Aunt Mary, Aunt May and Aunt Lucy.

Aunt Mary starts telling Lisa "you looks so real honey, I would never know the diffrence". Then my Aunt Lucy pipes in "your so pretty darling but I could tell". I jump in all red face into the converation and tells them Lisa not with me, she Eddy girlfriend. There is a long pause and my Aunt May says "I did not know Eddy dates Transsexuals also". Poor Lisa in shock and Eddy laughs so hard his beer is coming out of his nose.

So that's my Valentimes day in a nut shell, so who can beat that one? I love my family, but damn I hate being the talk of the family. First thing in the morning I plan to head back home to the states.


O'C

[tslisaparadise]

Well went to family reunion/slash 2nd wedding Uncle & Aunt re-took vows after 35 years of marriage. So tons of great food and music with a open bar. So pretty much the whole clan made it for the event.

Well I went to party alone and ended up dancing most of the night with my cousin Eddy new girlfriend Lisa [Eddy does not dance and was pretty lit up] as we all sat togather most of the whole night.

So my sweet loving Aunts come over to the table and ask me to introduce them to Lisa. So tell Lisa this is my Aunt Mary, Aunt May and Aunt Lucy.

Aunt Mary starts telling Lisa "you looks so real honey, I would never know the diffrence". Then my Aunt Lucy pipes in "your so pretty darling but I could tell". I jump in all red face into the converation and tells them Lisa not with me, she Eddy girlfriend. There is a long pause and my Aunt May says "I did not know Eddy dates Transsexuals also". Poor Lisa in shock and Eddy laughs so hard his beer is coming out of his nose.

So that's my Valentimes day in a nut shell, so who can beat that one? I love my family, but damn I hate being the talk of the family. First thing in the morning I plan to head back home to the states.


O'C

ROFLMFAO LOL now thats funny lol,ya never invited me bitch

[Ana]

Well went to family reunion/slash 2nd wedding Uncle & Aunt re-took vows after 35 years of marriage. So tons of great food and music with a open bar. So pretty much the whole clan made it for the event.

Well I went to party alone and ended up dancing most of the night with my cousin Eddy new girlfriend Lisa [Eddy does not dance and was pretty lit up] as we all sat togather most of the whole night.

So my sweet loving Aunts come over to the table and ask me to introduce them to Lisa. So tell Lisa this is my Aunt Mary, Aunt May and Aunt Lucy.

Aunt Mary starts telling Lisa "you looks so real honey, I would never know the diffrence". Then my Aunt Lucy pipes in "your so pretty darling but I could tell". I jump in all red face into the converation and tells them Lisa not with me, she Eddy girlfriend. There is a long pause and my Aunt May says "I did not know Eddy dates Transsexuals also". Poor Lisa in shock and Eddy laughs so hard his beer is coming out of his nose.

So that's my Valentimes day in a nut shell, so who can beat that one? I love my family, but damn I hate being the talk of the family. First thing in the morning I plan to head back home to the states.


O'C

LOL That's cute. It does suck being the talk of your family but atleast you're open with them and they care enough to care who your partner is.

ROFLMFAO LOL now thats funny lol,ya never invited me bitch

He never asked you Lisa because I was supposed to be his date and got cold feet and canceled at the last minute lol jk

[O'C]

Lisa-

I was just in your neck of the woods, stayed at the Sheraton Hamilton Hotel for three days and two nights. Enjoyed my stay there and the Hotel pool and fitness center was out of this world fantastic. Would have invited you but on Valentimes day? Thought you would be with your boyfriend and sure you had tons of men waiting in line to spoil you.

Ana-

My family great and treated my ex-girlfriend with respect and kindness after the first shock. They support my choices and love me, so I feel blessed to have so many good people in my life.

Thanks for seeing me and dumping me for another date [sucks to be ugly], how many of us did you have lined up? lol



O'C

[kristopin]

priceless

OC that was cute and priceless.

cheers to families. mine are in for a rude awakening very soon.

but then i was always the non-conformist, they just have forgotten for awhile, like 30 yrs.

[Ana]

Lisa-

I was just in your neck of the woods, stayed at the Sheraton Hamilton Hotel for three days and two nights. Enjoyed my stay there and the Hotel pool and fitness center was out of this world fantastic. Would have invited you but on Valentimes day? Thought you would be with your boyfriend and sure you had tons of men waiting in line to spoil you.

Ana-

My family great and treated my ex-girlfriend with respect and kindness after the first shock. They support my choices and love me, so I feel blessed to have so many good people in my life.

Thanks for seeing me and dumping me for another date [sucks to be ugly], how many of us did you have lined up? lol



O'C

Thats good that your family is so accepting but I can understand how if that truly was your gf it would be very embarrassing for her and yourself lol.... It was cute though!

I am sorry... I actually did nothing on Valentines Day. This guy asked me to do something but expected me to go to him which I think is a little classless. I think if a guy is going to ask you to do something maybe he should grow a pair and come to you? Oh well just my thoughts on it lol...

Ana

[Haley]

Poor Lisa! How inconsiderate! You should have given hell to your aunts. That's the worse thing that can happen to a woman like her. How horrible.

[O'C]

Haley,

After the embarrassment was over, I was sort of proud of my Aunts. They cared and loved me so much. That they took the time to came over to introduce themselves. To someone that they might not be comfertable with. [rememember they are from a diffrent generation then us]

Just because I want the whole world to except my decision to date t-girls, does not mean they have to Haley. How many people would have just gawked at the situation? Or whispered behind people backs or make rude comments?

To me the three older women showed me they have a good heart and reached out, to try and make someone feel comfertable at a family get togather. There intentions where good Haley, so I did not give them hell but I did give them each a big hug.


O'C

[Wiseone26]

To me the three older women showed me they have a good heart and reached out, to try and make someone feel comfertable at a family get togather. There intentions where good Haley, so I did not give them hell but I did give them each a big hug.


O'C

beautiful!

[Haley]

Haley,

After the embarrassment was over, I was sort of proud of my Aunts. They cared and loved me so much. That they took the time to came over to introduce themselves. To someone that they might not be comfertable with. [rememember they are from a diffrent generation then us]

Just because I want the whole world to except my decision to date t-girls, does not mean they have to Haley. How many people would have just gawked at the situation? Or whispered behind people backs or make rude comments?

To me the three older women showed me they have a good heart and reached out, to try and make someone feel comfertable at a family get togather. There intentions where good Haley, so I did not give them hell but I did give them each a big hug.


O'C

You're missing my point. By publicly acknowledging someone as trans does more harm than good. (Unless that person wants to be known as trans, like Barbie does.) The who point of transition is to be the person we really are and hopefully to do so without anyone knowing. Afterall, why would we fight so hard to be the women we really are only to be labelled "trans" for the rest of our lives? It's an insult to our identities as women, and for someone to point it out is akin to making fun of someone for their medical condition. It's a horrible thing. It's like pointing and staring at a burn victim.

[Haley]

Haley,

After the embarrassment was over, I was sort of proud of my Aunts. They cared and loved me so much. That they took the time to came over to introduce themselves. To someone that they might not be comfertable with. [rememember they are from a diffrent generation then us]

Just because I want the whole world to except my decision to date t-girls, does not mean they have to Haley. How many people would have just gawked at the situation? Or whispered behind people backs or make rude comments?

To me the three older women showed me they have a good heart and reached out, to try and make someone feel comfertable at a family get togather. There intentions where good Haley, so I did not give them hell but I did give them each a big hug.


O'C

You're missing my point. By publicly acknowledging someone as trans does more harm than good. (Unless that person wants to be known as trans, like Barbie does.) The whole point of transition is to be the person we really are and hopefully to do so without anyone knowing. Afterall, why would we fight so hard to be the women we really are only to be labelled "trans" for the rest of our lives? It's an insult to our identities as women, and for someone to point it out is akin to making fun of someone for their medical condition. It's a horrible thing. It's like pointing and staring at a burn victim.

[toban]

Hmmm, That is a very interesting point of view Haley! I'd never have thought about it in that way. My first thought was "Congrats to the old girls for doing that!"

You're missing my point. By publicly acknowledging someone as trans does more harm than good. (Unless that person wants to be known as trans, like Barbie does.) The whole point of transition is to be the person we really are and hopefully to do so without anyone knowing. Afterall, why would we fight so hard to be the women we really are only to be labelled "trans" for the rest of our lives? It's an insult to our identities as women, and for someone to point it out is akin to making fun of someone for their medical condition. It's a horrible thing. It's like pointing and staring at a burn victim.

[Wiseone26]

In most cases making a transition is a personal CHOICE, you chose and planned to do what you did. It may be a medical condition but it is a mental one and not an urgent medical injury.
To compare yourself to a burn victim is a very bad analogy, they did not choose to become burned usually and do not plan or know what will become of them.

You are also assuming that people can't always tell.
In fact people figure it out many times, no matter how passable a trans may be.

In fact it is probably better to get it out than have a lot of gawkers and whisperers, even if one does want to live fully as a women.

Many people know nothing of the condition and are amused and/or intimidated.
In a relationship it is the decisions of 2 people, not just one.
Each has to pick what is best for themselves with respect to the other.

Society is vicious for sure, if something pushes them out of their comfort zones they get defensive. Then they lash out, bash, hate etc...Many girls want to go stealth, good for them. Very risky, most of them are the younger transitioners so it is easier. For me education was key for the longest time. I was openly trans for awhile, some called me a CD/TV so I ended up correcting them and in short explaining to them the difference. I grew tired of that, now I don't do that. If I get tag'd as trans whatever, it happens, I ain't some cute 20 y/o that is more passable. Sure getting stared at on the bus or walking down the street makes me uncomfortable. I've learnt just to throw a smile at them.

Oh joy I'm rambling on without and caffiene in my system......

[O'C]

Haley, you want the whole world to take you as a women and think of your condition as a medical one? The truth is this, to SOME people you will always just be a t-girl. No amout of surgery and make up will ever change that.

I was happy my Aunts took tiny steps forward. You want them to understand that this as a medical condition for you? You want them to run before they even learn to walk? Trust me in there generation, they where taught it's a medical condition all right. Of course they called it a mental illness at the time also. [sad but true]

You want Barbie to be put in one box and you in another box, sorry but to some people that is never going to happen. Here some links that some people might enjoy reading.


O'C



http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/TScauses.html

http://www.joanneherman.com/Trans_10...diagnosis.html

http://www.tsroadmap.com/info/anne-lawrence.html

http://www.genderpsychology.org/psychology/index.html

http://www.caritig.org/en/faq/index.html

[Wiseone26]

Haley, you want the whole world to take you as a women and think of your condition as a medical one? The truth is this, to SOME people you will always just be a t-girl. No amout of surgery and make up will ever change that.

I was happy my Aunts took tiny steps forward. You want them to understand that this as a medical condition for you? You want them to run before they even learn to walk? Trust me in there generation, they where taught it's a medical condition all right. Of course they called it a mental illness at the time also. [sad but true]

You want Barbie to be put in one box and you in another box, sorry but to some people that is never going to happen. Here some links that some people might enjoy reading.


O'C



http://ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TS/TScauses.html

http://www.joanneherman.com/Trans_10...diagnosis.html

http://www.tsroadmap.com/info/anne-lawrence.html

http://www.genderpsychology.org/psychology/index.html

http://www.caritig.org/en/faq/index.html

Regardless of our gender, age, creed etc... we are all human beings and should be treated the same way. One thing that is annoying is the whole pedestal type attitude. Sure some of us have better jobs, or better educations or whatever, but we all bleed when we are cut.