Has Anyone ever had a steady T-Girl girlfriend?

[downer]

Wondering if it is even possible or reasonable to try to establish a relationship with a T-girl...any thoughts fellows?

[tlover]

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Wondering if it is even possible or reasonable to try to establish a relationship with a T-girl...any thoughts fellows?

I don't see why not, afterall have been living as a female; they just have a little something extra from the biological females. Some more than a "little".

[angus]

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Here's my thoughts; of course it's possible,people get together from all walks of life every day.However,if you meet someone in the industry,understand that's what they do,can you live with that.That's where the real relationship test is,some guys can handle it,some can't.You can't expect a girl to give up her job for you.
  If you meet a tgirl through "regular" everyday activity,one that's not escorting,why would it be any different than striking up a relationship with a genetic girl(assuming you know she's a tgirl).If you hit it off and are mutually attracted...

[flick]

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Having a t-girl for a girlfriend is just like a regular 'gg' as a girlfriend, they act, smell, look like a girl, so my question back is 'Why not?'. Having said that, however, is can you overcome your own mental obstacle of having to bring your T-girl squeeze to a social event and have your close friends and family members question your sexual orientation? I remember bringing a t-girl friend to get together once and they all questioned me about her afterwards. I'm not attracted to men, never have, never will, but the fact is, I was stupid to have the mental barrier blocked me from the relationship blossoming into something bigger (ahh, the trials and tribulations in life when you are young). Now that I reflect upon my years gone by, I should've at least tried it and say 'yes' she was born a man, but is really all women inside, I love her, nuff said.

[tlover]

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I should've at least tried it and say 'yes' she was born a man, but is really all women inside, I love her, nuff said. 

Good point Flick.

Too often we let what others will think of us or our choices drive our decisions rather than thinking what is good for the two of us as friends/lovers/partners and we end up missing out on what quite possibly could have been the best thing. And yes many years down the road you think back and kick yourself for that decision but unfortunately we can't change the past.

[fany33]

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In my point of view, it is verry possible to have a long term relationship with a t-girl. I am saying so because i am TS and i am in a relationship for a year now.

I belive, Flick and Angus point out verry releveant information about it! Such as being able to overcome youre fears for other judging you on the ''type'' of girl you are dating. Like we t-girl had to face our fears of judgement to start being our true self. I think guys who like T-girlz have to go just tru the same dillema in order to have a long and fullfiling relationship with a T-girl soulmate. My actual BF he is confortable with me everywhere but he still dont want me to meets his parents... I have to say that this really start to get on my nerves. And i do pass verry well but he is still scared.

Being proud of who we are and stand up for ourselves i think is a must for everyone and will greatly help one reach a better sense of fullfillment, joy and happyness than any other approch in life.

Also about being comercial, in that context, for sure a relationship will be more tricky. this is true for t-girl and Genetic girl as well. So the idea, if you search for a long and lasting relationship with a t-girl, dont search for ''the one'' in the escort directory or within the girls working the street... thats a bad start i think for steady relationship.

I have been a stripper before i transition (wile i was still a boy) . Dating a client is never about genuine feelings, its all a game. there was a line that devided my personal life, and my work. I think this is why it cannot work if you meet someone in this context.

When i was ''boy'' i didnt really care because, it wasnt me. So my life had no real meaning. Now that i am Fanny 24/7 , things are a lot different and i care about my life and about what choices i do because i ceased to play a game. For that i had to face everyone i know and say how i felt inside and who i really was and how i was going to live my life from now on regardless of what they may think as acceptable.

I did lost some ''friends'' and find other friends that like me for who i am. now i am a great deal more happy, and life make sence to me finally.

I am not commercial as Fanny, like i was before when i was being a boy. I belive this is also why i got to live a stady relationship.

And of course there is stuff that wont work sometimes when being in a relationship but its not related to being a TS . Its just that all couples gets it as a general rule.

Anyways. i am writing too long i know. hope i didnt tired you reading.

take care. xoxo *FanNy*

[angus]

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Good post,and welcome fany33.Nice to have you aboard.

[smoosh]

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if that's a picture of yourself in the avatar fany... you're right about being cute, hope it all works out for you and don't worry sooner or later you will meet his parents, and if that doesn't work you can meet mine if you want

[smoosh]

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don't lose that ass honey, you've been working on it for your whole life and it would be sad to see it go now

[Wob_m]

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Hello All.

I'm a newbie here, and this is the first time I have posted.  Anyways, I did live with a T-Girl for a few months, and it didn't work for us because I couldn't handle that she was working (I guess I should have said no incalls).  I agree that the 2 big obstacles are that (if she's working) and having the respect for her to be willing to make her a welcome part of your entire life, not a secret.  It's been 2 years since I've seen her, and I've lost touch with her.  I know she's not working anymore and hope she is alright.  It didn't work out, but I will always love her.

[ps911fan]

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I belive, Flick and Angus point out verry releveant information about it! Such as being able to overcome youre fears for other judging you on the ''type'' of girl you are dating. Like we t-girl had to face our fears of judgement to start being our true self. I think guys who like T-girlz have to go just tru the same dillema in order to have a long and fullfiling relationship with a T-girl soulmate. My actual BF he is confortable with me everywhere but he still dont want me to meets his parents... I have to say that this really start to get on my nerves. And i do pass verry well but he is still scared.
When i was ''boy'' i didnt really care because, it wasnt me. So my life had no real meaning. Now that i am Fanny 24/7 , things are a lot different and i care about my life and about what choices i do because i ceased to play a game. For that i had to face everyone i know and say how i felt inside and who i really was and how i was going to live my life from now on regardless of what they may think as acceptable.

I did lost some ''friends'' and find other friends that like me for who i am. now i am a great deal more happy, and life make sence to me finally.

Fanny, as a person who only dates or in a relationship with Transgender women, Id like to say that its certainly helpful to have a wonderful, fulfilling relationship with a person. If the person is willing to accept you for who you are 100% no matter what, then you shouldn't have a problem. If you think about it, that person wants you to accept him for who he is.....100%. You should never have to settle. Ive had 2 very good relationships, both live-in LTR with transgender women. No matter what I learned over time about each of the girls i was with, the next person im willing to enter a relationship with will have very distinct and different requirements for her happiness. The guy must be willing to listen and learn....because each and every girl that goes about the path of discovering their true gender is very different. That means the guy can't use any lines or a "style" of meeting and keeping a healthy relationship with a particular girl. Flick had a good post and i agree with him. I would never date a man ...i prefer to be with a transgender person for my own reasons....those reasons dont have to be justfied or explained to anyone. If anybody wants to know about you and you want to share it, it should come from you. My place should not be to reveal any detail you don't want aired out to the public. I also think that the girl should never be treated as some secret...either you are with some body or not...if you can go to a club....you can take her to dinner in a respectable environment...if you really care about the person, then you can be with them anywhere. My ex (first one) i think really was shocked to see that she wasn't going to be hidden to my family, friends, etc. We spent five long wonderful years that i wish had never ended. My second ex was a much shorter relationship due to the fact that she wanted to finance certain surgeries via escorting....regarding that, I don't think you can have a serious relationship with a girl who escorts...(im not judging the reasons or the desire to do so by any means)....i have dated or stayed friends with girls that do that but you can't build a real relationship (I won't go through all the reasons but its a huge drain on both people for various reasons - we are all adults here and we all know why its tough to have escorting wrapped into to two people trying to have a relationship) Again, that doesn't mean you can't be friends or date her casually to me....everyone needs someone to hang with and have good company fun or intimacy (not sex, intimacy)

I also think the chances of building a relationship come to issues of trust....most of the guys who sincerely want to be with a trangender person must build appopriate trust....we allknow how a majority of guys have worn down the patience of the girls....from stupid comment asking about penis length to not being honest with them about their intentions....the girls probably rightly do not initially trust a guy who claims to want a relationship....so its super important that the guy build a good foundation of trust with his honest intentions...that to me is a key for being able to keep the relationship working and long lasting... but girls have to be willing to accept when a guy is doing it....and not bring down past frustrations or bad experiences on the guy who is really trying to do the proper things in a relationship. I don't mind as the guy having the larger part of this challenge....if the girl is someone you care about...isn't it worth the extra effort to gain her trust?

I don't think i meant to make such a long post...but i was glad to see this question posted...i think there are many guys like me who want exactly what Fanny wants...i enjoy when im lucky enough to find a trangendered woman that i am able to have a relationship with...im patient as I look....its happened to me twice...and i know it will happen again...guys just treat the girl right when you do enter the relationship and girls please know that there are many out there for you....all guys are not just seeking a quickie....and a good bye....please give the good intentioned ones a chance...it may pay off for both of you if trust first, romance second..

and Fanny....bonne chance with the person you are with....hope it lasts as long as you want it to......

[ps911fan]

Re: Has Anyone ever had a steady T-Girl girlfriend?

I belive, Flick and Angus point out verry releveant information about it! Such as being able to overcome youre fears for other judging you on the ''type'' of girl you are dating. Like we t-girl had to face our fears of judgement to start being our true self. I think guys who like T-girlz have to go just tru the same dillema in order to have a long and fullfiling relationship with a T-girl soulmate. My actual BF he is confortable with me everywhere but he still dont want me to meets his parents... I have to say that this really start to get on my nerves. And i do pass verry well but he is still scared.
When i was ''boy'' i didnt really care because, it wasnt me. So my life had no real meaning. Now that i am Fanny 24/7 , things are a lot different and i care about my life and about what choices i do because i ceased to play a game. For that i had to face everyone i know and say how i felt inside and who i really was and how i was going to live my life from now on regardless of what they may think as acceptable.

I did lost some ''friends'' and find other friends that like me for who i am. now i am a great deal more happy, and life make sence to me finally.

Fanny, as a person who only dates or in a relationship with Transgender women, Id like to say that its certainly helpful to have a wonderful, fulfilling relationship with a person. If the person is willing to accept you for who you are 100% no matter what, then you shouldn't have a problem. If you think about it, that person wants you to accept him for who he is.....100%. You should never have to settle. Ive had 2 very good relationships, both live-in LTR with transgender women. No matter what I learned over time about each of the girls i was with, the next person im willing to enter a relationship with will have very distinct and different requirements for her happiness. The guy must be willing to listen and learn....because each and every girl that goes about the path of discovering their true gender is very different. That means the guy can't use any lines or a "style" of meeting and keeping a healthy relationship with a particular girl. Flick had a good post and i agree with him. I would never date a man ...i prefer to be with a transgender person for my own reasons....those reasons dont have to be justfied or explained to anyone. If anybody wants to know about you and you want to share it, it should come from you. My place should not be to reveal any detail you don't want aired out to the public. I also think that the girl should never be treated as some secret...either you are with some body or not...if you can go to a club....you can take her to dinner in a respectable environment...if you really care about the person, then you can be with them anywhere. My ex (first one) i think really was shocked to see that she wasn't going to be hidden to my family, friends, etc. We spent five long wonderful years that i wish had never ended. My second ex was a much shorter relationship due to the fact that she wanted to finance certain surgeries via escorting....regarding that, I don't think you can have a serious relationship with a girl who escorts...(im not judging the reasons or the desire to do so by any means)....i have dated or stayed friends with girls that do that but you can't build a real relationship (I won't go through all the reasons but its a huge drain on both people for various reasons - we are all adults here and we all know why its tough to have escorting wrapped into to two people trying to have a relationship) Again, that doesn't mean you can't be friends or date her casually to me....everyone needs someone to hang with and have good company fun or intimacy (not sex, intimacy)

I also think the chances of building a relationship come to issues of trust....most of the guys who sincerely want to be with a trangender person must build appopriate trust....we allknow how a majority of guys have worn down the patience of the girls....from stupid comment asking about penis length to not being honest with them about their intentions....the girls probably rightly do not initially trust a guy who claims to want a relationship....so its super important that the guy build a good foundation of trust with his honest intentions...that to me is a key for being able to keep the relationship working and long lasting... but girls have to be willing to accept when a guy is doing it....and not bring down past frustrations or bad experiences on the guy who is really trying to do the proper things in a relationship. I don't mind as the guy having the larger part of this challenge....if the girl is someone you care about...isn't it worth the extra effort to gain her trust?

I don't think i meant to make such a long post...but i was glad to see this question posted...i think there are many guys like me who want exactly what Fanny wants...i enjoy when im lucky enough to find a trangendered woman that i am able to have a relationship with...im patient as I look....its happened to me twice...and i know it will happen again...guys just treat the girl right when you do enter the relationship and girls please know that there are many out there for you....all guys are not just seeking a quickie....and a good bye....please give the good intentioned ones a chance...it may pay off for both of you if trust first, romance second..

and Fanny....bonne chance with the person you are with....hope it lasts as long as you want it to......

if you are looking for someone..there is a good site: tgpersonals.com....seems a bit more sincere than the pay sites

[ps911fan]

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Thought this was going to be a more extensive discussion but i guess for the moment no new comments.....id love to see other peoples experiences and post of their thoughts.......hope to see more reactions soon

[fany33]

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hello again, been a while. Yes my picture is in the avatar. i tought the system resized them but it looks like it doe not.

I dont have anything else to say about the topic of this tread, just replying to answer. I agree with you ps911fan on your post. I like youre attitude.

and thanks to Angus, I am glad to be here, even if i didnt post on any other topic yet. This one just cought up my attention. I am pretty busy lately. But i will try to post a bit more

you all take care. xoxo Fany.

[angus]

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Glad to see you're still around, I hope being busy means you're doing well, and fany,that is a cute pic.