Discretion assurred ??

[Foreskin]

Lets debate what the word "DISCREET" or "DISCRETION ASSURED" means to everyone in the context of a TS, her customer and services rendered.  Bare in mind that for some of us our encounter(s) have been a chain of circumstances or opportunitic moment, to others a curious itch needing scratching and to some perhaps an infactuation. But try to remember we are not all out of the closet just yet, and some of us never will be!

My take on it would be that my activity with any TS I have employed is expected to remain confidential in the strictest sense possible.

Any other peole have an opinion. May we hear from some of the pro(s) on this topic and what it means to them.

[Lacey]

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I'm surprised this topic hasn't come up before now.  It's certainly an interesting one and I would hope that the word "discretion" isn't too open to interpretation.  As for myself, I do everything I can to assure my client's discretion.  I don't discuss details about my dates with anyone else and I don't leave phone messages for them unless they've specifically asked me to.  For outcalls, I try to dress discretely, often wearing a long overcoat in the Winter or "conservative" clothes in Summer - so that it doesn't actually look like I'm making an outcall.  For incalls, I try to provide a place that doesn't scream "hooker here!"  (Geez, I hate that word!)  Discretion is probably the most important thing we can provide for our clients - it goes a long way to making them feel comfortable and secure - two things that are important for a good date experience. 

There's my two cents!
xoxoxo...Lacey   

[smoosh]

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worth way more than that lacey

[tlover]

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Very well said Lacey, I think you've covered all parts of "discetion".

[Foreskin]

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Very well said Lacey, I think you've covered all parts of "discetion".

Yes, thanks for the company line, your a good P.R. representative Lacey Love.......however what is thought of someone that would violate that Discretion implied.......Any company line for that and if this were true what is one left to do for such a sacred violation of a clients right!  When does a client over step the invisible boundaries that warrant a violation of the implied and coveted phrase "Discretion Assured"

[smoosh]

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Very well said Lacey, I think you've covered all parts of "discetion".

Yes, thanks for the company line, your a good P.R. representative Lacey Love.......however what is thought of someone that would violate that Discretion implied.......Any company line for that and if this were true what is one left to do for such a sacred violation of a clients right!  When does a client over step the invisible boundaries that warrant a violation of the implied and coveted phrase "Discretion Assured"

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[Lacey]

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I'm with you on that one Smoosh.  I didn't understand much of what you wrote ByeBye.  I'm not even sure I know what you mean by "company line."  Are you asking about who the onus is on regarding maintaining discretion, or what the liabilities are if the level of discretion isn't to your satisfaction?  I don't speak for all other escorts, so I'm not sure it's fair to label me with the term "PR Representative.  Besides isn't P.R. the thing we're trying to avoid - public relations.  Unless we're redefining P.R. as "private relations."  I was simply stating my opinion on "discretion" because you asked for a "pro's opinion."   

[animuszaphodius]

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I like your avatar Lacey, it's very "discreet".

[Foreskin]

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Very well said Lacey, I think you've covered all parts of "discetion".

Yes, thanks for the company line, your a good P.R. representative Lacey Love.......however what is thought of someone that would violate that Discretion implied.......Any company line for that and if this were true what is one left to do for such a sacred violation of a clients right!  When does a client over step the invisible boundaries that warrant a violation of the implied and coveted phrase "Discretion Assured"

I was speaking with my tongue in cheek sort of to say........clarifying myself a little cause I agree it is confusing (was deep into a bottle of vodka at the time) what would be grounds for breaking your discrection?

[Pat]

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I'm surprised this topic hasn't come up before now.  It's certainly an interesting one and I would hope that the word "discretion" isn't too open to interpretation.  As for myself, I do everything I can to assure my client's discretion.  I don't discuss details about my dates with anyone else and I don't leave phone messages for them unless they've specifically asked me to.  For outcalls, I try to dress discretely, often wearing a long overcoat in the Winter or "conservative" clothes in Summer - so that it doesn't actually look like I'm making an outcall.  For incalls, I try to provide a place that doesn't scream "hooker here!"  (Geez, I hate that word!)  Discretion is probably the most important thing we can provide for our clients - it goes a long way to making them feel comfortable and secure - two things that are important for a good date experience. 

There's my two cents!
xoxoxo...Lacey   


Lacey,
        I appreciate your candor but would be interested in asking you whether or not you discuss clients with other tgirls that you know or come in contact with?

While it might not be an unreasonable expectation from an SP's perspective, it can be very discomforting for a client that values their privacy. I would agree, that bad dates should be shared among the community for everyones sake, but for clients that behave themselves, I believe that their privacy should be respected at all costs.

I do not believe this is the case whatsoever, especially in Toronto and in particular with many, but not all of the asian tgirls. It seems to be very competitive environment in Toronto and there is in my opinion a tremendous amount of jealousy and rivalry among the girls.

I myself, have been subjected to it and it has caused me more than a bit of discomfort but what the gurls seem to forget is that because they lack the respect for thier clients privacy, the end result is that they lose business they might have otherwise enjoyed, at least in my opinion.

[Lacey]

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ByeBye, I guess I've been fortunate in that I've never had a situation where I've felt the need to forego discretion.  The only situation I could see where I would forego discretion is if someone had tried to physically harm me.  Other than that, I can't think of any reason why any personal information should be disclosed to anyone else.  I've been with some prominent people and the last thing I want is my name in the news.  I understand the need for discretion because it's just as important to me as well.  Part of my livelihood is based on ensuring that my dates never have to worry about "being known."

xoxoxo...Lacey   


I was speaking with my tongue in cheek sort of to say........clarifying myself a little cause I agree it is confusing (was deep into a bottle of vodka at the time) what would be grounds for breaking your discrection?

[Lacey]

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Hi Pat,
No, I don't discuss clients with other gurls I know - mostly because I don't really know many!  I really only know Lisa because we've worked together before and what I disclose to her about clients are things that they are interested in exploring during our date - but no personal information.  I don't understand what purpose it would serve to disclose info about my dates.  Like you said, I think that only has negative consequences for my business. 

I'm sorry that you had a bad experience with your privacy.  Maybe it's because I'm in Ottawa, but I don't understand the competition/jealousy between gurls.  Different people have different tastes.  How could I compete for someone's dollar if they have a predisposition for black or caucasian gurls?  Isn't it simply a matter of personal preference?  There's only so much I can do - treat them with respect, cater to their fantasies, roleplaying, whatever.  It won't make any difference what I do, if they don't like Oriental gurls.

I didn't realize that Asian gurls were such blabber-mouths!  Hopefully, you're not lumping me in with them  

xoxoxo...Lacey


Lacey,
        I appreciate your candor but would be interested in asking you whether or not you discuss clients with other tgirls that you know or come in contact with?

While it might not be an unreasonable expectation from an SP's perspective, it can be very discomforting for a client that values their privacy. I would agree, that bad dates should be shared among the community for everyones sake, but for clients that behave themselves, I believe that their privacy should be respected at all costs.

I do not believe this is the case whatsoever, especially in Toronto and in particular with many, but not all of the asian tgirls. It seems to be very competitive environment in Toronto and there is in my opinion a tremendous amount of jealousy and rivalry among the girls.

I myself, have been subjected to it and it has caused me more than a bit of discomfort but what the gurls seem to forget is that because they lack the respect for thier clients privacy, the end result is that they lose business they might have otherwise enjoyed, at least in my opinion.

[Foreskin]

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I'm surprised this topic hasn't come up before now.  It's certainly an interesting one and I would hope that the word "discretion" isn't too open to interpretation.  As for myself, I do everything I can to assure my client's discretion.  I don't discuss details about my dates with anyone else and I don't leave phone messages for them unless they've specifically asked me to.  For outcalls, I try to dress discretely, often wearing a long overcoat in the Winter or "conservative" clothes in Summer - so that it doesn't actually look like I'm making an outcall.  For incalls, I try to provide a place that doesn't scream "hooker here!"  (Geez, I hate that word!)  Discretion is probably the most important thing we can provide for our clients - it goes a long way to making them feel comfortable and secure - two things that are important for a good date experience. 

There's my two cents!
xoxoxo...Lacey   


Lacey,
        I appreciate your candor but would be interested in asking you whether or not you discuss clients with other tgirls that you know or come in contact with?

While it might not be an unreasonable expectation from an SP's perspective, it can be very discomforting for a client that values their privacy. I would agree, that bad dates should be shared among the community for everyones sake, but for clients that behave themselves, I believe that their privacy should be respected at all costs.

I do not believe this is the case whatsoever, especially in Toronto and in particular with many, but not all of the asian tgirls. It seems to be very competitive environment in Toronto and there is in my opinion a tremendous amount of jealousy and rivalry among the girls.

I myself, have been subjected to it and it has caused me more than a bit of discomfort but what the gurls seem to forget is that because they lack the respect for thier clients privacy, the end result is that they lose business they might have otherwise enjoyed, at least in my opinion.

Well said an exactly what I are my thoughts, so thank you Pat.

I agree unless a client has violated a sex worker physically the discretion factor in all these types of meetings are paramount.....I too have been placed under a microscope at one point in my life because of a big mouthed TS. It was not a comfortable feeling and I ended having to quit a very very good paying job (6 figures) and find another that has never matched the potential earning income of the one I was forced to leave. I just was not going to be going any higher as a result of this unjustified vindicative behaviour on the part of one TS I visited ONE time. All I can say is it happens folks..........I am living proof of it

I will not reveal which one it was, she knows who I am talking about all I can say is that in life if I have learned one thing it is that all that goes round comes round.

[Pat]

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Lacey,
        It is obvious to me, that you understand the value proposition and in fact that you were able to articulate such an appropriate reply, indicates that you are no doubt a successful businesswoman in your chosen profession.

For that, I applaud your code of ethics and just for the record "No, I certainly do not lump you in that group".

At the end of the day, we all have to earn a living and while you may have less competition in the Ottawa area, it is indicative by the number of participants in this forum who appreciate transgendered women that there are many business opportunities for Tgirl services.

While it is totally unfair to all the Asain Tgirls in Toronto to be tarred with the same brush, I believe that the gals that do not exercise discretion are not as successful as those that do and have more respect for their clients.

Respect begets respect in my opinion and is no doubt, good for business.

Pat

Hi Pat,
No, I don't discuss clients with other gurls I know - mostly because I don't really know many!  I really only know Lisa because we've worked together before and what I disclose to her about clients are things that they are interested in exploring during our date - but no personal information.  I don't understand what purpose it would serve to disclose info about my dates.  Like you said, I think that only has negative consequences for my business. 

I'm sorry that you had a bad experience with your privacy.  Maybe it's because I'm in Ottawa, but I don't understand the competition/jealousy between gurls.  Different people have different tastes.  How could I compete for someone's dollar if they have a predisposition for black or caucasian gurls?  Isn't it simply a matter of personal preference?  There's only so much I can do - treat them with respect, cater to their fantasies, roleplaying, whatever.  It won't make any difference what I do, if they don't like Oriental gurls.

I didn't realize that Asian gurls were such blabber-mouths!  Hopefully, you're not lumping me in with them  

xoxoxo...Lacey


Lacey,
        I appreciate your candor but would be interested in asking you whether or not you discuss clients with other tgirls that you know or come in contact with?

While it might not be an unreasonable expectation from an SP's perspective, it can be very discomforting for a client that values their privacy. I would agree, that bad dates should be shared among the community for everyones sake, but for clients that behave themselves, I believe that their privacy should be respected at all costs.

I do not believe this is the case whatsoever, especially in Toronto and in particular with many, but not all of the asian tgirls. It seems to be very competitive environment in Toronto and there is in my opinion a tremendous amount of jealousy and rivalry among the girls.

I myself, have been subjected to it and it has caused me more than a bit of discomfort but what the gurls seem to forget is that because they lack the respect for thier clients privacy, the end result is that they lose business they might have otherwise enjoyed, at least in my opinion.

[D-town]

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hwy dont you two get a room...