Afraid...

[Tonia Lee]

Hi, everybody.
I have a problem and really don't know what to do. If you know me well enough, you probably know that several months back I was hurt in my home by a stranger. Well, as of late there has been some activity just outside of my home. This guy keeps coming to my block to look inside of my window. I have a rather large kitchen window, the house is Victorian and old as hell. The blinds had busted and won't work so I took them down. I figured who the hell would be out on this block at such late hours. Obviously, I didn't take into account this pervert.
I can get some curtains in the morning, that ain't a problem but this guy may get frustrated or whatever. After going through what happened to me, I'm deeply afraid of stuff like this.
This makes me afraid to be in my home or go out.
I thought about calling the cops.
What do I do?

[Horizon1]

Open the window and yell to Einstein that he's creeping you out

[Tonia Lee]

open the window and yell to einstein that he's creeping you out

rofl

[Barbie_Swallows]

Hi, everybody.
I have a problem and really don't know what to do. If you know me well enough, you probably know that several months back I was hurt in my home by a stranger. Well, as of late there has been some activity just outside of my home. This guy keeps coming to my block to look inside of my window. I have a rather large kitchen window, the house is Victorian and old as hell. The blinds had busted and won't work so I took them down. I figured who the hell would be out on this block at such late hours. Obviously, I didn't take into account this pervert.
I can get some curtains in the morning, that ain't a problem but this guy may get frustrated or whatever. After going through what happened to me, I'm deeply afraid of stuff like this.
This makes me afraid to be in my home or go out.
I thought about calling the cops.
What do I do?

Excuse me ... but are u trying to be the next barbie swallows or something, or trying to steal my spot light on tgirlforums.com ? Cause it seems like ur copying my style of writing of taste on here. I posted a story a few weeks ago about having a stalker, and now ur making a story similar to mines, wow. I guess if i was at ur age,, i would probally try my hardest to be young and youthfull and try my hardest to get recongnition. God bless u my lost tranny child. lol

[maddplotter]

I hope you are just joking Barbie because this sounds very creepy and dangerous for Tonia. Making up stories just to get attention, well that's just stupid. Back to the topic, maybe you can start with capturing this guy on photo or video and securing your place of residence?

[mand]

call the police and ask for advice or get the fuck out of there

[cheeks81]

Definitely notify the authorities. Also if there is someone you could stay with for a few days, or that could stay with you that might also be helpful.

[toban]

Things that might help.

Hi, everybody.
I have a problem and really don't know what to do. . . . . . . . This guy keeps coming to my block to look inside of my window. I have a rather large kitchen window, . . . . . . . . . The blinds had busted and won't work so I took them down. . . . . . . . . I can get some curtains in the morning, that ain't a problem but this guy may get frustrated or whatever. After going through what happened to me, I'm deeply afraid of stuff like this.
This makes me afraid to be in my home or go out.
I thought about calling the cops.
What do I do?

Tonia, are the pictures of yourself posted here taken in your kitchen with the big windows? I suspect they are, so then while you are putting on a show for the camera you leave yourself wide open to the public and so now this "peeper" knows how to take advantage of your free show.

1. - Block the view into your kitchen. Buy a new blind or hang a bedsheet or towels over the window to block his view. Maybe he just can't afford the computer to watch you on-line.

2. - Have you actually seen this guy? Write down everything you see to describe his appearance, clothing, the time you notice each incident. Does he show up at predictable times? Can you possibly get a picture of him?

3. - Call the police! Only after you have some specifics which will help them to identify him will they be able to assist properly and to appear when he is actually outside your home.

[Tonia Lee]

Excuse me ... but are u trying to be the next barbie swallows or something, or trying to steal my spot light on tgirlforums.com ? Cause it seems like ur copying my style of writing of taste on here. I posted a story a few weeks ago about having a stalker, and now ur making a story similar to mines, wow. I guess if i was at ur age,, i would probally try my hardest to be young and youthfull and try my hardest to get recongnition. God bless u my lost tranny child. lol

Whatever.

[Tonia Lee]

Tonia, are the pictures of yourself posted here taken in your kitchen with the big windows? I suspect they are, so then while you are putting on a show for the camera you leave yourself wide open to the public and so now this "peeper" knows how to take advantage of your free show.

1. - Block the view into your kitchen. Buy a new blind or hang a bedsheet or towels over the window to block his view. Maybe he just can't afford the computer to watch you on-line.

2. - Have you actually seen this guy? Write down everything you see to describe his appearance, clothing, the time you notice each incident. Does he show up at predictable times? Can you possibly get a picture of him?

3. - Call the police! Only after you have some specifics which will help them to identify him will they be able to assist properly and to appear when he is actually outside your home.

Well, no. I mean, I do work at home part time for Imlive and I do have to get around my house. Cleaning up, using my bathroom and eating. Granted, I'm not walking around naked but many have seen how erotic I can look when on cam. Iv'e seen this guy before. I can't put my finger on it but I swear I've seen him.
I have a little kitten here in my home. If anything happened to her I would be hurt beyond belief. What if I do what you say and make it so that he can't see me and decides to break in for a little sample?
I want to call the cops but at the same time I don't want a problem with this guy. This is the same reason I let the one guy that hurt me go. I figured if I make no move, he has no reason to take any further action.
I'm a good chick. I work a full time job and this part time job. I don't drink or take drugs and do nothing wrong. So, I do the best I can but this place is no place for a transsexual. No matter how clean my life is, they assume shit.

[Einstein]

I would suggest getting a small caliber handgun for self defense
I myself have a keltec 380 it's very small concealable and has no
recoil.

[tommygun]

1) Get yourself new blinds. Preferably a darker shade. They are really easy to install yourself. And if you're really not handy, get a friend to help. Some Home Depot guys do stuff on the side, if you really get into a pinch.

2) Go to Home Depot, and go to the area where they sell locks. There is a device made by master that is designed to hook from your door handle, on a 45 degree angle, to the floor. It's just a long piece of tubular steel. They are phenomenal. If you install this on your door, nobody is going to be able to force the door, kick it in, etc. I bought this for my parents and my sister.

http://www.canadiantire.ca/AST/brows....jsp?locale=en

3) Keep a piece of pen and paper handy. Use this to record licence plates, physical descriptions, etc should it be necessary. The police will make good use of this info.

4) If you are ever thinking "should I call the police".... CALL THEM!!!


lol, after re-reading my post I see that my advice is verty similar to toban's.

[faure]

toban and tommygun have both offered good advice.....


Most peepers are pretty harmless, most people who stalk will never approach the person they are stalking. I made a film once about a woman who was stalked from age 16-30 relentlessly by someone who sat behind her in a grade 10 math class—and he became obsessed with her. For the next 14 years he followed her everywhere, lurked around her house, or stood across the street; phoned her home literally 10’s of thousands of time. When she moved to another part of the city he moved too. She got married, had two children, tried to live a normal life and he just never stopped. It only ended when he was murdered in prison, in that whole time, NOT ONCE did he approach her or try to speak with her.

The idea that every guy who lurks around a woman’s home is dangerous is true—but it is not the norm. Most will be scared off if the police are called and they are told to stop. Not all--but most. (this guy was a special case because he had severe mental illness)

One of the issues that makes this difficult is that this creep almost certainly sees you as a guy, not a transsexual. And men are very very rarely stalked. Once in a while a guy will be stalked by a woman, but men stalking men is extremely rare.

Which means that this guy may be motivated by homophobic hatred and not sexual desire. If he’s just some loser who is struggling with his sexuality, and is fascinated with you, that’s one thing. In that case, if you call the police on him (and the police aren’t homophobic) he will likely disappear.

If he has malice on his mind, and has a hatred of ‘fags’ (which is how he would see you) that is another far more dangerous situation. In either case, the first step is ABSOLUTELY to call the police on him, and hope that you get a cop who is sympathetic. There is a tiny tiny chance it will make things worse, and a very very good chance it will solve the situation. Admin is right, the police take peeping/stalking far more seriously than they used too.

In the meantime—make absolutely sure he cannot see into your home. put up blankets even--its just foolish at this point if you haven't done that.

[Tonia Lee]

Even my co-workers told me the police can put a stop to it. If I see him again while I'm on Imlive, I'll just make it very clear that he can't be wandering around my house at night looking in my window.

[tommygun]

Even my co-workers told me the police can put a stop to it. If I see him again while I'm on Imlive, I'll just make it very clear that he can't be wandering around my house at night looking in my window.

Take it one step further. Tell him to never come around your house again. Period. No exceptions. Be very clear and specific. Do not make requests. Make demands.

You don't want to leave the door open, so to speak, for him to violate your privacy. So when a police officer asks him what he was doing he could say that he intended to knock on your door. Since you never told him to not do that they have no legal grounds to do anything. You want to tell him never to come by because if he violates your request, you've already set the ball in motion for a restraining order.

Don't take any chances with this guy. Don't give him an inch to slip through. When you talk to him online, save your IM conversation and print it out. Again, this helps police and will help your case for a restraining order should it be necessary.