Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

[ShelbyWylde]

November 20th is Transgender Day of Remembrance
Each year hatred, prejudice, discimination, violence and murder still occures to transgendered persons all across this world. I am appalled at times at what "a select few" people have written on this message board. Their use of disrespecful nouns and desciptions of childish hateful acts towards transpeople I find distasteful if not alarming. This only confirms the clear and continuing danger of violence against transpeople, not only in some distant third world country, but right here in Toronto,Canada.
On August 26/2003 Cassandra "Tula" Do  ,was found strangled to death in her apartment in Toronto,Canada. I am sure many of you remember Sandra. I remember Cassandra and I still think of her often though we barely knew of each other. This is a person who took the time to smile and wave hello to me tough we were strangers. I hadn't even started my fulltime transition but somehow she made me feel she understood and saw in me who I was. That is something I will never never forget.
I remember her memorial at Allan Gardens. That day I wore black, and walked sullenly down the "Church" with a dozen red roses to each place are paths had crossed barely holding back my tears. We had lost a kindred spirit. Another smile stolen from us all. Cassandras murder is one of many acts of violence in this world we live in and each year crimes continue against transpeople.
Let us all come together on November 20th and show your respect and support for those who we have lost and were taken from us by unjustifiable acts of violence.
Cassandra, I will always remember you,
Peace be with you,
Please watch over us.


Information regarding Transgender Day of Rememberance and where memorials will be taking place can be found here
http://www.gender.org/remember/day/

[curious]

Re: Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

hello. i meet Tula she was not my most favourite visit, but that asside i was very saddened by her horrible passing, i would like to have got to know her better because i believe our meeting was my problem not hers . such a horrible shame rest in piece lovely lady Curious

[tlover]

Re: Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

Way back when I first got interested in being with a Tgirl, it was Tula's picture in her weekly ad that I remember most because at the time there was nobody else actually providing a picture in their ad. There were also a lot less ads than we see today. It wasn't until well over a year later that I had finally decided to follow thru and call and book an appointment to see Tula. Unfortunately I only had the chance to see her the once and have been kicking myself ever since for not trying to see her way back when I first came across her picture and ad because I know if I had, I would have been back to see her many many times afterwards.

Not to take anything away from any of the other wonderful tgirls I met since but Tula was one of the most at ease and friendly people I've ever met. As a result she would easily be able to put anyone at ease; whether it be a first timer or somebody she had just met in passing during her day to day activities. Some people described Tula as reserved but I found her to be very friendly and very much interested in getting to know at least a little bit about me and as a result i think she opened up a little bit more to me about her life. It was more like we had met as friends and this was the start of a long lasting friendship. It just seemed that we connected at that level.


I like to think Cassandra touched a few hearts for the short time she was with us; she has been missed and will definitely be remembered. Rest in Peace Cassandra.

[ps911fan]

Re: Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

So many have been abused or killed for no reason than pure hate.......and some have died out of great unhappiness...please take time to remember all of them, pray that they have peace where earth was not as happy a place for them as it should have been. Keep them alive with your thoughts of positive things. Each girl was truly unique for who they were. There being mssing from this planet makes a difference. If we remember them for the good things, they will never be forgotten.

I am sadden most by someone I knew but was not friends with. She was killed by a T* woman which was a sad moment when sisters kill sisters. I will make many prayers for her today as well as others who are at peace now.

Make a difference today and give to a local Aids charity to help cure this disease or give to trangender supporting organizations like the IGFE. These are contributions that make a difference for so many who are experiencing changes in their lives due to gender correction on their behalf......do something good today...contribute!!!!

[curious]

Re: Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

hi yu, i only wished i could have known her better sometimes with me it takes a worth while Curious

[SlaterTDot]

Re: Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

I must admit that I was hesitant to post here, as I am fairly shy, and would probably be described (accurately) as a"lurker".  I too knew Cassandra, and considered her an intelligent, caring lady.  She was the first t-girl I ever met, and at the time, I really didn't know what a shemale was.  I was new to toronto, and happened to be walking by a bar with a drag show, and decided to go in.  To give you an idea as to how naiive I was,  when she told me she was in the entertainment industry, I assumed that she worked on mainstream films or television.

I will never forget the terrible feeling I had when I saw her picture in the paper and read about her murder.  I know that the world (and myself) were definitely better off with her around.  She always made me feel good, even though I had some immature issues about this new sexuality.  The last time I saw her, she was with her boyfriend and we were unable to chat much.  Still, she kept checking on me to make sure I was ok .  I regret that I never really told her how much I respected her.     Her kindness and caring touched me, and i will never forget her.    Sorry if this post is sort of dull, but i just wanted to share my thoughts on a beautiful lady who was taken away much too soon. 

[TheNiteHwk]

Re: Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

She was killed by a T* woman which was a sad moment when sisters kill sisters.

I am just curious if this is an error... or do you know something we don't? Because as far as I know the killer has not been found. Please do tell.


I also knew Cassandra, although not well, well enough to know that she was a very likable person with a kind and loving heart. I was tuly saddened when I heard what happened to her. I also went to her memorial in Allan Gardens. RIP Cassandra... you were truly loved.

[ShelbyWylde]

Re: Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

She was killed by a T* woman which was a sad moment when sisters kill sisters.

I am just curious if this is an error... or do you know something we don't? Because as far as I know the killer has not been found. Please do tell..

NiteHwk,
the girl ps911fan spoke of was not Cassandra.
Your right Cassandras murder has not been solved by police.

We miss you, we miss all our stolen sisters and brothers
Peace be with you
Please watch over us

[ShelbyWylde]

Re: Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th

Transgender Day of Rememberance - Nov. 20th
I will always remember.
S

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[kristopin]

this is very touching

still being new to the community i found this touching and disturbing. i know nothing of Casandra until this post and felt the need to respond. it is a very sad state of affairs when this can happen to a gentle soul as you all described her. i am sorry for this loss as every community needs the gentle caring ones. i will try to put the date of her rememberance in my adgenda. prays and well wishes for her loved ones.