Can we ever be seen as housewives, girlfriends, or just cock and ass slaves

[Guest]

I need some answers im sick of guys pretending they care and love you.
For them to run off to their gf or regular life.
Is there men that want us for anything but our cocks and tight ass pussies.

wtf

[Rockheart]

Yes there is guys like that.
But first you have to see yourself as more than that.

[newsrim]

I need some answers im sick of guys pretending they care and love you.For them to run off to their gf or regular life.Is there men that want us for anything but our cocks and tight ass pussies.wtf

Two things to consider here. The first issue, of course, is that there is no accepted social category for t-girls; people risk making themselves a spectacle by openly dating one. It would be great if dating a transsexual were completely innocuous; some brave famous dude will be the first to have a transsexual girlfriend and from that point on it'll get easier, but maybe not until then. (In some senses it's no different from male bisexuality or swinging or lots of other sexual quirks - a lot of it goes on, but it's all kept secret. It arguably hurts worst for t-girls because you ARE the secret.) Lots of guys (a la Brokeback Mountain, in a way) just can't bring themselves to step outside their normal social role, even if it might make them happier - and maybe t-girls are extra contemptuous of that, because you have stepped outside the role you were given. You were driven, typically from a pretty early age, to become something else, so you may have an unusually low regard for those who just bumble along inside the box (as it were).The second thing is, you've been striving your whole life to be sexually alluring to straight guys; you spend a ton of money on it, and you make a ton of money on it. It's your whole lifestyle, so it seems a bit harsh that you're judging guys for thinking of you first as a sexual object. In a sense, that's what you've always wanted to be, right? One of the women whose sex appeal beguiles guys. T-girls aren't alone in finding out that luring guys in with sex appeal and then trying to get respect after that seldom works. Which is not to say you don't deserve respect, but ... people categorize, because life is short.Sorry, but my honest answer is that the lifestyle for ladies in your situation is pretty damn lonely. Not too many of your peers seem to have much luck with LTRs, if this board is much of an indication. I can only suggest that you enjoy the good ones while they last, and wait for a shift in social values.

[dan_calgary]

Can we ever be seen as housewives, girlfriends

Yes,

can we be looked at as more then just a client ?

hhhhhhmmmmm

[tslisaparadise]

I need some answers im sick of guys pretending they care and love you.
For them to run off to their gf or regular life.
Is there men that want us for anything but our cocks and tight ass pussies.

wtf

yes theres lots out there sweety be patient and picky,stay away from any guy who parties there the ones who date you for exitement only.your still growing as a woman and as we all mature thats when the doors open to all possiblilities.you have a good head start because your still young and beautifull.most honorable men look for a good soul one that has respect kindness strength and a playfull but loving personality and once you achieve that then they will be banging at your door.

[Guest]

I agree this is a phase and i know as become older and wiser the door opens easy.

yes theres lots out there sweety be patient and picky,stay away from any guy who parties there the ones who date you for exitement only.your still growing as a woman and as we all mature thats when the doors open to all possiblilities.you have a good head start because your still young and beautifull.most honorable men look for a good soul one that has respect kindness strength and a playfull but loving personality and once you achieve that then they will be banging at your door.

Opens easly hopefully not physical but mentally and socially.

well its almost like finding in a needle in haystack.

[falkon]

Is there men that want us for anything but our cocks and tight ass pussies.

wtf

possibly, but they will be hard to find for an escort. Just as if I was searching for true love among t-girl escorts I would have an hard time finding it.
You'd probably have to meet someone from outside your line of work, someone not hiring your services, not paying for your time.
Then of course, there's the matter of wich guys you pick. Many girls prefer good looking assholes to not so cute shy&nice guys. If it's your case... well, you will have a hard time finding luck.
You need of course to realize you are a transexual. A man attracted to you would be attracted to your cock and tight ass pussy first&foremost, I think it's difficult. And then, there's the matter of escorting... Trying a serious relationship while you are still escorting... Well, it will take a very tolerant man.

So you would be searching for a men who love t-girls, a men who love tgirls not only for sex, a men who love t-girls not only for sex and his willing to accept that she sleeps with other men for ca$h. And you probably want him to be beautiful and rich. Not impossible, but probably very unlikely to find the perfect match on everything. You'd have to change your criterias a litte to make it work. Maybe he's gonna be poor & average looking. Or maybe he'll be rich&beautiful but won't accept your line of work. He could also be far from where you live, forcing you to relocate. Hard choices to make. Don't despair, but be a realist.

[Rockheart]

Yes,

can we be looked at as more then just a client ?

hhhhhhmmmmm

So true.
Each tgirl lover you engage as a customer is probably one potential boyfriend you can cross of your list.
As far as I am concerned, once business, always business and you can just never be sure.
If your first encounter is sex for money, how can you expect anyone to see you differently.

You also have to lower your standards, the ripped guys with the huge dicks are going to "fuck" you every time because they know they can.
Why buy any one cow when you can have them all and their milk for free when ever you want?

The love and respect you desire is most likely to come from a "regular guy".
However these types of guys would generally not date a sex worker.
Of course being a sex worker extremely limits your options of finding your soulmate/lover.

The only way to meet normal nice guys is to work a normal job and do normal things.
Sure it pays shit compared to escorting but that is how most people live.
In the end happiness and love is more important than money or a big cock.

If you think you will find a boyfriend who is ok that you continue to escort, that is a pipe dream.
Any guy that doesn't care about you having sex with many men for money does not love you, no matter what you think.

You can't have your cake and eat it too.

[Guest]

response

I know there is a part of me that really wants a so called "NORMAL", Life.

House , kids, great sex, partner, all that togetherness stuff.

Then there is a raging whore inside me that wants sex nonstop with different guys,

I think its a hard decision seeing when you stop escorting the money you will make will be afraction of what we make.

i dont see myself at walmart slaving for 5 dollars an hr.

but you also cant be a escort for life.

we will all wrinkle, shrink and fade away from the eye.

This life is shit sometimes lol

[Shyla Wild]

I know there is a part of me that really wants a so called "NORMAL", Life.

House , kids, great sex, partner, all that togetherness stuff.

Then there is a raging whore inside me that wants sex nonstop with different guys,

I think its a hard decision seeing when you stop escorting the money you will make will be afraction of what we make.

i dont see myself at walmart slaving for 5 dollars an hr.

but you also cant be a escort for life.

we will all wrinkle, shrink and fade away from the eye.

This life is shit sometimes lol

The trick is to find something you love to do. With the freedoms that escorting gives us, the simple thing to do is find something you love to do, and invest yourself into it. Use escorting as a stepping stone to accomplish your other hopes and dreams in life. One day the desire for multiple partners will curb itself, and be replaced with the need for companionship. This way when the time comes and you fall in love with someone, there is always a chance for a regular life. This planning for the future will make sure that you don't end up being some busted tranny working at Walmart.

[Alexis]

The trick is to find something you love to do. With the freedoms that escorting gives us, the simple thing to do is find something you love to do, and invest yourself into it. Use escorting as a stepping stone to accomplish your other hopes and dreams in life. One day the desire for multiple partners will curb itself, and be replaced with the need for companionship. This way when the time comes and you fall in love with someone, there is always a chance for a regular life. This planning for the future will make sure that you don't end up being some busted tranny working at Walmart.

I very much enjoy escorting..

The money and the freedom..

All the admires and friends I have all over the world..

When I'm old and feeble I'll probably get a job at walmart for the social aspect of it.. lol..

Seeing as I have the perfect partner for me all I can do is hope that all the other girls find true love too..

it took me 33 years to find it..

[cooldude]

Soda, to me it seems you are greedy because you want it all. Well sorry to bust your bubble but in the real world you can't have it all. You want to settle down and have a normal life but you also want the excitement and money your profession offers. Well too bad, it does not work that way. Your life is what you make it so choose what you want or maybe get some professional help. I think you need it.

[markg]

all i can say is i wouldnt be ashamed to date and take it from there

[lodi225]

So true.
Each tgirl lover you engage as a customer is probably one potential boyfriend you can cross of your list.
As far as I am concerned, once business, always business and you can just never be sure.
If your first encounter is sex for money, how can you expect anyone to see you differently.

You also have to lower your standards, the ripped guys with the huge dicks are going to "fuck" you every time because they know they can.
Why buy any one cow when you can have them all and their milk for free when ever you want?

The love and respect you desire is most likely to come from a "regular guy".
However these types of guys would generally not date a sex worker.
Of course being a sex worker extremely limits your options of finding your soulmate/lover.

The only way to meet normal nice guys is to work a normal job and do normal things.
Sure it pays shit compared to escorting but that is how most people live.
In the end happiness and love is more important than money or a big cock.

If you think you will find a boyfriend who is ok that you continue to escort, that is a pipe dream.
Any guy that doesn't care about you having sex with many men for money does not love you, no matter what you think.

You can't have your cake and eat it too.

I will pitch in here with a long winded reply. Soda asked a question which I suspect is on the mind of many of the girls on this site.


I do not agree that once you engage in commercial sex with a girl it can never be anything else. Many of the girls will feel a genuine affection for some of their regular customers and vice versa. iIt remains commercial but there is a little more to it. And on occasion an escort will fall in love with a client, and the client with her. Not I think a difficult thing to imagine. The question is where can it go from there, specifically can a man date someone who was or continues to be an escort? And that depends on your perspective of sex. If you take a moralistic view of sex, and only approve of it in the context of a loving relationship obviously it would be a non-starter. But if, like me, you take a more pragmatic approach there may be potential. I suspect that much if not most of sexual activity is superficial, with little meaning. I am thinking of fuck buddies, friends with benefit, one night stands, holiday romance and yes commercial sex. It is the gratification of a physical need, pleasurable enough but ultimately with little depth. And sometimes in such a relationship genuine feelings will emerge.


But there are obstacles to dating an escort. It takes a good deal of maturity and a certain talent for disconnect to be in a relationship with someone who has sex with several guys in a day. But there are benefits as well. From the escort's perspective there is the pleasure of being in a loving relationship with someone who accepts her, and accepts what she does or used to do. No need for lies or hypocrisy here! She'll realize this is a guy not like the others, someone pretty unique. And she will likely show her appreciation. To love someone who believed she would never be loved may open up some very intense feelings.


In the course of all this the question will arise whether she should continue to escort. She may not want to, he may not want her to. Therein lies a problem. To give up escorting, with all the pleasures (think of those hunky guys) and forego a good income will require something to replace it. The daily grind and discipline of a boring job paying $12 an hour probably isn't going to do it. The lady has become used to better things. So if she gives up escorting for the man's sake he will likely need to make a financial contribution, quite possibly in the order of $10 - 15,000 a month. Not many men can afford that. At least until she finds something suitable for herself. And if she has worked as an escort for a number of years that may not be easy. And with Tgirls of course there is the whole issue of the social stigma which I will not go into.


So there are many obstacles to developing a relationship with an escort. But then any relationship encounters obstacles. As human beings we have thousands of ways in which to make life difficult for others. But it can be done, I speak from experience.


Good luck Soda!

[Dita Dior]

I believe if you find the right person and keep your head up anything will come your way when you think positrive and follow your heart