How does one find a t-girl in real life?

[Neo]

So yeah, just wondering how do you find a t-girl in real life, without going to gay bars and shit? Most t-girls online are looking to hookup with all kinds of STD's. I don't think I've ever seen a t-girl in real life, one that wasn't an old cross-dresser or something.

[Rantsalot]

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Neo if your perception of girls online is that way let alone assuming they all go to gay bars and such then you may find it impossible to find anyone. Ironically they all live day to day such as you or I with interests, hobbies and responsibilities just like everyone else on the planet. The thing is that some live freely blending in with society and others not so much but again you can say the same with men and women where people are shy or outgoing.

Now I would imagine that in places such as Toronto, Los Angeles, Rio et al that finding a transgender would be a little more easier due to population and the tolerance of the city and community but in a village of say 2000 it would be near impossible due to many things. Anyone disagree with me on this then please state an arguments.

Like anything though it really is a matter of finding things you have in common.

You like video games well I know there are many girls here and elsewhere that play them

You like art? I know there are girls off this site who are museum curators and managers who coincidentally met at "straight" bars so to speak and through friends of friends.

It is the same with sports....movies....cuisine...whatever. Its just a matter of communicating either here or on a social networking site or at a party or wherever .....hell if you want to be bold try to communicate in the oddest of places like a subway, if you by chance see a cute t girl sitting alone say helllo......because you NEVER know. Take me for instance...I was waiting for a bus in Toronto 2 years ago and struck up a conversation with a guy who overheard me talking to a friend about our hobbies and he is now friends with I and my other buddies.

Interesting thread. Refreshing .

[Neo]

Easier said than done, ^^

[merelypink]

depends on the city major cities have clubs that you can find juts by googling

[brendan888]

There's one

[candyhilton]

In LA you can throw a rock and hit 20 of them. Their walking around on the street, grocery shopping, at The Grove seeing movies, out to dinner at non-LGBT resturants, etc.
I love that town! I go at leaste once a year.

They walk around and are embraced by the community, and dont hide on a 1 block strip like in other cities we wont mention.

but if your expecting to date one, this is what I tell all the trans fans...
if u wanna date a tgirl, get in line behind the 1000 guys that are already in line. Its the truth.

[vancouverman]

Most t-girls online are looking to hookup with all kinds of STD's.

I think you are over stating it there. I am sure craigslist casual t4M is a cesspit of disease (where every ad says they are "disease free" for effect), but the vast vast majority of the ads are cross dressers, married guys, bi and gay guys offering gloyrholes, and so on. The TS girls you are seeing around this site are far cleaner and healthier than bar hookups any day.

Honestly, the simple answer is this. Save up $600 bucks, find an escort who looks like a 10/10 (there are many in Canada to chose from), have a fantastic 2 hour session. if you build a nice rapport, you can likely have dinner dates, night on the town, even as much as a weekend getaway. Looking for a long term relationship (which maybe is what you are seeking) is tough with any combination of humans as it is, but attractive and passable 24/7 TS women are a small number in relation to the guys who are chasing them. As such, a very difficult venture. If you are looking for a hookup, you won't get much better than the cross dressers or non-passables if you are looking for free hookups.

Transforming to look like a smoking hot woman costs a lot of money.(hormones, breasts, ass, clothing, tanning, makeup, facial surgeries, etc) Hence why escorting is such a good way for many of the girls to fund their body changes; and hence why the hottest looking TS are almost always doing porn or escorting. Someone working a regular job can't afford it all.

And another thing to consider if you seek long term...... if your motivation to want to be with them is cock, any legit long term relationship would lead to "the surgery" as the vast majority do want to have it at some point. Your relationship will fail if you need them to keep a cock. Yes, some will want to keep it for life, but remember they identify as women and so that is even more rare to find that. I would think it is tough for the women to find a serious long term as most of their "chasers" are doing it for the cock and that can only go so far if they are seeking a long term relationship, marriage, and family.

Just the way it is, there is a path to great enjoyment and great times with some beautiful women (and most are cool people too!). You just have to go the right way instead of wasting all your energy getting frustrated on hookup sites.

[candyhilton]

I 100% agree with you!!
But then there is these sub human type guys out there accounting for 75% of all trans-fans who I will simply refer to as... cheap fucks

They will do ANYTHINGGGGGGGGG for a freebie... it dosent matter if they get an std, they dont care.
I remember, a few years ago I use to go to goodhandies and there was this CD there (and I use that term lightly) whos name was Valentuna who was an androgynous twink who was 5'2, 99lbs, and would wear no makeup at all, wore a $5 short haired womans wig every single week, had absolutly no boobs totally flat chested, and walked around in a thong and bra and I remember guys would take him upstaires to the VIP boots ALL NIGHT with different guys. He said he had a bf and would dress up on Thurs for extra $$ for student expenses?
There is absolutly no "standard" at all anymore.
If the guy is horny... and the person somewhat resembles a woman... and the men will be all over it....

Am I jealous? no.
Do I think its sad that this is what its come to? yes

I think you are over stating it there. I am sure craigslist casual t4M is a cesspit of disease (where every ad says they are "disease free" for effect), but the vast vast majority of the ads are cross dressers, married guys, bi and gay guys offering gloyrholes, and so on. The TS girls you are seeing around this site are far cleaner and healthier than bar hookups any day.

Honestly, the simple answer is this. Save up $600 bucks, find an escort who looks like a 10/10 (there are many in Canada to chose from), have a fantastic 2 hour session. if you build a nice rapport, you can likely have dinner dates, night on the town, even as much as a weekend getaway. Looking for a long term relationship (which maybe is what you are seeking) is tough with any combination of humans as it is, but attractive and passable 24/7 TS women are a small number in relation to the guys who are chasing them. As such, a very difficult venture. If you are looking for a hookup, you won't get much better than the cross dressers or non-passables if you are looking for free hookups.

Transforming to look like a smoking hot woman costs a lot of money.(hormones, breasts, ass, clothing, tanning, makeup, facial surgeries, etc) Hence why escorting is such a good way for many of the girls to fund their body changes; and hence why the hottest looking TS are almost always doing porn or escorting. Someone working a regular job can't afford it all.

And another thing to consider if you seek long term...... if your motivation to want to be with them is cock, any legit long term relationship would lead to "the surgery" as the vast majority do want to have it at some point. Your relationship will fail if you need them to keep a cock. Yes, some will want to keep it for life, but remember they identify as women and so that is even more rare to find that. I would think it is tough for the women to find a serious long term as most of their "chasers" are doing it for the cock and that can only go so far if they are seeking a long term relationship, marriage, and family.

Just the way it is, there is a path to great enjoyment and great times with some beautiful women (and most are cool people too!). You just have to go the right way instead of wasting all your energy getting frustrated on hookup sites.

[dan_calgary]

I wish

Honestly, the simple answer is this. Save up $600 bucks, find an escort who looks like a 10/10 (there are many in Canada to chose from), have a fantastic 2 hour session. if you build a nice rapport, you can likely have dinner dates, night on the town, even as much as a weekend getaway. Looking for a long term relationship (which maybe is what you are seeking) is tough with any combination of humans as it is, but attractive and passable 24/7 TS women are a small number in relation to the guys who are chasing them. As such, a very difficult venture.

I wish was only 600 , well i went threw 1000's and 1000's and 1000's , but you hit it, long terms are very very tough, I made mistakes, and probaly ok I assumed too much,
and be REALISTIC with yourself if you're 50 and she's 25, NO NOT GOING TO HAPPEN,

Transforming to look like a smoking hot woman costs a lot of money.(hormones, breasts, ass, clothing, tanning, makeup, facial surgeries, etc) Hence why escorting is such a good way for many of the girls to fund their body changes; and hence why the hottest looking TS are almost always doing porn or escorting. Someone working a regular job can't afford it all.

And another thing to consider if you seek long term...... if your motivation to want to be with them is cock, any legit long term relationship would lead to "the surgery" as the vast majority do want to have it at some point. Your relationship will fail if you need them to keep a cock. Yes, some will want to keep it for life, but remember they identify as women and so that is even more rare to find that. I would think it is tough for the women to find a serious long term as most of their "chasers" are doing it for the cock and that can only go so far if they are seeking a long term relationship, marriage, and family.

said perfectly, if this is what you want, I'm not saying everyone,
but you better have a nice bank account $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

[Anji]

Transforming to look like a smoking hot woman costs a lot of money.(hormones, breasts, ass, clothing, tanning, makeup, facial surgeries, etc) Hence why escorting is such a good way for many of the girls to fund their body changes; and hence why the hottest looking TS are almost always doing porn or escorting. Someone working a regular job can't afford it all.

And another thing to consider if you seek long term...... if your motivation to want to be with them is cock, any legit long term relationship would lead to "the surgery" as the vast majority do want to have it at some point. Your relationship will fail if you need them to keep a cock. Yes, some will want to keep it for life, but remember they identify as women and so that is even more rare to find that. I would think it is tough for the women to find a serious long term as most of their "chasers" are doing it for the cock and that can only go so far if they are seeking a long term relationship, marriage, and family.

Couldn't agree more with the second part, many t-girls don't date "chasers" or guys simply looking for T-girls because "chasers" view us as t-girls not exactly a woman. Although, yes we are trans by identity forever really, but we'd like to feel as close as we could to being a ciswoman. The end goal isn't to become a t-girl but to become a woman. There are many non-op girls who are not looking to have their final surgery, or are fine with being labeled trans forever and that's fine too! The ideal situation for many t-girls though is to meet a man who thinks she is a cis-woman n then realizes that she is a tgirl but still can get over that fact.

As for the first part of the quote, yes transforming costs alot but I'd say the hottest looking TS girls would be doing porn/escorting because you're making money off your looks so it simply requires you to be at a certain physique. If you have a desk job, all that isn't really important. Plus there's a ton of really really hot t-girls in north america that are not involved in escorting or porn but rather live stealth as a woman but if they don't ever disclose their trans identity, how could we even know they exist?

[sadeh]

real life

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www.sade-honey.webs.com

[bcboycomingatya]

In LA you can throw a rock and hit 20 of them. Their walking around on the street, grocery shopping, at The Grove seeing movies, out to dinner at non-LGBT resturants, etc.
I love that town! I go at leaste once a year.

They walk around and are embraced by the community, and dont hide on a 1 block strip like in other cities we wont mention.

but if your expecting to date one, this is what I tell all the trans fans...
if u wanna date a tgirl, get in line behind the 1000 guys that are already in line. Its the truth.

Bingo. Sadly they dont want to be fetishized , but its a lot less disheartening to just pay for the sex. I ued to think I would marry one... Ah to be young and stupid again Now days I pretty much just get spit on by them cuz I prefer to bottom (Hence paying for it is nearly my only option as I am not model hot) . let me tell ya, if I could change just one thing about myself, I would not be attracted to t girls the way I am.