Fantasy Dilemma

[Interested1234]

I have been interested in having a tgirl experience for a couple of years and it has gotten to the point where I fantasize about it almost every day. There are a bunch of great gals out there that I would love to have a first time with but I am scared shitless of contacting an std - of course I'm married with kids so this would not only ruin my health but my marriage also.

I know I should ignore this fantasy but then I think 'I only live once and shouldn't I try everything'. Guess I'm just looking for some moral support here.

[brualex336]

I have been interested in having a tgirl experience for a couple of years and it has gotten to the point where I fantasize about it almost every day. There are a bunch of great gals out there that I would love to have a first time with but I am scared shitless of contacting an std - of course I'm married with kids so this would not only ruin my health but my marriage also.

I know I should ignore this fantasy but then I think 'I only live once and shouldn't I try everything'. Guess I'm just looking for some moral support here.

Go for it. Play safe and live it out. I did. No regrets.

[Dita Dior]

same as a personal relationship with a partner, spouce, or wife. its a two way street you have to trust her and she has to put her trust in you. if there is one side not on the same page then it's not going to go well.

my suggestion is if you pick a provider when time comes the session approach them and ask to provide papers of STD results to reasure you that your safety is guarenteed. and if you don't feel comfortable approaching someone and saying that or you do approach that person on that and you still don't feel comfortable then ask for condom on everything.

but honestly. if you ask for the papers and the provider shows it and then you still don't feel comfortable in my opinon if you don't feel comfortable and you still go through with it just for the experience then that isn't right. you want to have the best time you can have or at least hope to experience and if your doing something even though your saying no to a huge thing because your there already and you said fuck it and risk your self then your none the less better then the other person.

regardless trust your gut, and any good provider should have their results on hand with them if they don't they should have a complete valid reason why not and understand your desision.

just my two cents.

[Ray]

If you see one of the top providers, such as Lucy, Asia, Kitty and quite a few others and use condoms, there is really no reason why you should be nervous about contracting something. As the old Nike commercial goes, "Just Do It". Only problem, you will probably get hooked on TGirls and that could be a problem if you are married.

[toban]

Don't fret, you will enjoy!!

I have been interested in having a tgirl experience for a couple of years and it has gotten to the point where I fantasize about it almost every day. There are a bunch of great gals out there that I would love to have a first time with but I am scared shitless of contacting an std - of course I'm married with kids so this would not only ruin my health but my marriage also.

I know I should ignore this fantasy but then I think 'I only live once and shouldn't I try everything'. Guess I'm just looking for some moral support here.

Well interested1234, I believe that married or not, in the beginning almost every one of us here has probably harboured the same misgivings as you have outlined above. It is only natural to be so concerned but, as others have already advised you, stick with the girls already known to be reliable and you will enjoy an experience you'll not forget. To help allay the issue of STI's the better girls have test results ready to verify their standing should you ask for them, and the additional protection of condoms is always available as well!

For what it's worth, I support and encourage you to turn that fantasy into a reality! To maximize your experience be sure to explain to whichever girl you select, that you are completely new to this and they will tailor the session to take that into account.

I can recommend a couple more top notch girls who will surely make your experience a memorable one: tgirlnikki and Lola are among the finest, both honest and reliable.

[Rockheart]

Everyone makes good points.

However you are contemplating cheating on your spouse/family.
This is the part no one can advise you on, this is your demon.
Sounds like you don't have an open relationship, so this in your mind in your mind the real line perhaps.

Cheating is cheating, whether you go to an escort, male, female, shemale doesn't matter.
You have to be comfortable with the cheating first and foremost, and the possible consequences.
Saying you should live life to the fullest is kind of a cop out, in that respect.
Shemales ain't going anywhere, believe me.

Second the only safe sex is monogomous sex, period.
If you go to an escort or have an affair, you are putting yourself and risk.
Sex with any unknown partner is just that, unknown.
Take all the precautions you want but you could still have trouble, whether it be getting caught, or catching something, or ?

99.9% of time people are fine

The question is can you live with the infidelity or the .1% chance of trouble.

[Interested1234]

still trying to figure it out...

Everyone has good points. Yes, cheating is cheating and I am without a doubt trying to rationalize that - thought my wife would eventually like to try something on the wild side but, its not going to happen.

Dita, good advice asking for papers and I have no problem doing that (you're the one I am probably going to be asking if I do go forward so glad to hear from you).

I know condoms are the way to go but they sure get in the way of some things.

Anyway, still trying to figure it out...

[Dita Dior]

Everyone has good points. Yes, cheating is cheating and I am without a doubt trying to rationalize that - thought my wife would eventually like to try something on the wild side but, its not going to happen.

Dita, good advice asking for papers and I have no problem doing that (you're the one I am probably going to be asking if I do go forward so glad to hear from you).

I know condoms are the way to go but they sure get in the way of some things.

Anyway, still trying to figure it out...

Is your wife like my mother? When I go home to visit Prince Edward Island after a week or so in the house if that long I go nuts and crave the taste of cock so I start advertising or calling numbers in my phone. I eventually just pop outside of the house go for a run up the road get picked up and then 10 minutes later come back lol.. like 4-5 times at the most a night. I can only use the "I went for a cigarette and walked up the road since dad doesn't like the smell" trick so many times. My mom caught on pretty fast after my preteen brother caught me mid-day in a blue jeep with my highschool sweet heart up the road. Lol, my free range of roaming has been watched and also monitored. Mom's new little thing to ask me is

"Where did you go? What did you do?" - Mom
"I went for a walk. / Sat outside / Listened to music / Had a client call me and I know how you don't agree with me answering my phone within the house" - Me
"Stop the bullshit give me your hands"- Mom
*grabs my hands and smells them*

Lol... regardless she doesnt trust me so she tries to see if I smell like something.
I'm guessing it's one of the obvious three . Latex, cock , or lube. What else could it be.. if there is another option then fools me what it is.

I'm not even trusted to leave my own house I grew up in for 10-15 minutes alone without thinking i'm up to no good.. it's a shame. But they know me too well, right when I open the door I weasel my way off the property and on my way to testostrone.

[Interested1234]

wild girl

you sound like a wild one Dita. guess that's what keeps the fantasies revvin

[bottomguyusually]

I agree with most posts from above and will quote "Go for it. Play safe and live it out. I did. No regrets."

I have 1 question for you. Have you ever fooled around to this point?

For a lot of people, the guilt is the main issue you will have to live with, not the STD

[Dita Dior]

I agree with most posts from above and will quote "Go for it. Play safe and live it out. I did. No regrets."

I have 1 question for you. Have you ever fooled around to this point?

For a lot of people, the guilt is the main issue you will have to live with, not the STD

Sorry for being rude, but I was waiting for someone to go to this point the whole time I didn't have the courage to say it since it's a place where I have no right to but in towards or have any advice to help in that area.

[Interested1234]

not quite sure if the question was to me but I'll answer anyway.

No, I have never fooled around on my wife. However, after 10+ years, I find myself considering it more and more, not for a new emotional relationship but for the sexual excitement. I've always been more open about sex and would love for us to both step out a bit. As I stated before, my wife does not feel this way so yes, there would be a bit of guilt but not a huge amount. In other words (and I know this may sound shitty) but, what she doesn't know won't hurt her.

If I came home with some type of std than I guess, not only could we both have a health risk but, the she would know. And yes she would be hurt and yes I would feel bad because it hurt her.

monogamy sucks sometimes

[Rockheart]

not quite sure if the question was to me but I'll answer anyway.

No, I have never fooled around on my wife. However, after 10+ years, I find myself considering it more and more, not for a new emotional relationship but for the sexual excitement. I've always been more open about sex and would love for us to both step out a bit. As I stated before, my wife does not feel this way so yes, there would be a bit of guilt but not a huge amount. In other words (and I know this may sound shitty) but, what she doesn't know won't hurt her.

If I came home with some type of std than I guess, not only could we both have a health risk but, the she would know. And yes she would be hurt and yes I would feel bad because it hurt her.

monogamy sucks sometimes

It's not monogamy that sucks, it's fulfilling your commitment to your relationship that can be tough.

However a good relationship is worth well more than a few minutes of sex.
Unless you are an escort, the majority of your life is not sex.
There is a million things more important than sex for recreation, sometimes it just doesn't feel that way.

Weighing a relationship against a quick encounter isn't even possible.

To me the scales only tip in one direction.

[bottomguyusually]

If you could live with the guilt, then go for it. Play safe, but go for it. Just make sure to pick the right girls.

[aguyoutthere1]

not quite sure if the question was to me but I'll answer anyway.

No, I have never fooled around on my wife. However, after 10+ years, I find myself considering it more and more, not for a new emotional relationship but for the sexual excitement. I've always been more open about sex and would love for us to both step out a bit. As I stated before, my wife does not feel this way so yes, there would be a bit of guilt but not a huge amount. In other words (and I know this may sound shitty) but, what she doesn't know won't hurt her.

If I came home with some type of std than I guess, not only could we both have a health risk but, the she would know. And yes she would be hurt and yes I would feel bad because it hurt her.

monogamy sucks sometimes

I was in your situation years ago and the advice you are getting is really good. Kind of like those two sides of the conscience arguing on your shoulder. I've spent many hours (minutes?) analyzing God's laws and Man's laws. How some seem ridiculous (why can't I want my neighbors wife or stuff?) At times these laws aren't the same, but both don't want me stealing or killing. Let's just say I may have some explaining to do, regardless of how the rest of my life goes. (No I never killed anyone)

I have to wonder if these laws, learned as children, became the essence of our conscience. Or is it something deeper, in everyone. (except Charles Manson types) Now on this earth, I only have to answer to man's laws, as God does not mind me speeding. But the other man's law I have to be fully aware of, how much will it cost if I get caught. What is 50% of your life savings worth to you. I had a scare last year, whenever I pissed it burned. Man was I panicking. But after some tests it seemed to be a bladder infection. Phew!!!!!!!

I personally came to the conclusion that until I know better, I'll do my best to follow man's laws, and when I die, God and I will hopefully have a long chat before he/she/it completely gives up on me. Until I know better, we only live once. I fully intend on enjoying my life even with decisions that should or should not have been made. I really try to not hurt anyone, so if I do something wrong, I do my best to make sure only me and maybe one other person (two others on a really good day) know about it.

Go with your gut, but if you are really fantasizing that often, I think the decision is made. Just a matter of time Dita gets that call. There are a few that will show you papers, just be clear up front.

And that was way too deep for my brain. I need to jerk off now.



KC