Emotional Hangovers

[rider014]

Hey all, Just a thought and maybe this has already been beat up and down before, but I'm curious about the subject and I'd like some of your thoughts on this topic. People are people, not machines and in dealing with people, emotions can never be turned off, it's how we're made! Has anyone ever been in a situation where the two parties involved clicked on a whole new level that wasn't expected?

[Guest]

Yep.

Hi rider,

You've mentioned that this topic has (perhaps) been discussed before. I have not seen that discussion as i have only returned to this forum after a few years of being away. So i will respond to this thread.

So in response to you, i say, yes, too many times.

In my 9 years (so far) i've had some visitors who seemed to be quite...i don't know..."experienced"...with how to make me drop my defences and do things or think things that i just normally would not do, and feel things that i never would have ever expected to feel. It's crazy.
Sometimes, after one of these soulmate-types leaves, i often wonder why i did or revealed such things. I wonder how could i allow someone to "reach into" me like that or affect me like that.
I am not as calculating as my "occupation" might lead you to believe.

I am the type of person who...i won't say, "cries" - as if in some pathetic way - but i am quite an extremely sensitive person who can be touched easily if i sense his sincerity is there if the moment is right, and i just seem to know when it's real, or when it's just a guy tying to act too sweet with me...you know?...as if to "take advantage" of my soft nature.
I can't precisely define a feeling.

Maybe i, somehow, am able to sense their lonliness, or sense their longing to love someone, even if it's me to have in their arms to hold, to feel, to kiss romantically and with whom to "bond" - even for what we call - a donation for something as "cold" as a prearranged block of time.

I have often wondered if i am an empath.
Maybe i'm just a sucker for a...whatever it might be that reaches me. Be it kindness, compassion, or perhaps just utter respect or maybe even sympathy for me and for all i have been through in my fairly difficult life. (I don't want to get too deeply into all that).

Some would just know how to talk to me and i would get all weepy and weak and i'd wish it could just go on, and sometimes i allow that to happen, for i, too, have a great lonliness and a need to be held and loved. I am human - though some other types of folks like to refuse to accept that and choose to treat me as what i sense as, with my great overblown, thin skinned sensitivity, as a subhuman life form.

After many of these soulmate-types of gentlemen leave to return to their significant others, i am left alone to contemplate and reflect - still yearning for that seemingly blissful, albeit temporary bond to continue.
It's too bad it all has to come down to an exchange between two people, sometimes.
So, even though we've shared a warm, meaningful embrace which must come to an end at some point, i know that some of them leave still feeling that shared warmth inside. Perhaps they got more than they might have expected, while i, am left inside, alone - wondering what the heck just happened emotionally.

I know many girls, with thicker skins than i possess, would probably laugh at my words, especially considering the initial reasons why i meet men from sites like the ones where i invite such a rendez-vous.
Being a person who cries during most Walt Disney movies (of all things lol) i really couldn't expect them to understand or agree with me.

Did this make any sense at all to you, rider? I hope this response satisfies your question.

Thanks for reading.
Babe,
xoxo

[rider014]

Hi rider,

You've mentioned that this topic has (perhaps) been discussed before. I have not seen that discussion as i have only returned to this forum after a few years of being away. So i will respond to this thread.

So in response to you, i say, yes, too many times.

In my 9 years (so far) i've had some visitors who seemed to be quite...i don't know..."experienced"...with how to make me drop my defences and do things or think things that i just normally would not do, and feel things that i never would have ever expected to feel. It's crazy.
Sometimes, after one of these soulmate-types leaves, i often wonder why i did or revealed such things. I wonder how could i allow someone to "reach into" me like that or affect me like that.
I am not as calculating as my "occupation" might lead you to believe.

I am the type of person who...i won't say, "cries" - as if in some pathetic way - but i am quite an extremely sensitive person who can be touched easily if i sense his sincerity is there if the moment is right, and i just seem to know when it's real, or when it's just a guy tying to act too sweet with me...you know?...as if to "take advantage" of my soft nature.
I can't precisely define a feeling.

Maybe i, somehow, am able to sense their lonliness, or sense their longing to love someone, even if it's me to have in their arms to hold, to feel, to kiss romantically and with whom to "bond" - even for what we call - a donation for something as "cold" as a prearranged block of time.

I have often wondered if i am an empath.
Maybe i'm just a sucker for a...whatever it might be that reaches me. Be it kindness, compassion, or perhaps just utter respect or maybe even sympathy for me and for all i have been through in my fairly difficult life. (I don't want to get too deeply into all that).

Some would just know how to talk to me and i would get all weepy and weak and i'd wish it could just go on, and sometimes i allow that to happen, for i, too, have a great lonliness and a need to be held and loved. I am human - though some other types of folks like to refuse to accept that and choose to treat me as what i sense as, with my great overblown, thin skinned sensitivity, as a subhuman life form.

After many of these soulmate-types of gentlemen leave to return to their significant others, i am left alone to contemplate and reflect - still yearning for that seemingly blissful, albeit temporary bond to continue.
It's too bad it all has to come down to an exchange between two people, sometimes.
So, even though we've shared a warm, meaningful embrace which must come to an end at some point, i know that some of them leave still feeling that shared warmth inside. Perhaps they got more than they might have expected, while i, am left inside, alone - wondering what the heck just happened emotionally.

I know many girls, with thicker skins than i possess, would probably laugh at my words, especially considering the initial reasons why i meet men from sites like the ones where i invite a such a rendez-vous.
Being a person who cries during most Walt Disney movies (of all things lol) i really couldn't expect them to understand or agree with me.

Did this make any sense at all to you, rider? I hope this response satifies your question.

Thanks for reading.
Babe,
xoxo

That was incredible, and on top of it all it really does prove my thoughts as correct. I don't consider myself as an "experienced" schmoozer with the goal of dropping defenses. I was a complete rookie, scared shitless, and not knowing what to expect. The sweet talkers you refer to,I would find it difficult to have a lot of respect for them as their approach would be rehearsed and premeditated to get something more thus chalking it up to a great job of acting. I have complete respect for providers as I can imagine the sometimes roller coaster ride of emotions they may feel. That would be very difficult to manage. Thx for responding I really appreciated it

[Guest]

Gee, what happened, rider?

Hi rider,

I'm glad i've responded in a way that satified your question.

So what happened in this meeting to which you seem to be referring?
Did you, yourself, experience an emotional hangover with an intoxicating girl?

By the way, i believe it's not necessary to quote the entire post in order for me to know to whom you are responding.
Personally, i only use the quote function if i am quoting a person's post that is in a large thread of many responses.

Affectionately,
Babe,
xoxo

[rider014]

Hi rider,

I'm glad i've responded in a way that satified your question.

So what happened in this meeting to which you seem to be referring?
Did you, yourself, experience an emotional hangover with an intoxicating girl?

By the way, i believe it's not necessary to quote the entire post in order for me to know to whom you are responding.
Personally, i only use the quote function if i am quoting a person's post that is in a large thread of many responses.

Affectionately,
Babe,
xoxo

For some reason I can't seem to find the quick reply option,thought it was there at one time forgive me I'm new at this. Long story short, first timer, booked, arrived. I had no idea what to expect and my only game plan was if she wasn't who she said she was... Bolt! Then something happened I didn't expect....... Her! Can't pinpoint any trigger but for being a self proclaimed cold hearted bastard, I was sent somewhere I've never been emotionally. I figured this would be an easy thing to do. Not so much I guess. She will always be my first, my next, and my last however many times it may be. That was never the original plan but I guess that even the best thought out plans sometimes don't work out. Thanks for lending an ear Babe

[Guest]

Hi rider,

Maybe you can stop clicking on, "respond with a quote" and just sign in and then click on "reply to thread". If you ever want to edit your posts, click on "edit post".

I was signed out when i read your response. So, i clicked on "reply with a quote" to see what would happen, and i was asked to sign in.
Once i signed in, i was taken to the "reply to thread " window and your last post had been automatically quoted, and it was waiting for me to type - which would have resulted with my response including your last post being quoted.

Helpful?

Babe
xoxo

[rider014]

I'm a slow learner haha

Hope it works

[rider014]

Yup

Perfect thanks

[Guest]

Emotional Hangovers

Just to keep this in order, i've quoted rider014's original post and his explaination post of what happened to cause his emotional hangover.

Babe,

Hey all, Just a thought and maybe this has already been beat up and down before, but I'm curious about the subject and I'd like some of your thoughts on this topic. People are people, not machines and in dealing with people, emotions can never be turned off, it's how we're made! Has anyone ever been in a situation where the two parties involved clicked on a whole new level that wasn't expected?

...Long story short, first timer, booked, arrived. I had no idea what to expect and my only game plan was if she wasn't who she said she was... Bolt! Then something happened I didn't expect....... Her! Can't pinpoint any trigger but for being a self proclaimed cold hearted bastard, I was sent somewhere I've never been emotionally. I figured this would be an easy thing to do. Not so much I guess. She will always be my first, my next, and my last however many times it may be. That was never the original plan but I guess that even the best thought out plans sometimes don't work out....

[TSFantasia]

Hazards of a GFE

Considering that alot of guys who seek out escorts/SPs do so because they are in sexless/passionless marriages and relationships (not all some have healthy sex lives and relationships and just looking to fulfill a fantasy fetish). I think it is a fairly human response to experience an emotional surge, crush, infatuation with a SP, who you obviously found attractive enough to see in the first place and then to share a brief, passionate, and intimate time with that person.
Its funny how a true GFE (kissing,french kissing, etc) does make us connect emotionally more with a person than the actual sexual acts themselves ..maybe we are not all so shallow after all!