Coming Out & Embracing Your Sexuality!

[TSFantasia]

Most bi-curious, bisexual and closet gay guys are TERRIFIED of the idea of coming out to family, friends and loved ones. They spend their lives in the cramped confines of the closet for various reasons, but mostly over imagined fears and paranoia. Most guys who have come out as gay or bisexual to family and friends find that beyond the initial shock and reaction most people accept this, unless you are living in Arkansas or the deep South. Guys worry about how their macho friends or co-workers will react and treat them. When guys say that to me I'm like, "Seriously I could walk onto your construction, mining, oil field, etc. site and I would be like Hey Joe, Hey Sam , Hey John, Hey Steve how's it going when are you going to come see me again?" LOL. My point is even in the super -macho gay bashing sites it's all macho posturing BS!! I have guys drive 2 hrs from oil field work camps and mining sites to come see me and I probably just saw their co-worker the day or week before. The most liberating thing is to "come out" and embrace your sexuality. So a co-worker says " So what you want to suck my cock now?" Just say " I don't know.... take me out on a date and we will see" . People will be one way when they think everyone in the room agrees with them. "yeah fucking homos, fudge-packers, blah, blah, blah" But they act different when they know otherwise. I was playing in an online poker tourney on Pokerstars and 3 guys got in a tiff over how a hand was played. Soon the "Your fkin gay, etc" was being tossed about. I piped up and said (typed emphatically..lol) "I'm a proud member of the LGBT community! Keep your homophobic, narrow-minded , bigoted comments to yourself!" To my surprise they all shut up! LOL.

[Rockheart]

Maybe when people were more intolerant it was useful to come out of the closet.
However nowadays I am just sick and tired of people coming out of the fucking closet.
If you want to go suck a cock, go do it, you don't need to announce it to me.
Why the hell do I need to tell my mom what kind of sex I have? Really?
Why does my family need to care what type of sex they have.
Why do my co-workers need to know what type of sex I have at all?

Being transgendered is different, it is usually good to warn people before you come home one day as a different gender.
However with being Gay, you are essentially saying "Hey Mom, I like to have unconventional sex".

But in my experience, if I reveal to anyone that i am into TS, they think I am gay period, not that there is anything wrong with that.
If I tell anyone I'm bisexual, I am gay, not that there is anything wrong with that.
Thailand is the only place I have been where you are generally never considered gay for going with ladyboys.

People are omni-sexual beings, all of us, whether we admit it or not.
I don't know why we just can't have sex without judging each other.
The only reason we come out is to lessen the judgement.

However embracing your sexuality and not being ashamed of it is the key.
I just think it is on a need to know basis, and not that many people need to know.

[TSFantasia]

Fetishes NO Lifestyle Choice Yes

Maybe when people were more intolerant it was useful to come out of the closet.
However nowadays I am just sick and tired of people coming out of the fucking closet.
If you want to go suck a cock, go do it, you don't need to announce it to me.
Why the hell do I need to tell my mom what kind of sex I have? Really?
Why does my family need to care what type of sex they have.
Why do my co-workers need to know what type of sex I have at all?

Being transgendered is different, it is usually good to warn people before you come home one day as a different gender.
However with being Gay, you are essentially saying "Hey Mom, I like to have unconventional sex".

But in my experience, if I reveal to anyone that i am into TS, they think I am gay period, not that there is anything wrong with that.
If I tell anyone I'm bisexual, I am gay, not that there is anything wrong with that.
Thailand is the only place I have been where you are generally never considered gay for going with ladyboys.

People are omni-sexual beings, all of us, whether we admit it or not.
I don't know why we just can't have sex without judging each other.
The only reason we come out is to lessen the judgement.

However embracing your sexuality and not being ashamed of it is the key.
I just think it is on a need to know basis, and not that many people need to know.

Agreed people don't need to know our fetishes (crossdressing, S&M, GS, SCAT, etc, etc). But if a sexual desire controls and consumes most of your waking hrs and fantasies and you want the freedom to date who you want , go to what Club you want without fear or paranoia then maybe a good idea to "come out" with that info to friends and family, so you don't feel your sneaking around and hoping not to get caught

[rider014]

Really no big deal!

When a famous person nowadays "comes out of the closet" the public perception seems to be something like " oh didn't know he or she was gay" and then continues on with whatever they were doing. Being gay doesn't have the shock factor that it did even a decade ago. All you have to do is turn on the TV any given night and there it is, something to do with the gay community right there on the major networks during prime time. Modern Family, prime example. The acceptance of this lifestyle choice is looking more and more like a cellular coverage map with public acceptance slowly engulfing the page.

I used to to be one of those homophobic guys but I blame that on simple ignorance and after traveling overseas and meeting so many gay people and realizing that they weren't animals that just wanted to "fuck my tight virgin ass", I became completely comfortable with the friends I had made. I respected their choice and in turn they showed me the same respect as a straight guy.

It's been a long tough road for the gay community but with the way the world is heading, it won't matter who "comes out" because it really won't be that big of a deal.

[TSFantasia]

Straight, Bi-Curious, Bisexual, Gay and Everything In Between..

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Being transgendered is different, it is usually good to warn people before you come home one day as a different gender.
However with being Gay, you are essentially saying "Hey Mom, I like to have unconventional sex".

But in my experience, if I reveal to anyone that i am into TS, they think I am gay period, not that there is anything wrong with that.
If I tell anyone I'm bisexual, I am gay, not that there is anything wrong with that.
Thailand is the only place I have been where you are generally never considered gay for going with ladyboys.....

Well saying your gay is saying you are in everyway attracted to the same gender emotionally, mentally, and sexually and that you can see yourself in a long-term relationship with someone of the same sex, and that you are not attracted in that way to members of the opposite sex. Bisexual people can easily alternate between both sexes without skipping a beat or losing their hard-on (or wet pussy and hard nipples for the women). Bi-curious people pretty much stick 90% to the opposite gender for relationships and sexual activity, but allow themselves to venture to the "other side" occasionally for a diversion and to see what it's like.

And you are right society still has not accepted and embraced the concept of bisexuality. They think people are straight /heterosexual or gay and that bisexual people are just in the denial- conflict stage of accepting their "gayness". This attitude is even in the gay, lesbian community. I am bisexual and am attracted to both emotionally and sexually. On any given weekend I will be on the dance floor bumping and grinding and making out with a guy or a girl, depends on who got to me first

Guys who are attracted to TS woman, but could never see themselves being involved sexually or emotionally with another guy, in my view are straight/bi-curious. They are strongly attracted and obsessed with a woman's looks, bodies, and mannerisms in general and actually "love" women. So once the clothes come off it doesn't really matter what they find between their legs as they are still too attracted and aroused to care. I'm always "educating" people even in my LGBT community. I've taken a number of my real dates (not clients) to the Club after drinks and appies somewhere else. I have the gay guys suddenly interested in hanging around with me and chatting as I play pool with them. LOL. Sometimes someone from the Club knows the guy I'm with from work, etc. I had a gay guy ask me just this last weekend, "Hey I saw you with "John" a little while back...is he gay?" What I said is, "No he's straight and he was my date. Why have you seen him out with a guy??"

[kinkycdapr]

Yeah its hard to be open about sexuality for a lot of people..I know as I have been in conflict since I was ten. Still to this day I hide part of myself, guess I have just never met anyone I felt comfortable expressing a side of me I keep behind closed doors, probably due to growing up with a family completely against it, my parent had caught me dressed up as a woman when I was 14 lol, but refused to acknowledge it instead called me faggot etc.

I live as a straight man and I am one to an extent I guess...so unsure with a lot of it still as I keep it to myself, I am attracted to woman but I enjoy dressing as a woman, I feel very feminine most of the time just hide it behind all the time. I am attracted to some men, just not many....and I do get very turned on at the thought of bieng a woman during a intimate situation...in fact I prefer to imagine myself as a woman...IDK where i am going with this lol. Just basically stating that it is very hard for soem people like myself to e open about who they are and their sexuality, I was taught it was wrong etc....idk just trying to be open.

[rider014]

I wouldn't worry about it

Yeah its hard to be open about sexuality for a lot of people..I know as I have been in conflict since I was ten. Still to this day I hide part of myself, guess I have just never met anyone I felt comfortable expressing a side of me I keep behind closed doors, probably due to growing up with a family completely against it, my parent had caught me dressed up as a woman when I was 14 lol, but refused to acknowledge it instead called me faggot etc.

I live as a straight man and I am one to an extent I guess...so unsure with a lot of it still as I keep it to myself, I am attracted to woman but I enjoy dressing as a woman, I feel very feminine most of the time just hide it behind all the time. I am attracted to some men, just not many....and I do get very turned on at the thought of bieng a woman during a intimate situation...in fact I prefer to imagine myself as a woman...IDK where i am going with this lol. Just basically stating that it is very hard for soem people like myself to e open about who they are and their sexuality, I was taught it was wrong etc....idk just trying to be open.

Hey, who hasn't tried on women's clothing in their life at some point. It's actually pretty comfortable haha. I actually dressed up as a hooker for Halloween a long time ago, before t-girls were even heard of. Fuck was I a knockout!!! I was being hit on at the bar by so many guys who didn't know me. I played it up a little to get free drinks(what woman doesn't ) The gig was up when one of my team mates came up to me and grabbed my ass... WTF are you doing I screeched. Well I wish I had a picture of the poor bastard and the look he had on his face haha. Point here is simply perception. When the word gay or bisexual is mentioned, people automatically vision the lewd sexual acts being performed. They don't see anything else and are turned off by it immediately. What the eyes see the mind believes ohn Travolta Swordfish). The difference here is that I never once imagined any type of sexual encounter with any guy, however I did have one hell of a lesbian experience later that night I think that the majority of people with limited views are having a harder time understanding the bisexual person as if it's the mentality of " hey you can only like one or the other". Black and white for some people. Just tell the narrow minded people to go on any porn site, click on categories and they'll soon see bisexualism is pretty tame considering some of the things going on out there. As far as your family is considered, they should love no matter what you choose in life:-)

[TSFantasia]

Yeah its hard to be open about sexuality for a lot of people..I know as I have been in conflict since I was ten. Still to this day I hide part of myself, guess I have just never met anyone I felt comfortable expressing a side of me I keep behind closed doors, probably due to growing up with a family completely against it, my parent had caught me dressed up as a woman when I was 14 lol, but refused to acknowledge it instead called me faggot etc.

I live as a straight man and I am one to an extent I guess...so unsure with a lot of it still as I keep it to myself, I am attracted to woman but I enjoy dressing as a woman, I feel very feminine most of the time just hide it behind all the time. I am attracted to some men, just not many....and I do get very turned on at the thought of bieng a woman during a intimate situation...in fact I prefer to imagine myself as a woman...IDK where i am going with this lol. Just basically stating that it is very hard for soem people like myself to e open about who they are and their sexuality, I was taught it was wrong etc....idk just trying to be open.

Having a cross-dressing fetish is a fairly common fantasy with guys and doesn't necessarily say anything about one's sexuality. Gay guys dress in drag, bisexual and bicurious guys cross-dress to engage in or fantasize about role reversal sex, even straight guys occasionally like the feel of silk panties or lingerie on as it makes them think about being with and touching a woman.

A lot of TG women may have started out as cross-dressers in their journey of self-discovery before they decided to transition, but usually with different reasons and motivation. Fetish cross-dressers do so because of the sexual arousal it produces to be in women's underwear, lingerie, etc. TG women dress as a woman because that's the only thing that makes sense or looks right when they look in a mirror. I can tell the CDs from the TGs on my FB,etc as in the CDs pics they are always in lingerie, short skirts, frilly dresses (and most obviously taken in private). The TGs look like all the other women on a day to day basis in jeans and tops,etc and only in dresses when they are out at Clubs etc. And rarely do they have provocative pics on their profile as they, like other women, do not want to be viewed only as a sex object.

Finding a woman who is ok and not threatened by your fetish can be hard to find, but not impossible. Check sites like adultfriendfinder, alt.com, etc where people are more up-front with their sexual interests and fetishes.

[kinkycdapr]

Having a cross-dressing fetish is a fairly common fantasy with guys and doesn't necessarily say anything about one's sexuality. Gay guys dress in drag, bisexual and bicurious guys cross-dress to engage in or fantasize about role reversal sex, even straight guys occasionally like the feel of silk panties or lingerie on as it makes them think about being with and touching a woman.

A lot of TG women may have started out as cross-dressers in their journey of self-discovery before they decided to transition, but usually with different reasons and motivation. Fetish cross-dressers do so because of the sexual arousal it produces to be in women's underwear, lingerie, etc. TG women dress as a woman because that's the only thing that makes sense or looks right when they look in a mirror. I can tell the CDs from the TGs on my FB,etc as in the CDs pics they are always in lingerie, short skirts, frilly dresses (and most obviously taken in private). The TGs look like all the other women on a day to day basis in jeans and tops,etc and only in dresses when they are out at Clubs etc. And rarely do they have provocative pics on their profile as they, like other women, do not want to be viewed only as a sex object.

Finding a woman who is ok and not threatened by your fetish can be hard to find, but not impossible. Check sites like adultfriendfinder, alt.com, etc where people are more up-front with their sexual interests and fetishes.

Thanks for the direction advice, but I as well dont necessarily only dress in lingerie, I am into anything from dresses to jeans, and tees..., idk liek you said though finding someone accepting of that is difficult but not impossible...so I have been told lol. But the latter seems to be my world and has been for a long time, I am not depressed or anything about it, dont get me wrong :P. Basically what I am trying to say is that it is not just a sexual thing to me.

On topic though I do agree with you, kinda got off track with my post, sorry did mean to hijack your thread.

[TSFantasia]

Thanks for the direction advice, but I as well dont necessarily only dress in lingerie, I am into anything from dresses to jeans, and tees..., idk liek you said though finding someone accepting of that is difficult but not impossible...so I have been told lol. But the latter seems to be my world and has been for a long time, I am not depressed or anything about it, dont get me wrong :P. Basically what I am trying to say is that it is not just a sexual thing to me.

On topic though I do agree with you, kinda got off track with my post, sorry did mean to hijack your thread.

No problem that's what the post is here for people to put their comments and input on the post subject .