Know what sucks?

[Tendulain]

The fact that for years now you've been attracted not just to the sexuality, but also to the courage ts women have. Things would be much simpler if you ware just straight or gay, at least there are plenty of people to choose from or at least be able to identify with. Men are just gross, the thought of it just makes you cringe. Women are beautiful creatures but you just never really had that connection.

Then browsing porn one day you come across a porn video with a woman with cock (Danielle Foxxx as it were in my case) and get completely turned on. The idea intrigues you to the point of where you browse forums reading and participating in discussion of transgender women, read up on the stories and lives of transgender people and the people who love them, to the point where you now in your heart feel like you can only be satisfied by being with a transgendered woman, hell you even dream of it. Then you come to the realization that a relationship with a transgender women would mean coming out in sorts as what your family would consider worse than being gay. Your whole life before this point you built your body and persona as a STRAIGHT tough guy, working jobs and playing sports that Men of that nature do. So coming out would mean the destruction of that image not to you but to those you've spent time with, at least those who aren't able to see past their bigotry, which you accept and are willing to sacrifice if it means finding the one. But for that to even happen you would need to develop a relationship, where in this community seems to be close to impossible. From reading blogs, posts and etc, you come to the realization that your attraction to transgendered women is something that most themselves seem to not appreciate at all. So your left with the idea of paying for sex, where there is nothing wrong with people making their money, and you don't judge, but just is something morally you don't believe in for yourself.

So the chances of you being able to find or even explore yourself in your desires and sexuality are next to nil.

This is my story, and it sucks.

[rider014]

And what were you expecting ?

The fact that for years now you've been attracted not just to the sexuality, but also to the courage ts women have. Things would be much simpler if you ware just straight or gay, at least there are plenty of people to choose from or at least be able to identify with. Men are just gross, the thought of it just makes you cringe. Women are beautiful creatures but you just never really had that connection.

Then browsing porn one day you come across a porn video with a woman with cock (Danielle Foxxx as it were in my case) and get completely turned on. The idea intrigues you to the point of where you browse forums reading and participating in discussion of transgender women, read up on the stories and lives of transgender people and the people who love them, to the point where you now in your heart feel like you can only be satisfied by being with a transgendered woman, hell you even dream of it. Then you come to the realization that a relationship with a transgender women would mean coming out in sorts as what your family would consider worse than being gay. Your whole life before this point you built your body and persona as a STRAIGHT tough guy, working jobs and playing sports that Men of that nature do. So coming out would mean the destruction of that image not to you but to those you've spent time with, at least those who aren't able to see past their bigotry, which you accept and are willing to sacrifice if it means finding the one. But for that to even happen you would need to develop a relationship, where in this community seems to be close to impossible. From reading blogs, posts and etc, you come to the realization that your attraction to transgendered women is something that most themselves seem to not appreciate at all. So your left with the idea of paying for sex, where there is nothing wrong with people making their money, and you don't judge, but just is something morally you don't believe in for yourself.

So the chances of you being able to find or even explore yourself in your desires and sexuality are next to nil.

This is my story, and it sucks.

Welcome to fantasy land

[Rockheart]

I've said it before, but why does everyone have to "Come Out".
At what point do you need to come out? When you have sucked one cock? two, three?
You don't really have to explain your sex life to anyone even your family.
If you show up with a tgirl and they know it is a tgirl then whatever I guess.
Water under the bridge.
I mean they could make a big deal, but would they really?

Special interest groups these days have driven into everyone's heads to treat everyone equal, or else.
It is just the norm to accept things now.
There is nothing you can do to stop people from talking, girls gotta get her gossip.

[TSFantasia]

Life is what you make of it

The fact that for years now you've been attracted not just to the sexuality, but also to the courage ts women have. Things would be much simpler if you ware just straight or gay, at least there are plenty of people to choose from or at least be able to identify with. Men are just gross, the thought of it just makes you cringe. Women are beautiful creatures but you just never really had that connection.

Then browsing porn one day you come across a porn video with a woman with cock (Danielle Foxxx as it were in my case) and get completely turned on. The idea intrigues you to the point of where you browse forums reading and participating in discussion of transgender women, read up on the stories and lives of transgender people and the people who love them, to the point where you now in your heart feel like you can only be satisfied by being with a transgendered woman, hell you even dream of it. Then you come to the realization that a relationship with a transgender women would mean coming out in sorts as what your family would consider worse than being gay. Your whole life before this point you built your body and persona as a STRAIGHT tough guy, working jobs and playing sports that Men of that nature do. So coming out would mean the destruction of that image not to you but to those you've spent time with, at least those who aren't able to see past their bigotry, which you accept and are willing to sacrifice if it means finding the one. But for that to even happen you would need to develop a relationship, where in this community seems to be close to impossible. From reading blogs, posts and etc, you come to the realization that your attraction to transgendered women is something that most themselves seem to not appreciate at all. So your left with the idea of paying for sex, where there is nothing wrong with people making their money, and you don't judge, but just is something morally you don't believe in for yourself.

So the chances of you being able to find or even explore yourself in your desires and sexuality are next to nil.

This is my story, and it sucks.

Life is what every person makes of it and the choices you make. You can choose to let fears and paranoia of what others will say and think control who you date and make a life with or you can be true to your own heart and mind. The true friends will come around and stick by you or you will make new ones. Trans women are not only fantasies in porn they are real people in the real world just like you

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F4W0CXnsXE8

[Tendulain]

I think there is a little bit of confusion of sorts, my dilemma isn't really with coming out. I like who I like and that is always how its been. If I were to ever find the that someone to share love with, coming out might ruin a few relationships but that would be more than acceptable because I'd have the person that matters. The true issue I tried to convey is the near impossibility of being able to find a transgendered women to share life with, or at least explore, due to the labels, fears, and population of the community. The intent of the post was more or less an acknowledgement and realization of the difficult emotional road I have been on and more than likely will continue to travel.

[rider014]

Bumpy road ahead

I think there is a little bit of confusion of sorts, my dilemma isn't really with coming out. I like who I like and that is always how its been. If I were to ever find the that someone to share love with, coming out might ruin a few relationships but that would be more than acceptable because I'd have the person that matters. The true issue I tried to convey is the near impossibility of being able to find a transgendered women to share life with, or at least explore, due to the labels, fears, and population of the community. The intent of the post was more or less an acknowledgement and realization of the difficult emotional road I have been on and more than likely will continue to travel.

As much as I can sympathize with your situation, if you're wookin' pa nub here, in this forum, better go buy a 4X4 truck. It's not a typo in case you're wondering.

[Gypsy1955]

Yes You Can!

It's a difficult road to find the right life partner in any situation. Divorce rates verify that! Sexuality, gender, whatever...put it all aside and focus on what you need from a partner, be the best you can be, and lead life to the fullest! Patience is the key and one day a beauty TG might approach you and KNOCK YOUR SOCKS OFF! You will know when you find the right one.

[Hockeydude89]

I don't think I would care a lot about what people thought...actually, a few people in my life are already aware that I am attracted to transwomen...they honestly don't have much of an opinion at all. I have one friend who tends to bust my balls, but I know he's not serious and I don't really give a crap anyway lol. So if I ever found myself in a relationship with a t-girl, it wouldn't be hard to make it known to certain people since most of them already know I'm interested in that type of woman anyway. Honestly though, I probably wouldn't out right say it...it's no ones business really....if they realize its a t-girl, that's cool. But I'm not going to go out of my way to make it known because it is my business.