Ltr

[Jimsford]

Why is it so hard to find a tgirl that wants a LTR?

[Kisa]

Why is it so hard to find a tgirl that wants a LTR?

there are so many reasons why but in most cases i think because of transitioning. Transitioning requires a lot of money, so girls concentrate only on it - they work hard to reach their goals
T-girls i know who are not working as an escort, already have boyfriends/girlfriends and they met each others through friends or at average pubs/clubs.

don't forget that population of t-girls is not big at all so it will be really hard to you to find someone but i wish you good luck!!!

[Photo Mann]

My two cents . . .

Even if availability, access, and willingness, weren't major hurdles, it would still be very difficult to realize success. Reason being, almost every lady you meet will at some point, wonder if you're not just showing interest in order to get free sex. Due largely in part to the fact that many guys take this very approach for this very reason. I had a lady tell me once that she doesn't really date because of the frustration of dealing with the vast majority of men looking for free sex, claiming that they're looking for a LTR. It makes it extremely difficult for the small percentage of guys who genuinely want LTR, to be successful. So it goes.

[vancouverman]

Let me tell you something and this will likely be very unpopular, but what the hell.

I tried personals sites and craigslist looking for dating of a TS.

ALmost every single one had the following requirements: Lean, Huge Dick, Under 35, or Muscular. Often it was a combination of several of these. I am speaking of legit TS, not a middle aged crossdressor or someone on the down low from his wife.

So, unless you fit that kind of look, dating a TS is a long shot at least in my city. I am a great guy, but I am over 40 and in good shape for my age but not ripped or big musles, 6.5 inches , etc. I gave up on that long ago and just stick with the professionals once in a while Keeps it simple and they will treat you great no matter what. (unless they are a bad provider which we all have had a few of those along the way, but the good ones are worth it)

And like the other poster said, there are so few in relation to the men who chase them, it is very very difficult anyways

[xoxJanexox]

Considering it is already difficult to have a relationship with an average genetic girl, I find it amusing that men repeat the same question and to ask why it is hard to find a t-girl for the same purpose considering the compounding scarcity factor!

[VanessaBell]

Ah, one of these threads. Honestly, if you really want a relationship with a normal trans girl, you're better off just dating random women and hoping that they turn out to be trans. Escorts will never date you for obvious reasons, and the overwhelming majority of women who are openly trans and are not in the sex industry either don't have a choice due to passability issues, or are seven shades of batshit insane. One reason for this is because being transsexual is incredibly awful, and a lot of people I've met, including myself, want as little to do with it as possible. Also, a lot of girls will just flat out ignore you if you're looking for trans women specifically, because first of all it's essentially liking them for something that they hate, and secondly a lot of chasers have built up a remarkably skeevy reputation, to like, alarmingly high levels of sketch. Of course this is all just a generalization and there are always exceptions to the rule, but yeah, unless you adopt some Mariana Trench-tier standards, don't get your hopes up.

[the_conqueror]

Ah, one of these threads. Honestly, if you really want a relationship with a normal trans girl, you're better off just dating random women and hoping that they turn out to be trans. Escorts will never date you for obvious reasons, and the overwhelming majority of women who are openly trans and are not in the sex industry either don't have a choice due to passability issues, or are seven shades of batshit insane. One reason for this is because being transsexual is incredibly awful, and a lot of people I've met, including myself, want as little to do with it as possible. Also, a lot of girls will just flat out ignore you if you're looking for trans women specifically, because first of all it's essentially liking them for something that they hate, and secondly a lot of chasers have built up a remarkably skeevy reputation, to like, alarmingly high levels of sketch. Of course this is all just a generalization and there are always exceptions to the rule, but yeah, unless you adopt some Mariana Trench-tier standards, don't get your hopes up.

If that doesn't shatter peoples dreams of finding the love of their life than I don't know what will lol

[merelypink]

Ah, one of these threads. Honestly, if you really want a relationship with a normal trans girl, you're better off just dating random women and hoping that they turn out to be trans. Escorts will never date you for obvious reasons, and the overwhelming majority of women who are openly trans and are not in the sex industry either don't have a choice due to passability issues, or are seven shades of batshit insane. One reason for this is because being transsexual is incredibly awful, and a lot of people I've met, including myself, want as little to do with it as possible. Also, a lot of girls will just flat out ignore you if you're looking for trans women specifically, because first of all it's essentially liking them for something that they hate, and secondly a lot of chasers have built up a remarkably skeevy reputation, to like, alarmingly high levels of sketch. Of course this is all just a generalization and there are always exceptions to the rule, but yeah, unless you adopt some Mariana Trench-tier standards, don't get your hopes up.

well said

[TSFantasia]

Scarcity is the biggest factor as we are unicorns in most locations. Distance is always a factor as the genuine looker and the genuine seeker are often 100's if not 1000's of miles apart and for all the good intentions and "Love will find a way" sentiments long distance relationships are hard to establish and even harder to maintain.

Even if you have T-girls locally we are like other women we are looking for chemistry and attraction and certain physical or age group criteria. If the girls are in their 20s of course in most cases they want someone under 35 who is fit (unless they are gold diggers then any guy with a healthy bank account will do lol).

My argument would be the opposite how can every dating site that supposedly is aimed at connecting TS women and interested men for relationships have a 100 blank, pictureless profiles of guys looking to "try something new", "just wanna fuck", etc. to every 1 genuine profile.
No wonder most TS women just give up in disgust and say "Fuck it..they can all pay!"

[BIG MIKE]

The saddest part about all of this is that the marriage laws changing for the better had practically zero effect on the transgendered community, and by that I mean tgirls and the guys that are attracted to them. It's like it didn't even matter because nobody is looking for that, which is okay as everyone is free to pursue whatever life they would like to lead, but I find it kind of sad and a waste at the same time. There was such a big deal and celebration at the time, and practically nobody really seems to want to pursue that in the transgendered community. Or...they still find it so unattainable.

I think most of it has to do with two factors: For the girls it's extremely difficult to make good money while living life as a person who is transitioning or has transitioned. Escorting seems to be one of the few ways to make a decent living. There is still a lot of discrimination as opposed to gay men and women who seem to be more accepted. For the guys it's still very much not an accepted relationship by family members, friends and society in general to be involved with a transgendered woman.

[TSFantasia]

The saddest part about all of this is that the marriage laws changing for the better had practically zero effect on the transgendered community, and by that I mean tgirls and the guys that are attracted to them. It's like it didn't even matter because nobody is looking for that, which is okay as everyone is free to pursue whatever life they would like to lead, but I find it kind of sad and a waste at the same time. There was such a big deal and celebration at the time, and practically nobody really seems to want to pursue that in the transgendered community. Or...they still find it so unattainable.

I think most of it has to do with two factors: For the girls it's extremely difficult to make good money while living life as a person who is transitioning or has transitioned. Escorting seems to be one of the few ways to make a decent living. There is still a lot of discrimination as opposed to gay men and women who seem to be more accepted. For the guys it's still very much not an accepted relationship by family members, friends and society in general to be involved with a transgendered woman.

Yes that's true I didn't see any news reports on transgender marriages after the gay marriage laws were changed in different states (that's if you don't count all the lesbian couples with the one typical butch, male looking partner..lol...yeah right your not transgender honey).
Seems a lot of trans women who are married are with a supportive female partner, who was with them through their transition. But seeing common-law relationships are more popular its hard to tell how many successfully find LTRs and committed relationships.
Strange how people can accept the norm of a man and woman being together, and now a man and a man or a woman and a woman, but still doesn't accept a man with a woman (who happens to be TG) like WTF!

[Rockheart]

In North America it seems the majority of tgirls don't want a relationship.
Unlike Thailand where many are looking for a steady boyfriend.

There is a few issues I am seeing.
One thing I hear from alot of them is:
"If I am going to have sex I may as well get paid for it"
This kind of attitude is not conducive to relationships.
They want to have sex and get paid for it, secondly to them is to have fun and enjoy it.

Secondly most tgirls are going to have a higher sex drive than a GG girl generally.
So you will find the same attitude towards relationships that men have.
Either they don't want them or they want them to be open.
OR they want to escort while in a relationship.

The other problem I see is a majority of them are attracted to a certain type of guy:
Broked assed skinny thug type with a big dick, no job, no money and a big attitude.
Not sure why this is their dream man
Other than this they tend to look for an older sugar daddy type.
If you don't fall into one of these categories, you probably won't find much.

As they get older or after they have SRS they tend to be more into relationships.
However guys are usually after the younger ones or girls with a dick.

I would say 80% of tgirls are not looking for a relationship.
Probably this same percentage tends to escort, coincidence?

[candyhilton]

for every 100 guys that say they wanna date a tgirl, I truly feel that only 1 of them is serious.

The other 99 just wanna have sex with trannies behind closed doors in the dark of night... god forbid someone see the guy out with a tgirl in the light of day!

These guys will tell tgirls ANYTHING to get them into to bed.. FOR FREE is what I'm getting at.

They just want free sex, and will sugar coat it like there's no tommorow... and if the tgirl/tranny does put out, the guy will satisfy his needs, kick her out of bed, and say "dont u ever fuckin' call me again u faggot"
How do I know this? well... isn't that an easy question?


Thats why I tell guys I meet in person/online "u should go get your mom to blow u"

[TSFantasia]

In North America it seems the majority of tgirls don't want a relationship.
Unlike Thailand where many are looking for a steady boyfriend.

There is a few issues I am seeing.
One thing I hear from alot of them is:
"If I am going to have sex I may as well get paid for it"
This kind of attitude is not conducive to relationships.
They want to have sex and get paid for it, secondly to them is to have fun and enjoy it.

Secondly most tgirls are going to have a higher sex drive than a GG girl generally.
So you will find the same attitude towards relationships that men have.
Either they don't want them or they want them to be open.
OR they want to escort while in a relationship.

The other problem I see is a majority of them are attracted to a certain type of guy:
Broked assed skinny thug type with a big dick, no job, no money and a big attitude.
Not sure why this is their dream man
Other than this they tend to look for an older sugar daddy type.
If you don't fall into one of these categories, you probably won't find much.

As they get older or after they have SRS they tend to be more into relationships.
However guys are usually after the younger ones or girls with a dick.

I would say 80% of tgirls are not looking for a relationship.
Probably this same percentage tends to escort, coincidence?

I would say that may be true of the younger, pretty girls ,under 30 anyways, who want to make hay while the sunshines and also not be tied down to one guy. And many of them are still in the Club scene and party til you drop stage. So older guys who want a tamer lifestyle and quieter life wonder why these girls aren't interested in guys 20+ years older. Besides the attraction to the more youthful looking women they have nothing in common and what interest would young women (TS or GG) have in older greying wrinkling guys other than $$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$s

[VanessaBell]

In North America it seems the majority of tgirls don't want a relationship.
Unlike Thailand where many are looking for a steady boyfriend.

There is a few issues I am seeing.
One thing I hear from alot of them is:
"If I am going to have sex I may as well get paid for it"
This kind of attitude is not conducive to relationships.
They want to have sex and get paid for it, secondly to them is to have fun and enjoy it.

Secondly most tgirls are going to have a higher sex drive than a GG girl generally.
So you will find the same attitude towards relationships that men have.
Either they don't want them or they want them to be open.
OR they want to escort while in a relationship.

The other problem I see is a majority of them are attracted to a certain type of guy:
Broked assed skinny thug type with a big dick, no job, no money and a big attitude.
Not sure why this is their dream man
Other than this they tend to look for an older sugar daddy type.
If you don't fall into one of these categories, you probably won't find much.

As they get older or after they have SRS they tend to be more into relationships.
However guys are usually after the younger ones or girls with a dick.

I would say 80% of tgirls are not looking for a relationship.
Probably this same percentage tends to escort, coincidence?

You appear to be sifting through trash and expecting to find diamonds, so to speak.