What do i do?

[Whatamidoing?]

OK, so this might be a bit of a long story but work with me. met a girl last weekend and got along so decided to see her this weekend, eventually things started to get friendly and she abrubtly stopped things and we had the "i have a penis" conversation.... awkward moment.... i was a bit overwhelmed so we decided to watch netflix and relax as i've never even met a transexual before and wasnt sure how i felt about the situation as ive never found anyone with a penis attractive. i am however very open minded and eventually whether it was attraction or curiosity i gave in and decided to move things along again.

The sex was actually pretty good but a bit awkward as i didnt really know what to do at points. Getting head was easy enough, no surprises there lol. ive been with a few girls who were into anal before so i knew the drill as far as the whole lube, foreplay, condom, lube again thing but then it got interesting.... she climbs on top of me sitting in the couch pulls her panties aside and slides me inside her, slowly but with no prblem... cool... then i fuck her for a while shifting around the room and changing positions and i eventually realize while fucking her on her back that her painties had disappearded and the penis we talked about earlier was right there (mini freak out moment) what the hell am i doing? and now that im doing it how do i do it? do i touch it or something?.. i eventually moved on mentally and occupied my hands with her tits and body. Next surprise. she cums!.. alot.. ok cool but do i stop now or does that just randomly happen?.. so i finished up qiuickly myself and after some mild cuddling we got dressed watched another shitty movie on netflix and then called it a night.

Now ive talked to her a bit about things so she knows im a bit conflicted and im somewhat undecided on what to do from here. we get along well so i see no problem in being friends but im not sure how i feel about a sexual realationship let alone anything serious. If we do decide to keep our relationship sexual im not sure what to do as i have no idea what to do or say sexually etc. If I do it how do I do it? obviously things i need to talk to her about eventually but umm.. help.. advice? assitance? comments? Questions?

[vancouverman]

You already "did it" so just keep doing the same things sexually

It is a bit unreasonable for her to not tell a guy until they get back home that she is TS; a bit risky for someone blowing their top and getting angry . But, she was lucky you were open.

Enjoy it, anal sex is great and it can be hard at times to find regular girls into it, so with this partner you get to do what you want sexually.

Treat her like a girl, don't freak out if you suck her cock.. who cares really. Guys get so hung up on professing they are straight even when they are sucking cocks and all that and you really need to release yourself from needing that label. Unless you live in some redneck town, you won't have much problem going out with her. If your friends mock you for it, they aren't really friends are they? Be with people who accept you for who you are. We all spend too much time trying to conform to what our circle of friends want us to be, instead of finding a circle of friends that accept us for who we really are.

Enjoy the journey, expanding sexuality is a fun thing.

[JessicaDrew]

OK, so this might be a bit of a long story but work with me. met a girl last weekend and got along so decided to see her this weekend, eventually things started to get friendly and she abrubtly stopped things and we had the "i have a penis" conversation.... awkward moment.... i was a bit overwhelmed so we decided to watch netflix and relax as i've never even met a transexual before and wasnt sure how i felt about the situation as ive never found anyone with a penis attractive. i am however very open minded and eventually whether it was attraction or curiosity i gave in and decided to move things along again.

The sex was actually pretty good but a bit awkward as i didnt really know what to do at points. Getting head was easy enough, no surprises there lol. ive been with a few girls who were into anal before so i knew the drill as far as the whole lube, foreplay, condom, lube again thing but then it got interesting.... she climbs on top of me sitting in the couch pulls her panties aside and slides me inside her, slowly but with no prblem... cool... then i fuck her for a while shifting around the room and changing positions and i eventually realize while fucking her on her back that her painties had disappearded and the penis we talked about earlier was right there (mini freak out moment) what the hell am i doing? and now that im doing it how do i do it? do i touch it or something?.. i eventually moved on mentally and occupied my hands with her tits and body. Next surprise. she cums!.. alot.. ok cool but do i stop now or does that just randomly happen?.. so i finished up qiuickly myself and after some mild cuddling we got dressed watched another shitty movie on netflix and then called it a night.

Now ive talked to her a bit about things so she knows im a bit conflicted and im somewhat undecided on what to do from here. we get along well so i see no problem in being friends but im not sure how i feel about a sexual realationship let alone anything serious. If we do decide to keep our relationship sexual im not sure what to do as i have no idea what to do or say sexually etc. If I do it how do I do it? obviously things i need to talk to her about eventually but umm.. help.. advice? assitance? comments? Questions?

The two important things you need to do are:

1. Treat her like you would any other woman
2. Communicate

Clearly she identifies as a woman, regardless of her what's between her legs, so treat her like one. If you like her then date her and see where it goes. Take your time and get to know eachother and if it becomes serious then great, and if not that's fine too. But make the decision based on who she is and not her genitals.

You should be asking her what she wants/needs during sex, not us, and vice-versa. The key to great sex, and a great relationship, is communication. All the things you're thinking and feeling are perfectly natural and understandable. Just remember that a lot of what society tells us about sex and gender, what's "normal" and what isn't, is complete bullshit. She's no less of a woman for having a penis, and you are no less of a man for wanting to be with her.

Don't judge the situation, just go with it. Have fun and see where it takes you!

Jess

[Whatamidoing?]

The two important things you need to do are:

1. Treat her like you would any other woman
2. Communicate

Clearly she identifies as a woman, regardless of her what's between her legs, so treat her like one. If you like her then date her and see where it goes. Take your time and get to know eachother and if it becomes serious then great, and if not that's fine too. But make the decision based on who she is and not her genitals.

You should be asking her what she wants/needs during sex, not us, and vice-versa. The key to great sex, and a great relationship, is communication. All the things you're thinking and feeling are perfectly natural and understandable. Just remember that a lot of what society tells us about sex and gender, what's "normal" and what isn't, is complete bullshit. She's no less of a woman for having a penis, and you are no less of a man for wanting to be with her.

Don't judge the situation, just go with it. Have fun and see where it takes you!

Jess

Thanks, some of it is a bit awkward to talk about because I don't want to say the wrong thing but I suppose ill work my way
through it.

[Whatamidoing?]

Treat her like a girl, don't freak out if you suck her cock.. who cares really.

Oh wow.. never actually thought about that...

Unless you live in some redneck town, you won't have much problem going out with her.

HA if only you knew, she is from a bigger town/city about 45 mins away though.

[rider014]

Uncharted territory

Wow, this is new for here. You met, you didn't arrange. You were intimate, you didn't pay. You finished, then you stayed.
Congratulations, you've just dumbfounded a lot of the male members here.
It does seem a little strange that considering the unique situation you are in has been a well documented desire of many clients and even escorts, that you would bring your story here and ask for advice.
If your situation is legit, Jess said what you need to hear and good luck to you.

[Whatamidoing?]

If your situation is legit,

Trust me, it was a real penis....

[rider014]

Trust me, it was a real penis....

I never questioned her cock.

[JessicaDrew]

Thanks, some of it is a bit awkward to talk about because I don't want to say the wrong thing but I suppose ill work my way
through it.

I'm sure she understands that this is not easy for you, so don't worry so much about what you're going to say. Just be as respectful as possible. Your willingness to talk with her, and listen to her, is what's really important!

[tenop]

a rare find, lucky you.

[TSFantasia]

OK, so this might be a bit of a long story but work with me. met a girl last weekend and got along so decided to see her this weekend, eventually things started to get friendly and she abrubtly stopped things and we had the "i have a penis" conversation.... awkward moment.... i was a bit overwhelmed so we decided to watch netflix and relax as i've never even met a transexual before and wasnt sure how i felt about the situation as ive never found anyone with a penis attractive. i am however very open minded and eventually whether it was attraction or curiosity i gave in and decided to move things along again.

The sex was actually pretty good but a bit awkward as i didnt really know what to do at points. Getting head was easy enough, no surprises there lol. ive been with a few girls who were into anal before so i knew the drill as far as the whole lube, foreplay, condom, lube again thing but then it got interesting.... she climbs on top of me sitting in the couch pulls her panties aside and slides me inside her, slowly but with no prblem... cool... then i fuck her for a while shifting around the room and changing positions and i eventually realize while fucking her on her back that her painties had disappearded and the penis we talked about earlier was right there (mini freak out moment) what the hell am i doing? and now that im doing it how do i do it? do i touch it or something?.. i eventually moved on mentally and occupied my hands with her tits and body. Next surprise. she cums!.. alot.. ok cool but do i stop now or does that just randomly happen?.. so i finished up qiuickly myself and after some mild cuddling we got dressed watched another shitty movie on netflix and then called it a night.

Now ive talked to her a bit about things so she knows im a bit conflicted and im somewhat undecided on what to do from here. we get along well so i see no problem in being friends but im not sure how i feel about a sexual realationship let alone anything serious. If we do decide to keep our relationship sexual im not sure what to do as i have no idea what to do or say sexually etc. If I do it how do I do it? obviously things i need to talk to her about eventually but umm.. help.. advice? assitance? comments? Questions?

Cool sounds like a fun night with the mythical T-girl surprise Hope you get to see her again and enjoy the ride ! As others have said treat her like any other girl/woman (assuming you treat women right that is) go with the flow most t-girls prefer to be touched like a woman so doubt she will be forcing her penis down your throat anytime soon lol. Genitals may be a big part of sex but is really the smallest part of the person. Obviously she was attractive and passable to you so don't be shy about going out to clubs, restaurants, movies, etc. Guys have a bad habit of becoming suddenly paranoid like everyone around them has X-ray vision...they don't !

[mc99]

Get to know HER. If you like her as a person, want to spend time with her and are attracted to her that's really the important part. Sounds like you enjoyed your time with her, that's the most important part. Like was mentioned, don't get hung up on what's between her legs, that's not who she is. Good luck

Cheers,

MC