Shemale Gf

[Loves]

Was wondering, if someone was actually looking for a shemale gf , you know an actually gf like to be in a relationship with, where would one go to meet ? Is there a good place ?
I'm in the Toronto area
Thanks

[vancouverman]

Just a small word of advice for you

If you are looking for actual dating and relationships, you may not want to call them shemales when interacting with them. If that is how you view "them". you may not be ready for a relationship and should stick with escorting, fantasy fulfillment, and porn.

[Rockheart]

Vancouverman makes a good point. On a personal level they don't like to be referred to as shemales. Most don't mind what they are called but some make a big deal about it, so best to be politically sensitive if you want a relationship with someone like this.
Tgirl, TS, trans or girl are more accepted terms.

In Western society a majority of tgirls have chosen escorting and/or porn as a career, up to 80% or more. A few in the community complain they can't get regular jobs, but most are not looking. Many feel if they are going to have sex, they may as well get paid for it. So most of these tgirls won't be having an regular relationship with anyone, as they don't feel they should give sex away freely when they can get money for it. (This is the male part of their brain working over time) So as a result of this phenomenon there is not that many tgirls looking for a real relationship. They may say they want one but in the end they won't give up a lucrative adult profession if they have it, many may look at it as ruining their career. So often they are just looking for boytoys for boyfriends and to meet that you need to be good looking and hung.

You can meet TS in the normal places you meet women but there is just alot less of them to meet. Plus if they blend in how do you know that they are specifically Tgirls? So if you try to meet them in clubs, grocery stores and church groups you will probably have to choose them based on your attraction to them, not whether they have a cock or not, because that may not be apparent. Plus you must be willing to go out in public with them, even if they are not so passable, otherwise you will never get anywhere.

The other common factor about Tgirls they are very attached to the Gay community. They may start out Gay or just find comfort in the community as it is more accepting. Still in the end most of them will be found hanging at Gay bars from time to time. When they are at Gay bars they are mostly on personal time, compared to Goodhandys where they are all working. So getting involved in the gay community or going to gay bars is another route to meet tgirls. You also are more likely to meet tgirls that are just starting out or that are just crossdressers. Regardless you must be comfortable interacting in the gay community.

In the end you have to ask yourself why you want to date a tgirl. In the end most are trying to be girls so if you are just after the cock, then it may just be a sexual thing only. If it is just a sex thing, you should probably stick to escorts and porn because you won't find much chance for casual sex in this community unless you are a super hunk or a customer.

If you really think you cannot live without a full time relationship with a TS you should probably move to Thailand.
In the west we are just not evolved enough in this area that you could easily find a permanent relationship with a tgirl.

[Loves]

First of all I would like to sincerely apologize for referring you girls as shemales, that was the ignorant part of me. I'm very sorry.

Thanks for replying to my question much appreciated

let's see why do I want a tgirl we'll let's see its for companionship, someone to talk with, laugh with , hold hands, get in arguements, make up, to love and with any relationship sure intimacy yes please. Of course I can get this with a guy or a girl, but whenever I've been in a relationship with a guy or a girl I am not happy but with a tgirl I feel like I can be more comfortable. Now granted I've never been in a relationship with tgirl, but this is why
.I'm probably just a hopeless romantic.

But it looks like I will have to move overseas for it to happened..
its ashamed or rather is too bad that most tgirls (80%) are just in this for the money. Well honestly who can blame them, girl gotta eat right?

And unfortunately I'm not a super hunk like ....who is hunky these days.....that football player ...Beckham, nor am hung lol....God blessed me with normal lol.

anywho thanks for reading and thanks for the advice

[Dita Dior]

I wish you all the luck as much as no transwoman is going to enjoy a fetish relationship.
XXX

[Loves]

Fetish relationship? That sounds bad, im not looking for that, im just looking from be happy and share my love with

[Bawb]

Was wondering, if someone was actually looking for a shemale gf , you know an actually gf like to be in a relationship with, where would one go to meet ? Is there a good place ?
I'm in the Toronto area
Thanks

My current gf is a post op tgirl and I met her via craigslist.
There is a section for casual and miscellaneous relationships that tgs will sometimes use.
Also, if you can find an escort nearing retirement, sometimes they will want one quality bf to be with.

[Rockheart]

First of all I would like to sincerely apologize for referring you girls as shemales, that was the ignorant part of me. I'm very sorry.

Thanks for replying to my question much appreciated

let's see why do I want a tgirl we'll let's see its for companionship, someone to talk with, laugh with , hold hands, get in arguements, make up, to love and with any relationship sure intimacy yes please. Of course I can get this with a guy or a girl, but whenever I've been in a relationship with a guy or a girl I am not happy but with a tgirl I feel like I can be more comfortable. Now granted I've never been in a relationship with tgirl, but this is why
.I'm probably just a hopeless romantic.

But it looks like I will have to move overseas for it to happened..
its ashamed or rather is too bad that most tgirls (80%) are just in this for the money. Well honestly who can blame them, girl gotta eat right?

And unfortunately I'm not a super hunk like ....who is hunky these days.....that football player ...Beckham, nor am hung lol....God blessed me with normal lol.

anywho thanks for reading and thanks for the advice

I didn't say you had to go overseas, it is just easier. There is many more ladyboys per capita in Thailand and more opportunity period.
There is personals sites but you will find a large majority that end up being escorts or just playing you. Post ops are out there for relationships but often they are older and not exactly "shemales" anymore.

There is lots of good reasons to do escorting and porn because it pays very well and they can meet richer benefactors.
Getting all the surgeries and stuff is expensive so many opt for the sex work because of the high pay.
Others don't feel they can get other work or specifically want to do sex work because they like it.
Often you will find they are looking for older well off boyfriends. Sometimes this can be because they have been through a lot in life and they can identify more with an older and experienced man. A great number of TS I have met have much more experience with sex and relationships early in life and have long ago gone through the giggly hand holding stage, even at 20.

Like i said you can go looking for them in the usual places you look for girls but, as I say, then you are looking for a needle in a haystack. If you are specifically looking to see a girl with a dick, you have to go where you know that for sure.
Meeting them as an escort or at a gay bar is usually the only way you can be sure.

There is just not that many full time tgirls in our society compared to genetic girls. This is why finding one for a relationship is hard and the reason they command good pay in sex work. There is many more very attractive tgirls you can meet that are not full time but actually crossdressers. However this means hanging out in the gay community and bars and the fact they may live as a man sometimes. Often these crossdressers can have the same feelings as full time transsexuals, they just don't have the opportunity or drive to go full time.

You really have to think what you are after, and if it is specifically a full time girl with a cock, that is pretty hard to find. The holding hands and all that is great but if the cock is the main thing then you must check your priorities.

[Dita Dior]

Fetish relationship? That sounds bad, im not looking for that, im just looking from be happy and share my love with

It sounds like a Fetish to me. I had my ex for three years and how you approach the situation a man wouldn't attack it this way.

Then again for relationship for myself same as most transwomen I want to be treated as a woman not as a object like a man who considers us as a shemale.

To each their own but if someone wanted to date me just because of my dick it would probably turn into a physical fight for someone trying to play me as a Fetish. ✨✨

[vancouverman]

Fetish relationship? That sounds bad, im not looking for that, im just looking from be happy and share my love with

Yeah but you see if the reason you want a Trans woman is because she has a dick, then a serious and genuine relationship will be a difficult path. Because you are approaching it from a fantasy or fetish aspect. I am sure there are ladies that can relate that when SrS comes around the so called love of their life suddenly loses a lot of interest.

And one of the reasons they are "in it for the money", is you don't look like the ladies we see here and in porn without spending money. And depending on the woman, it may be a lot of it. If you could make six figures a year having people suck your dick, wouldn't you think about it? You can't be frustrated at anyone for making that choice.

It's a tough spot for everyone to be in when looking for love. The girls have their guard up because most guys are looking for dicks, not love. The guys have their guards up because money can be such a central issue in dating.

I think a man who has love for women whether they are genetic or trans, and is looking for more than just what is in their pants, will have a better opportunity to make a connection that lasts. I have dated some trans women (including 2 escorts who dated me for a while) and it only worked because they were women to me who just happened to be one way from the other... not dick fantasies..... just keep that in mind. Also a bit more complicated if you are a bottom because they will look at you in a different light than someone treating them as a woman.

Again, if the cock is your driving force, stick to escorting.. you can have a lot of fun and you can make great friendships through there without any complications. You can book a nice girl for a dinner date and night in the bedroom and have that companionship and chat and not have any misunderstandings. You can become a regular with someone you have chemistry with , and while money is the driving force, you can enjoy that companionship that you may seek without anyone getting hurt.

[Paco]

Craig nailed it

I think my next relationship or all of them will be TS - pre or post op but if i had to choose it would be with what they are born with but its not my number 1 criteria.

The ones i met were beautiful people plus more passion, surprised how wonderful and down to earth they are.

The amount of BS with gg turns me off over the last 6 years especially.

I saw a few TS at GUVERNMENT a few years back that i had seen as a customer and i sort of blew them off and two of them were quite hurt. It killed me to have to do that but i was more about gg back then and even more into partying for the sake of partying.

Those two are the sweetest human beings you can meet. Felt bad but thats where i was back then.

Missed a lot of potentially good relationships with TS. The last one was a gem......ask any her clients or friends but you live and learn.

[Brnsglover]

From another Perspective

What do the girls who do sex work want out of their lives? Where do they see themselves in ten or fifteen years, still escorting, post-op and married? I see very beautiful feminine ladies on SMC and cannot believe they are still sex workers and not in a monogamous relationship with a rich handsome guy and wonder what the girl wants out of life down the road.

[Shyla Wild]

cannot believe they are still sex workers and not in a monogamous relationship with a rich handsome guy and wonder what the girl wants out of life down the road.

A golddigger posted a request for a rich husband....JP Morgan answered:

Dear Ms. Pretty, I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyse your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I?m not wasting time here. From the standpoint of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain.
Put the details aside, what you?re trying to do is an exchange of ?beauty" and ?money" : Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there?s a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason. The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can?t be prettier year after year.
Hence from the viewpoint of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It?s not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worse 10 years later.
By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a ?trading position". If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term - same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or ?leased".
Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income.This has better chance than finding a rich fool.
Hope this reply helps.
signed, J.P. Morgan CEO

[TSFantasia]

Was wondering, if someone was actually looking for a shemale gf , you know an actually gf like to be in a relationship with, where would one go to meet ? Is there a good place ?
I'm in the Toronto area
Thanks

You're in one of the most populous Canadian cities and likely the highest concentration of trans women at different stages of transition. Use dating sites like TSdating or other transgender specific sites. As well as the regular dating sites POF, Match, Zoosk though they will be harder to spot on them but they usually put "clues" in their profile description in regards to being trans.

While it may seem from sites like this and SMC that all the pretty ones are sex workers you will find a lot that are not or are pretty casual about it waiting for that ONE SINCERE guy to show up and rescue them On that note if you are expecting a young "10" you better be on that level yourself (ie hot, hunky & handsome) otherwise your going to be in the ATM BF position.

Let her reveal her "pre-op or post-op" status to you when she's ready. Hey if your sincere and see her as a real person/woman it won't matter right?

[circular69er]

Hey if your sincere and see her as a real person/woman it won't matter right?

Right on!