Sending mixed message

[bluequad]

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I've been here. Life gets in the way of my computer time these days. Anyway, I've been reading through quite a few threads lately now that I have a little more free time and came across many where the topic was about a client being topped. "Who's the best top", "Who's a good top for my first time", "Who goes slow and who just rams it in", etc. etc. Then I read several more threads where several girls mention that T-Girls don't like to top at all regardless of who she's with but do it because they are professionals and that's what the client is asking for. Many of these same girls also mention how they love what they do and advertise offering GFE. So how can someone dislike something but do it because it's the professional way of handling things and love what they're doing at the same time? I get that a T-Girl is really a woman in every way except biologically and the vast majority of women prefer to receive but isn't this sending mixed messages to the clients? Wouldn't it be a better practice for a T-Girl that offers topping services to not say anything about T-Girls not liking to top in posts on this site or in social media or in person? I know for me personally, I'm not going to try to see a girl if I know she doesn't like what I want to have done even if it's on the menu and she's gorgeous. I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself. The whole time I would be thinking about how much she hates what she's doing. No amount of fantasy, acting, illusion or professionalism could overcome that for me. I'm going to choose a girl that makes no mention of whether she likes something or not. At least then I can keep the fantasy/illusion alive that she's part of the 1% that does like what I'm seeking to have happen. What are your thoughts?

[Hockeydude89]

This is how I have felt for a very long time myself. Sometimes, I kinda feel fucked up for being into what I'm into, because so many girls are turned off by it. I have been told that there are some girls who enjoy it, but from what I can tell it's just not very common. Who knows. I get your confusion though.

[vancouverman]

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I've been here. Life gets in the way of my computer time these days. Anyway, I've been reading through quite a few threads lately now that I have a little more free time and came across many where the topic was about a client being topped. "Who's the best top", "Who's a good top for my first time", "Who goes slow and who just rams it in", etc. etc. Then I read several more threads where several girls mention that T-Girls don't like to top at all regardless of who she's with but do it because they are professionals and that's what the client is asking for. Many of these same girls also mention how they love what they do and advertise offering GFE. So how can someone dislike something but do it because it's the professional way of handling things and love what they're doing at the same time? I get that a T-Girl is really a woman in every way except biologically and the vast majority of women prefer to receive but isn't this sending mixed messages to the clients? Wouldn't it be a better practice for a T-Girl that offers topping services to not say anything about T-Girls not liking to top in posts on this site or in social media or in person? I know for me personally, I'm not going to try to see a girl if I know she doesn't like what I want to have done even if it's on the menu and she's gorgeous. I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself. The whole time I would be thinking about how much she hates what she's doing. No amount of fantasy, acting, illusion or professionalism could overcome that for me. I'm going to choose a girl that makes no mention of whether she likes something or not. At least then I can keep the fantasy/illusion alive that she's part of the 1% that does like what I'm seeking to have happen. What are your thoughts?

Escorts may not be for you if you are overly concerned with whether the girl is putting on an act or not. If they give you a great experience that is what you are paying for and you should enjoy it. Sometimes the person may be genuine about it and sometimes it is an act. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you have an amazing time.

In saying that, most girls prefer to bottom and they top because it is a money maker (even just on this little forum you can see the cock is far and away the most talked about thing). Most will get SRS when they retire from escorting or it stops making money. You just have to accept that and not worry about it. This is about fantasy and if you are seeing professionals that is what you are expecting. They put on a show for you and give you what you are seeking. Everyone wins, but if you are worried about it being spiritual or 100% real then you probably will find escorting to be unsatisfying for you. They take all kinds of clients and they can't be expected to be excited and turned on by all of them; however each client expects top level service so sometimes they have to put in an act.

If someone "dislikes" something but advertises it; well, they are doing it because it makes money and they chose to provide it. If they are choosing to offer the service that is all that matters; everyone is a willing participant in a great evening together. I am a top so I don't face the worry you are sharing here, however I do understand how you feel. I just think you won't find peace if it is a factor.

If you burdened by the internal feelings of someone you are paying for a sexual time and whether they are faking it or not; then escorting will drive you nuts. Those are answers you can never solve >

[Hockeydude89]

Escorts may not be for you if you are overly concerned with whether the girl is putting on an act or not. If they give you a great experience that is what you are paying for and you should enjoy it. Sometimes the person may be genuine about it and sometimes it is an act. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you have an amazing time.

In saying that, most girls prefer to bottom and they top because it is a money maker (even just on this little forum you can see the cock is far and away the most talked about thing). Most will get SRS when they retire from escorting or it stops making money. You just have to accept that and not worry about it. This is about fantasy and if you are seeing professionals that is what you are expecting. They put on a show for you and give you what you are seeking. Everyone wins, but if you are worried about it being spiritual or 100% real then you probably will find escorting to be unsatisfying for you. They take all kinds of clients and they can't be expected to be excited and turned on by all of them; however each client expects top level service so sometimes they have to put in an act.

If someone "dislikes" something but advertises it; well, they are doing it because it makes money and they chose to provide it. If they are choosing to offer the service that is all that matters; everyone is a willing participant in a great evening together. I am a top so I don't face the worry you are sharing here, however I do understand how you feel. I just think you won't find peace if it is a factor.

If you burdened by the internal feelings of someone you are paying for a sexual time and whether they are faking it or not; then escorting will drive you nuts. Those are answers you can never solve >

Good answer. Me personally, I'm not sure it is for me. Which puts me in a corner, because how do you find someone interested in what your interested in, in this case if they are not a professional. I'm sure there are SOME out there...but probably few and far between. It's frustrating.

[Bawb]

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I've been here. Life gets in the way of my computer time these days. Anyway, I've been reading through quite a few threads lately now that I have a little more free time and came across many where the topic was about a client being topped. "Who's the best top", "Who's a good top for my first time", "Who goes slow and who just rams it in", etc. etc. Then I read several more threads where several girls mention that T-Girls don't like to top at all regardless of who she's with but do it because they are professionals and that's what the client is asking for. Many of these same girls also mention how they love what they do and advertise offering GFE. So how can someone dislike something but do it because it's the professional way of handling things and love what they're doing at the same time? I get that a T-Girl is really a woman in every way except biologically and the vast majority of women prefer to receive but isn't this sending mixed messages to the clients? Wouldn't it be a better practice for a T-Girl that offers topping services to not say anything about T-Girls not liking to top in posts on this site or in social media or in person? I know for me personally, I'm not going to try to see a girl if I know she doesn't like what I want to have done even if it's on the menu and she's gorgeous. I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself. The whole time I would be thinking about how much she hates what she's doing. No amount of fantasy, acting, illusion or professionalism could overcome that for me. I'm going to choose a girl that makes no mention of whether she likes something or not. At least then I can keep the fantasy/illusion alive that she's part of the 1% that does like what I'm seeking to have happen. What are your thoughts?

You may be over analyzing things.
Find a tgirl who genuinely likes to top.
SMC has a lot to choose from.

[Alexis]

Hi everyone. It's been a while since I've been here. Life gets in the way of my computer time these days. Anyway, I've been reading through quite a few threads lately now that I have a little more free time and came across many where the topic was about a client being topped. "Who's the best top", "Who's a good top for my first time", "Who goes slow and who just rams it in", etc. etc. Then I read several more threads where several girls mention that T-Girls don't like to top at all regardless of who she's with but do it because they are professionals and that's what the client is asking for. Many of these same girls also mention how they love what they do and advertise offering GFE. So how can someone dislike something but do it because it's the professional way of handling things and love what they're doing at the same time? I get that a T-Girl is really a woman in every way except biologically and the vast majority of women prefer to receive but isn't this sending mixed messages to the clients? Wouldn't it be a better practice for a T-Girl that offers topping services to not say anything about T-Girls not liking to top in posts on this site or in social media or in person? I know for me personally, I'm not going to try to see a girl if I know she doesn't like what I want to have done even if it's on the menu and she's gorgeous. I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself. The whole time I would be thinking about how much she hates what she's doing. No amount of fantasy, acting, illusion or professionalism could overcome that for me. I'm going to choose a girl that makes no mention of whether she likes something or not. At least then I can keep the fantasy/illusion alive that she's part of the 1% that does like what I'm seeking to have happen. What are your thoughts?

I'll offer some insight..

Why offer a service that is in high demand like topping a guy? 200-300/h+ is why..

It's certainly possible to offer a GFE/PSE and have a girl that prefers to be the bottom top you in a very passionate way.. It's really not that difficult to make some guy your little bitch and it can even be fun.. If it were me looking for someone I'd be sure to try and find someone that is genuine, honest, not an addict, not high volume and not going to hustle me out the door immediately cuz the next client is waiting and I was already the 3rd in line.. But that's me..

Now as for those of us that say "ya we prefer to bottom", well that's simply honesty.. It's also helpful for those men that are out there to realize that girls prefer to be the ones getting fucked in most cases.. Fucking me good is almost a guaranteed way of making me cum and I know that's the prize that most guys want..

So in a nutshell, I advertise that I'm versatile, which I am.. As to how well I can fuck you, it depends on chemistry, I'll either enjoy it lots or it'll be mediocre.. Your millage may vary.. Oh and if I like you, I'll let you see me again..

[toban]

I concur

You, vancouverman have put into words, exactly what I was attempting to write but you?ve said it better than what I had already written!

[bluequad]

I get what everyone is saying and no vancouverman, I don't look for any experience to be spiritual or even care if it's real or if they like what has been asked of them to do. It's business. Money for a service. It's my fantasy and the escort has agreed to fulfill it. Nothing more nothing less. I just don't want to know that they hate or dislike it. There's a big difference between preferring to bottom and hating/disliking topping. All I was trying to convey is why admit it? Think of it this way. If the owner of a car dealership advertises that he's got this car for sale and I should come buy it because it's the best and then I see that owner someplace talking about how they hate/dislike that car or read online how they hate/dislike it, I'm probably not going to buy that car or even take it for a test drive. Now if he were to advertise how the car is the best but then later hear or read him say he prefers a truck, I might still be interested and buy that car.