Someone posted a herpes warning on Backpage - are all providers really a risk really?

[miketobias]

Hi all. Sorry for the discussion post, been with two SP's in the past, and had great experiences - been a few years now and I've been kinda debating whether I should follow through on another.

So as it would be the past while I've been browsing and debating - but then this warning about a SP came up as an ad on BP and kinda spooked me.

I know some of the girls post that they are happy to share their health check ups on request, but are there things not caught on those records that we are all gambling on?

The BP ad in particular said herpes. Not sure how common that is amongst the community on either side, provider or client, but it made me seriously reconsider whether or not to follow through on making an appointment since I've been so fortunate to already have 2 amazing experiences and now been some years after with continued clean health and all tests.

That being said, what are ways to mitigate the risks of certain undetectable but still transmittable infections? Covered oral is let down obviously, but will that be a worthy defense? If you inspect the area and there are no signs of anything - is the uncovered risk still just as great?

Thats I guess most of the dilemma... Worried about getting swept up in the moment and if there's a lil skin in play what the risks might be. I mean, there are some girls who are legend here and obviously that means I would like to see them - but by that same measure, having that great reputation and knowing I've seen these girls ads now for years - would there be even greater potential for risk (even if highest quality provider) simply because of the sheer number of people that may have come through?

Hmmm just curious, sorry again about the length or if it's kind of a sensitive subject, as much as I like to gamble I wonder if I might be best to stay away from the hobby since I have been lucky.

[zipperzon]

Everything has a certain degree of risk, your best bet is to educate yourself and decide if the risk is worth it for you.

STI transmission rates / infection rates / risks etc. are all easily found with a Google search.

[JamieGirl]

Sex with someone you don't really know even meeting someone at a club and having a one night stand with is a roll of the dice. Herpes is quite a common STD and unless they are having a flair up then chances are that you are safe. Its the other shit that will get you though. LOL I know more people that contracted STDs from their boyfriends and girlfriends than though sex workers.

[alex99]

I saw a herpes warning on CL before too. It's smart not to rush into things, since the longer you take a look around, the more you will know about who to avoid. With a forum like this, you can also find out a lot of info about some people that can be very telling - like levels of cleanliness, indications of drug addiction, anti-social behaviour, etc. Worst case scenario - you meet a gg, settle down, and have a family.

[Meagan Nutwood]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aU4VcOQzQm0

[justvisiting2016]

I do not have a study in front of me, so don't quote me.... however, herpes in various forms is in something like 25% of the population. Other than fear mongering from textbooks, do any of us reall know someone who;s quality of life is ruined or life is shortened or are ending up in the hospital because they have a herpes outbreak on their lip every couple of months or something like that?

We live in an era where a lot of our fellow people willingly poison themselves with cigarettes that guarantee a shorter life and serious health issues as they age. We drink too much, we eat too much, we drink cola, on and on..

I think in the grand scheme of human life, worrying yourself to sleep about catching herpes to the point that you stop having sex is just not common sense. If you drive, you might have an accident one day, if you work in labor jobs, you might break a bone or damage your back, everything has some level of risk to it.

I am in my 40s and have been sexually active as much as I could. Trans escorts, dating women I meet in the real world, casual or serious relationships, swinging, etc.... I have never picked up an STI. Am I the luckiest man in the world and should play the lotto? or are things a bit over blown at times.?

I have always lived with the belief of choosing quality partners, taking precautions based on each situation, and living life. For example, I wouldn't get some random blowjob from a drunk girl I met at a bar that night, that to me is risky. I chose who I am with as best as I can and stay away from sketchy people and situations and it serves me well. That is one of the reasons when I am in the dating world I always spend time getting to know someone before becoming intimate with her (that may mean a couple of dinner dates or some nice activities).. I never did random hookups in the "civilian world" as they are more risky than top shelf escorts. It helps me feel I am making a great choice and that my risk factors are minimal. ANd I learned long ago that the sex is a hell of a lot better when you take time to smell the roses and connect as people. Hence why I often invite an escort for dinner before we have our play time.

And any thing on backpages that is ""outing someone" is likely a smear. There are a lot of men posting here on the forum who are seeing escorts regularly and we aren't picking up any STI's.

[Meagan Nutwood]

I agree, even all my years escorting, the only thing I've ever had was a uti.... and the gag is, that was when I was in a "monogamous" relationship with my ex at the time, and I wasn't escorting for the sake of the relationship, lol. Even thought I do not engage in high risk activities, catching something is definitely one of my biggest fears but technically, I've never tested positive for anything all these years. So I definitely think certain things are blown out of proportion and contribute to fear mongering stigma. People should just make smart/educated decisions and enjoy their lives to the fullest.

I do not have a study in front of me, so don't quote me.... however, herpes in various forms is in something like 25% of the population. Other than fear mongering from textbooks, do any of us reall know someone who;s quality of life is ruined or life is shortened or are ending up in the hospital because they have a herpes outbreak on their lip every couple of months or something like that?

We live in an era where a lot of our fellow people willingly poison themselves with cigarettes that guarantee a shorter life and serious health issues as they age. We drink too much, we eat too much, we drink cola, on and on..

I think in the grand scheme of human life, worrying yourself to sleep about catching herpes to the point that you stop having sex is just not common sense. If you drive, you might have an accident one day, if you work in labor jobs, you might break a bone or damage your back, everything has some level of risk to it.

I am in my 40s and have been sexually active as much as I could. Trans escorts, dating women I meet in the real world, casual or serious relationships, swinging, etc.... I have never picked up an STI. Am I the luckiest man in the world and should play the lotto? or are things a bit over blown at times.?

I have always lived with the belief of choosing quality partners, taking precautions based on each situation, and living life. For example, I wouldn't get some random blowjob from a drunk girl I met at a bar that night, that to me is risky. I chose who I am with as best as I can and stay away from sketchy people and situations and it serves me well. That is one of the reasons when I am in the dating world I always spend time getting to know someone before becoming intimate with her (that may mean a couple of dinner dates or some nice activities).. I never did random hookups. It helps me feel I am making a great choice and that my risk factors are minimal.

And any thing on backpages that is ""outing someone" is likely a smear. There are a lot of men posting here on the forum who are seeing escorts regularly and we aren't picking up any STI's.

[dan_calgary]

but then this warning about a SP came up as an ad on BP and kinda spooked me.

If u believe comments made on BP, you might as well believe everything the National Enquirer and National Register report,

Nuff said

just my $0.02

[merelypink]

always play it safe and use condoms

[sadeh]

sadeh honey for safe sex

Guys and gals safe sex is better than any bb sex.
I prefer my time not wasted by ignorant play mates.

Reality i prefer the use of condoms for oral sex, use of condoms for sexual intercourse.

You can get herpes from kissing and from anal rimming.
You can avoid herpes, hpv and hepatitis if you simply follow the Golden rule and notparticipate in any monkey sex, as i call it.
These vd stds are also non curable meaning people have to keep visiting the doc every month for vd pills. i cannot imagine that sort of life.

Lucky being a sex provider i have always maintained good health, and i definetly have been tested.
I am lucky not having any sti and stds that i mentioned..

I suggest you ask your sex mate for their health records last tested within the last 6 months, if they are in good health they will provide the information.

Make the right choice and wrap up your dick, i always use condoms on my dick.

always play it safe and use condoms