Mutual attraction - important or superfluous?

[xoxJanexox]

Aside from the therapist psychobabble, I think it's fairly split down the middle on this thread as to whether or not it matters or should matter. I guess I'll use my best judgment and be myself. Cheers.

Now you start a thread asking about people opinions and when you're faced with a reality check you start calling it psychobabble.
There's nothing split in here! You guys are con artists in creating mutual attraction myth. It's a way for those with low self esteem to circumvent the fact that they are paying for sex. Any reasonable mature person would know for real that a sexual encounter with any of the girls demanding high dollar outside the business transaction is non-existent.

If you want to use your best judgement that's your choice, but don't pose a question in a public forum and expect some ego massage!

[PrinceVegeta]

Now you start a thread asking about people opinions and when you're faced with a reality check you start calling it psychobabble.
There's nothing split in here! You guys are con artists in creating mutual attraction myth. It's a way for those with low self esteem to circumvent the fact that they are paying for sex. Any reasonable mature person would know for real that a sexual encounter with any of the girls demanding high dollar outside the business transaction is non-existent.

If you want to use your best judgement that's your choice, but don't pose a question in a public forum and expect some ego massage!

The post wasn't sent to stroke my ego. It was posted to genuinely ask a question. Opinions, however, are not fact and since you seem to be of the opinion that I'm a con artist without so much as knowing anything about me or my intentions, I'm of the opinion that I should just be myself and relax. Thanks again! =)

[Jmatthew]

Any reasonable mature person would know for real that a sexual encounter with any of the girls demanding high dollar outside the business transaction is non-existent.

That's where you're misunderstanding us. Anyways...

To Vegeta, when you do find a provider that finds you attractive (god forbid) and you are attracted to, you'll know. And those of the ones your call back.

[justvisiting2016]

The debate about whether an escort can have chemistry or attraction to a man she meets through business is not going to change anyone's mind. so I just wanted to add another comment that came up. I will say that there are plenty of reasons someone sees an escort that have nothing to do with esteem issues. A fairly long list actually.

[xoxJanexox]

To Vegeta, when you do find a provider that finds you attractive (god forbid) and you are attracted to, you'll know. And those of the ones your call back.

Dare to spell how? Sounds like a blind telling another blind that when he reaches Younge and Dundas he would know!

[PrinceVegeta]

The debate about whether an escort can have chemistry or attraction to a man she meets through business is not going to change anyone's mind. so I just wanted to add another comment that came up. I will say that there are plenty of reasons someone sees an escort that have nothing to do with esteem issues. A fairly long list actually.

Yea, I'm unclear why my self esteem issues keep coming up at all. I've not denied them but also don't understand why they'd be used as a weapon against me regarding this subject. *shrug*

[justvisiting2016]

Yea, I'm unclear why my self esteem issues keep coming up at all. I've not denied them but also don't understand why they'd be used as a weapon against me regarding this subject. *shrug*

in some people's minds , there will always be a prevailing disrespect for men who exchange money for sexual fantasies or services . "You pay because you can't get it otherwise" is a common insult for people who don't understand. I don't think that is going away anytime soon, we just have to let it roll off our backs just like escorts have to with prevailing attitudes that they are low lifes for selling their bodies.

[Jmatthew]

Dare to spell how? Sounds like a blind telling another blind that when he reaches Younge and Dundas he would know!

Not really, lol. I don't think that's what he was asking originally as that is a fairly common social skill. I was being encouraging.

[PrinceVegeta]

in some people's minds , there will always be a prevailing disrespect for men who exchange money for sexual fantasies or services . "You pay because you can't get it otherwise" is a common insult for people who don't understand. I don't think that is going away anytime soon, we just have to let it roll off our backs just like escorts have to with prevailing attitudes that they are low lifes for selling their bodies.

I would prefer not having to pay for that curiosity..but I understand the supply and demand aspect and I understand that this is someone's livelihood and therefore I'm respectful of that. I've never felt attractive. I'm a guy with a kid, I had a long, toxic HS relationship that I never broke free from until it was too late and I sorta developed self esteem issues from that. I would have thought this would be a place where acceptance and understanding was free..but I guess I have to pay for that too? I dunno...if Jane's POV is the prevailing POV...that's a bummer. I can only be myself. Thanks for the insight, mang.

[xoxJanexox]

Not really, lol. I don't think that's what he was asking originally as that is a fairly common social skill. I was being encouraging.

We need to know that common social skill. You mentioned it, so please back it up. Tell us from the moment that you reach the escort door with a pile of cash to the end how you would know she was attracted to you?

[justvisiting2016]

I would prefer not having to pay for that curiosity..but I understand the supply and demand aspect and I understand that this is someone's livelihood and therefore I'm respectful of that. I've never felt attractive. I'm a guy with a kid, I had a long, toxic HS relationship that I never broke free from until it was too late and I sorta developed self esteem issues from that. I would have thought this would be a place where acceptance and understanding was free..but I guess I have to pay for that too? I dunno...if Jane's POV is the prevailing POV...that's a bummer. I can only be myself. Thanks for the insight, mang.

Her view is her own and not the only view of course. Most of us can share experiences of becoming real life friends with escorts and doing stuff that is not compensated for. Humans can connect and bond in any number of ways. She is correct in the sense that you are paying for an illusion. And worrying about whether that illusion is real or fake can cause you a lot of grief. However, other possibilities can and do happen . Don't let opposing views discourage you from living life on your terms, and try not to measure your own self value based on what happens in an escorting session... build yourself up on your own. A debate can be a way to learn about people even if there is no common ground.

[PrinceVegeta]

Her view is her own and not the only view of course. Most of us can share experiences of becoming real life friends with escorts and doing stuff that is not compensated for. Humans can connect and bond in any number of ways. She is correct in the sense that you are paying for an illusion. And worrying about whether that illusion is real or fake can cause you a lot of grief. However, other possibilities can and do happen . Don't let opposing views discourage you from living life on your terms, and try not to measure your own self value based on what happens in an escorting session... build yourself up on your own. A debate can be a way to learn about people even if there is no common ground.

I suppose my newness to all of this breeds a little insecurity and that insecurity also brings a little fear with it...and then it all hits the self esteem shit hard. I dunno...lol..kinda makes me pause when the first post I make on here gets me labeled a con artist. I thought I was actually engaging in a real topic worthy of discourse..but alas, I suppose I'm wrong by virtue of being insecure and expecting something I shouldn't. Would have been nice had someone just stopped and asked "why it matters to me" first.

[xoxJanexox]

Her view is her own and not the only view of course. Most of us can share experiences of becoming real life friends with escorts and doing stuff that is not compensated for. Humans can connect and bond in any number of ways. She is correct in the sense that you are paying for an illusion. And worrying about whether that illusion is real or fake can cause you a lot of grief. However, other possibilities can and do happen . Don't let opposing views discourage you from living life on your terms, and try not to measure your own self value based on what happens in an escorting session... build yourself up on your own. A debate can be a way to learn about people even if there is no common ground.

False. That's a very very rare occurrence. And when it happens then we have a valid way to say attraction is present. But all what the con artists here are saying is simply they can feel mutual attraction when they are paying in full for the encounter. That's a myth.

[craig1aa]

Miss Jane can have her opinion . Does her opinion matter . It shouldn't . Just go and have some fun .

[justvisiting2016]

Well, she just implied I am a liar because my experiences and opinions are different than hers. So, I don't think this thread is going to get us anywhere.

Have a great day everyone.