IS your lifestyle a secret?

[lewis84]

Just wondering how many keep their lifestyle under the wraps or does your family and friends know about the fun in your life?

[justvisiting2016]

I kept it a secret the first couple of years, but once I hit that 40/41 mark and finally realized I don't need to give a shit about what anyone else says or thinks, I don't keep any of it a secret. I have been in serious relationships with a trans woman a couple of times and honestly, I learned pretty quickly that the people I care about are awesome, and if they say in their head "Hm, maybe he is gay" because they don't understand, it doesn't matter. But then again, they both were really hot so that probably plays a part in peoples acceptance to tell the blunt truth. I think one of the difficult issues with trans acceptance is whether they are perceived to be good looking or not. If you show up at that party with your friends with someone who looks like Lola, you may get a different level of acceptance than if you came with someone early in transition with a flat chest, a wig, and a deeper voice. They are both women you are involved with and care about, but your social circle may accept them differently based on the looks. Still a ways to go for people to understand gender issues. Most still equate it with how the person looks physically (hot girl = passable and welcome; plain girl = crossdresser ew!).


Honestly, if your friends trash you for being with a trans girl ,they probably are not very good friends. If family disowns someone for sexual identity, well, they aren't very good family.

I also am open that I have seen escorts and will again.

But you know, it is all in context. If it will cost you a marriage you love, probably best to keep it a secret. I think everyone is different in what they need to do.

[justvisiting2016]

Everyone hating you has it's advantages....

YOu know what ,that is so true Especially in today's social and political climate.

[LOLA_]

It’s so true

you can not leave peacefully when you always think about others

if you are single ; don’t give a fuck anyone it’s your life and follow your heart
if you are married it’s another Story as long as you are around people they don’t know you married just enjoy it

If you have no close relationships with anyone, no secrets are necessary.

Everyone hating you has it's advantages....

[Goober1]

If you have no close relationships with anyone, no secrets are necessary...

I have never been in a serious relationship and plan on keeping it that way, for the rest of my life. My sex life has been exclusively with escorts since, my late teens which, is a span of over fourty-five years. That part of my lifestyle is of no secret to my friends or family but, I have not let any of them know, I started in this hobby three years ago. If any of them were to find out, I'm sure they would not be overly surprised.

[jackshepherd]

If you have no close relationships with anyone, no secrets are necessary.

Everyone hating you has it's advantages....

I like the way Crag Rockheart thinks.

[Bawb]

Just wondering how many keep their lifestyle under the wraps or does your family and friends know about the fun in your life?

All of the tgirls I dated when I got into this community were very passable, I had no problem going out in public with them and if we bumped into people I knew, my friends would not know.
Same with my current gf, we go every where together and I think my friends & Family either don't know or care.

As JV stated, a transwoman who is passable has a much easier life, and her partner does too