A commentary on posts of late

[tao1kiku]

A commentary on some of the posts of late.

Over the last few weeks, we have seen in these forums quite a bit of nastiness being posted. Providers publicly airing accusations of having and potentially passing on STI?s, drug use, theft of property, filming customers, threatening family members, stealing drug dealers, stealing customers, police intervention, restraining orders, rumours ?everyone hates you?, so on and so forth. This I would expect from street hookers at Carlton and Jarvis, not from those who are trying to command $300-400 per hour clients.


The providers here are running a business, pure and simple. You are building your own ?brand? to be marketed to potential customers, to gain new business clients and maintain your existing clients. If The Keg Steakhouse and Ruth Chris Steakhouse started fighting it out in public accusing each other of food poisoning, using illegal workers and having horse meat instead of beef, all that would do is turn customers away from both businesses. No one wins and both ?brands? are diminished in the eyes of the public and potential customers.


I will pass on 5 cents of advice from my father; ?It doesn?t matter who wins in a mud fight, they both wind up dirty and it takes a long time to clean the mud off.?

[jakey_edwards]

Very well said

Great post!

Thank you for the excellent perspective.

J

[toban]

Your father was a very wise man!

A commentary on some of the posts of late.

Over the last few weeks, we have seen in these forums quite a bit of nastiness being posted. Providers publicly airing accusations of having and potentially passing on STI?s, drug use, theft of property, filming customers, threatening family members, stealing drug dealers, stealing customers, police intervention, restraining orders, rumours ?everyone hates you?, so on and so forth. This I would expect from street hookers at Carlton and Jarvis, not from those who are trying to command $300-400 per hour clients.


The providers here are running a business, pure and simple. You are building your own ?brand? to be marketed to potential customers, to gain new business clients and maintain your existing clients. If The Keg Steakhouse and Ruth Chris Steakhouse started fighting it out in public accusing each other of food poisoning, using illegal workers and having horse meat instead of beef, all that would do is turn customers away from both businesses. No one wins and both ?brands? are diminished in the eyes of the public and potential customers.


I will pass on 5 cents of advice from my father; ?It doesn?t matter who wins in a mud fight, they both wind up dirty and it takes a long time to clean the mud off.?

Right on tao1kiku!

IMHO this whole thread should be scrubbed completely from the Forum.

While reading it and attempting to understand it yesterday I got lost trying to determine who was who in this cat fight and who had done all the dirty deeds. Most certainly it also lowered my opinion of the combatants involved!

It seemed to me this squabbling was all very senseless and it is certainly the kind of stuff that will cheapen and destroy this Forum if it is allowed to continue unchecked! The whole thread should be closed and the guilty parties censured.

[mykey lykey]

Thank you for the excellent perspective.

Here's another perspective - 180'


Let's get fuckin'real . . . . . . none of us can pretend to know how hard, brutal the lives of 'some' T-girls inhabiting the T-world!

From the get go, early family years . . . . . shame, ridicule, neglect, abuse, abandonment. Early, so-called 'friends' years not much better.

Throw into the mix . . . . . child-teen trauma, self-image issues, gender-bender issues, mental afflictions, addictions, hormones etc.

While we're at it, let's toss in . . . . . assholes driving by shouting out of their car-windows....'hey faggot', 'hey freak' etc.

The 'biz' . . . . . gobs of losers on the phone asking the same stupid retarded questions thousands of calls a day --- E-V-E-R-Y-D-A-Y!
(plus....low-balling, no-showing) etc.

The 'girls' . . . . . rumours, threats, back-stabbing, betrayal etc.

The 'boards' . . . . . reading posts/comments/reviews about themselves....'manly', 'fugly' etc.


So if spitting a lil venom takes some of the edge off some of these girls, I say, cool, go girls . . . . . . tear that shit up!

Whoop! Whoop!

[tao1kiku]

I do have some level of perspective of the life of a trans woman, I was married to one for several years.

And yes, those working in this industry put up with alot of crap and many have had a life more difficult than the average person could ever imagine.

But I balk at blowing off steam in a manner of accusations or admission of being infected or infecting others with STI's, drug use (two providers in one thread I would never see now because of their admission to using Tina on a regular basis and fighting over a "dealer") and two accusing each other of filming customers which is a huge breach of an inherent trust of privacy and anonymity between client and provider.