Jealousy

[Rantsalot]

I'm going to keep this short.

I've noticed on several occasions that despite if its inside a club or at a restaurant or wherever there is jealousy among some of the girls, so much its got to the point of rivalry.

WHY ? Really..I mean WTF??

This isn't a naive question. I understand that personalities don't mesh and REGARDLESS of the situation people in general will be more successful than others in some things i.e. dancing... but what purpose does it serve to get so riled as to trash talk others and then in turn paint a horrible picture of yourself and possibly damage your rep let alone success?

Shouldn't t women let alone the community as a whole support one another?

Before you say anything I know it's a dog eat dog world and its everyone for them self and all those other cliches but really .... WHAT THE F***??

[lp]

I'm going to keep this short.

I've noticed on several occasions that regardless if its inside a club or at a restaurant or wherever there is jealousy among some of the girls, so much its got to the point of rivalry.

WHY ? Really..I mean WTF??

This isn't a naive question. I understand that personalities don't mesh and REGARDLESS of the situation people in general will be more successful than others in some things i.e. dancing... but what purpose does it serve to get so riled as to trash talk others and then in turn paint a horrible picture of yourself and possibly damage your rep let alone success?

Shouldn't t women let alone the community as a whole support one another?

Before you say anything I know it's a dog eat dog world and its everyone for them self and all those other cliches but really .... WHAT THE F***??

Oh i couldnt have said it better,were all in demand thats a fact some of us more then others but omg when is the insanitty gonna stop and its not just a toronto thing its everywhere in the world,too many girls have such a huge ego they cant see that another ts or cd can get some attention as well and there nose gets outta joint.nothings gonna change weather its the mones whitch is an excuse in my book or its there shitty outlook on life in general etc.the way they were brought up and thrown away by thoses who loved them but one would think that it would bring us together instead its a catty catty life but girls remember one thing....your responsable for your actions nobody else.

[capitus]

my longest post ever

This very question has been on my mind for a while. This behaviour is not unique to transexuals. It appears to occur in any marginalized population. Rather than become a cohesive (and therefore stronger) group, marginalized populations tend to further mariginalize other segments of said population.

For example, the same behaviours were (are?) noted in American blacks during (and post) slavery, interned jews during WWII, post-colonial aboriginal populations, gay/lesbian populations (particularly in non-western societies), Indians (from India) during British rule, and the list goes on. Contemporary studies show similar behaviours in prisons and detention facilities (see the Stanford Prison Experiment). I am not saying these situations are all exactly the same, but rather the same psychological processes are seen in oppressed/marginalized populations regardless of setting.

A famous psychological study of marginalization was performed on school children. The teacher arbitrarily acted as if children with blue eyes were "good" and children with brown eyes were "bad". The blue eyed children began behaving agressively toward the brown eyed children and the brown eyed children became more passive and withdrawn. The next day the teacher acted as if brown eyed children were "good" and the blue eyed children were "bad". One would expect the brown eyed children to remember the negative feelings of being marginalized and not perpetuate the same behaviours....however, the opposite happened and the brown eyed children behaved aggressively toward the blue eyed children and the blue eyed children became passive and withdrawn.

Marginalized or oppressed societies tend to circle the wagons and shoot inward. The us-and-them mentality is perpetuated ad infinitum. It is this behaviour that makes marginalized populations easier to marginalize or keep marginal (i.e. divide and conquer).

You would think we would know better but we're human, so we fuck things up. Turns out we humans have a long history of fuckin' shit up.

A long time ago, a wise man with long hair and a long beard, with some crazy ideas said, "Love your neighbour"....I think it was, like, Gerry Garcia or something...either way, that's what I try to do. Uh, Lisa/Barbie/Lucy/Lola/Alyssa/Karen/etc./etc....would you be my neighbour?

[toban]

Who wooda thunk it possible!



Some encouraging words from the NEW Lisa!

Oh i couldnt have said it better, ....................... too many girls have such a huge ego they cant see that another ts or cd can get some attention as well and there nose gets outta joint.

nothings gonna change ................................ but one would think that it would bring us together instead its a catty catty life but girls remember one thing....your responsible for your actions nobody else.

It looks like when Lisa returns she's going to be "new & improved" on both the inside and the outside!

So then, and to the NEW Lisa!

[lp]

Some encouraging words from the NEW Lisa!



It looks like when Lisa returns she's going to be "new & improved" on both the inside and the outside!

So then, and to the NEW Lisa!

thanks toban im gonna make a better effert to show the real me instead of the bitch i sometimes am in here,im feeling better and stronger everyday and the tape came of my nose yesterday and looks so awesome my forhead looks great with the brow bone shaved off the only thing that drives me nuts is the lypo,he nails me from my tummy all the way up my back and sides and it hurst like hell when i move but ya im on the road to recovery both inside and out i hope ya like the change

[Andrew69]

thanks toban im gonna make a better effert to show the real me instead of the bitch i sometimes am in here,im feeling better and stronger everyday and the tape came of my nose yesterday and looks so awesome my forhead looks great with the brow bone shaved off the only thing that drives me nuts is the lypo,he nails me from my tummy all the way up my back and sides and it hurst like hell when i move but ya im on the road to recovery both inside and out i hope ya like the change

2 thumbs up for following the real you!

[HairyChest]

I don't think it just affects the girls, though. There has been a few times when I started to feel like some of the t-girls I was seeing should spend more time with me than others. I knew, even at the time, that I had no right to demand any sort of special attention, and yet I still felt it. It doesn't make sense, and it isn't fair, but I think in the past I've felt that somehow that I should have some sort of senority in the t-girl scene due to both my longevity and frequency in seeing girls. Logical it ain't, but it's a feeling.

You would think we would know better but we're human, so we fuck things up. Turns out we humans have a long history of fuckin' shit up.

That we do. I think it'll probably keep occuring too.