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Ok. Here goes my first post. I really want to be in this hobby but am a little concerned, especially after seeing some of the pics. Some of you ladies have MASSIVE tools. Very nice, but... and this is a little delicate... I would like to try being a bottom but don't those large tools do structural damage? I mean after awhile, do you start to leak? Will you have to use diapers? I don't mean to be rude or crass but am worried. Any comments?
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I've only been topped a few times and no structural damage or diapers yet. The key seems to be to be relaxed and request them to take it very slow. I personally find doggie style painful and prefer to be on my back. But again, ask them to take it slow, lots of lube and maybe play with you with their finger first. You can also get a dildo and practice a bit at home. Especially before meeting them. And clean your ass well, as well as possible. Can you imagine how gross that can be.
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Anatomy for Bottoms
I've been a bottom for several years now and no problems of the sort you mention have been experienced yet, nor do I expect any. Many girls are principally bottoms and after many years of that experience do not seem to go out and about with diapers on.
Here is something for Mabel to think about, or to try and for others too with the same problem i.e. a fear of great pain or of being stretched out beyond your limits. Some may consider this suggestion a little gross but, after you next drop a log or two into the toilet bowl, take a good look at what you have just accomplished. You may be surprised at the diameter of that brownie. Is it as large as one of the cocks you have been fantasizing about receiving up your kiester? If not then probably you will do so sooner or later!
You have two sphincter muscles an internal and an external, that together, form a ring around the very short anal canal, and which are there for the express purpose of opening to allow the body to dispose of its' waste, then closing tightly again after completion of that process, to prevent leakage. You can control the external or lower one and you can also strengthen it by exercise. The well known Kegel exercises strengthens that muscle as mney others in the lower abdominal region.
Now then, think of the sphincter muscles of the anus as being just a ring of muscle which will tighten around your TS partners penis. It will expand to admit it while also reducing the diameter of her penis at that spot only (try it yourself with a tight rubber band or wrap your fingers tightly around your own) and as it enters it will slowly expand again to its normal size. That is not a concern, as the internal diameter of the rectum (see diagram) is much larger than the anal opening.
Furthermore, next time you have a woody check out its' elasticity or its' compressability and you'll find that even when super hard it is still compressible. It's interior structure is composed of a spongy type of tissue called the "corpus cavernosum" whose voids which are normally empty, but which become filled with blood when you are sexually aroused, thereby causing your beloved erection. Have you ever noticed that the head is more easily compressed than the shaft? Mother Nature's way of getting that penis into some tight places!
So, just as you can squeeze the water out of the sponge at your kitchen sink, so can the penis be squeezed to remove the blood from it then when the pressure is released, it will again fill up with blood, just as the sponge reabsorbs water.
To put it bluntly, the anus is the hole poop passes through on its way out of the body. Exit from the anus is regulated by the sphincters. The external (lower) anal sphincter keeps the exit closed throughout the day. If you've ever made a conscious effort to close the flood gates during a bout of diarrhea, the external anal sphincter is the muscle you were controlling.
The rectum is about eight inches long and serves, basically, as a warehouse for poop. For this reason there is a need to cleanse it thoroughly before using it for sexual purposes, as in the situation we are concerned about, where it serves as a canal for reception of the penis duing intercourse.
What is more likely to be a concern as far as potential for pain is concerned though, may be the length of that tool, not it's diameter. At some distance inside, though it is about eight inches long, the rectum takes a sharp 90 degree (see diagram) turn to connect to the large intestine, at which point it becomes even larger in diameter. Now perhaps,
some discomfort will occur here if there is any battering going on. 
Here's a good link for more sexual info related to the bottomee as well as the bottomor:- http://www.squidge.org/~minotaur/classic/anatomy.html
Originally posted by Mable View PostComment
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Thank you so much for such an informed response. I feel better about this now. It is astonishing how much effort you have put into the response. Thanks again and I am looking forward to being a contributor here.Comment
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That's the most informative post I have ever read here. Thanks for taking the time to post all of that.used to be someone elseComment
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It's like everything else, start small and work your way up.
Practice seems to make perfect........
Other things not mentioned you may want to consider is the effect on hemeroidal tissue & excessive pressure on the prostate.
And to answer your question directly,
If you get fucked by a big dick and you are not used to it,
It will hurt like hell for many days.
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Wow - that was the most detailed explanation that I've ever seen. You should totally re-write my Anatomy 101 textbook.
There's just one word that you need to remember: breathe. If you tense up, you won't enjoy it nearly as much, and it's natural to be a little apprehensive. Just take slow, deliberate, deep breaths, and tell yourself to relax.
I'm sure it'll be hard, because you'll be excited and turned on by the experience, but trust me, if you relax by taking a few deep breaths, you'll enjoy it so much more.Comment
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Topping and Bottoming
I truly enjoy being both a top and a bottom. I find the secret is being both very relaxed and horny. You have to want to have your ass fucked to enjoy it. If you are on the fence and not ready for it mentally start slow. Fingers, tongues, small toys and work your way up. After some experience you will find that your ability to take something larger comes with practice. If you know you are going to enjoy and experience great pleasure you will, on the other hand if you think it is going to hurt, it will.
The skill of the lady topping you will have great deal of influence on your experience. I remember the first girl to top me years ago, she is very well hung, but the way she topped me it did not hurt at all.
I have yet to experience any damage or lasting effects of being topped and it just gets better. I find that size has never made me say no way are you fucking me with that.Comment
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Wow Toban.....great post.
I don't think I will ever poop quite the same again....lol
I have always had a hard time finding the right girl with a fairly narrow penis, which is all I've been able to take so far. If I ever found the right girl, I think I'd just stick with her, because it's too disappointing to book a session but not get topped....for me anyways.....
KC,
I agree with you. I enjoy being topped much more when I'm on my back. It becomes much more of a combination of sensations that way, rather than just the penetration. I get alot more enjoyment that way also because it seems to stimulate my prostate more. That's where the real pleasure lies.
One last thing, the longer it's been since my last orgasm, the more I seem to enjoy anal sex....my guess is that maybe the prostate gets full of fluid...I don't know. Anyone else share this trait??Comment
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I've said it b4
its not the size of it
but the ass pushing itComment
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Thanks Toban ...whats the best way to clean , besides sitting on the throne.....Comment
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Sitting on the Throne won't do much but make you dirtier often.Originally posted by Baloo View Post
An Enema bag or an empty plastic pop bottle can clean you out.
Everyone should go slow when trying this, it is not safe as some may lead you to think.
One person's experience is not always the same as others.
Some are more sensitive than others and some cannot get fucked at all ever.
If you have sensitive or bad hemmorroids you could have terrible pain.
Sometimes the real pain does not come for a couple days....
The other reason to go slow is you do not want to rupture your colon.
Sharp objects or improper lubrication could possibly cause this to happen.
A small tear in your colon can poison and kill you.
Another condition that happens to some is that their colon detaches from their rectum.
This can be dangerous and painful also.
Dont' get carried away.
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Clean-outs.
My chimney used to have a clean-out and I used a shovel to clean that when necessary.
Seriously though, craigyB has given a couple of good ideas, one of which I use - my deceased wife's douchebag. I also use the vaginal tip because it is longer and much easier to insert. I believe that these are commonly called Combination sets having both interchangeable enema and vaginal tips.
When using a douche it is perhaps a good idea to add a bit of gentle detergent like dishwashing detergent to the water. No, not dishwasher detergent for heaven's sakes! Once in hospital an enema was necessary and they used castille soap. The soap just lubricates whatever remains in there, making it easier to remove. It may be necessary to repeat more than once until you get nothing but clear water expelled.
One person has suggested re-using the plastic squeeze bottle that commercial enema preparations (e.g. Fleet) come in. I think that I'd prefer that to the pop-bottle though, cuz getting that screw thread inside might be difficult as I have never been threaded to accept them. Then too, some folks might have left-hand threads.
One TS who shall remain nameless told me that she uses an anal pump. I bought one and tried it but prefer the douche bag. There are also anal syringes available at most drug stores too. They appeared to me to have too short a tip and of too small a capacity to be really effective.
Craig's warnings about not getting carried away should be taken very seriously!
Another warning: If you google anal or anal intercourse etc many pages related to removal of various objects from the rectum are included, e.g. light bulbs, drinking glasses, shot glasses, screw drivers, wooden sticks (removed using a corkscrew), vibrators etc., etc.. I had an aquaintance (female) who loved to insert and on one occasion a dildo got away on her and she could not remove it. A trip to the ER ensued followed by a very painful explanation to her husband, who knew nothing of her fantasies and who had been called to come and pick her up. If you lube something to get it in then you must expect the inability to retrieve it! Help
If you are going to buy something new just for this job look for items with a shield or guard of some kind to prevent total insertion or loss.
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