what attracts you?

[kristopin]

yep

In reality, we are all imperfect beings, and I sincerely believe that we are better for it. Attraction is a subjective, non-quantifiable thing, anyway. What one person may find attractive, another may not. To quote the late Linda Ellerbee, "and so it goes".

co-sign. the spark and chemistry has to be there.

[intowntonight]

Fully passable and pretty, voice (like Nikki), some breasts (no surgery required) and ability to get it up are the physical requirements.

Psychologically, the only requirement is that the girl likes herself. If she doesn't it will be hard for me to like her.

I am different in that I like to go to Goodhandys, Cleopatras, Citibar and places like that to actually meet and talk to girls before I am comfortable going the distance with them.

I envy the guys with the courage to call ahead and book, but I dont think I can do that. Maybe I need the illusion of a nightclub pick-up to complete my fantasy. Any amatuer Psychs want to take a run at me?

[kristopin]

fantasy

we all have our 'fantasy' lover. the night in shining armor. the woman of my dreams and so on. it becomes conditioned into us as we grow and read books, watch movies and so on until in our mind we have a picture of that certain someone. reality is different. i sometimes think that fate moves people into our spheres and it up to us to respond. its like we have this thought in our heads about what we want and then we accidentally meet someone in timmy's or something. the eyes lock briefly and you know the chemistry is there. next move? you never know until you simply say hello. this person could be completely different from your preconceived notion but still you instantly know it will work.


just some thoughts.

[tglove]

This is a great question. I believe that we are all just socially constructed as to what we like and don't like. That means, society tells us what is 'beautiful' or 'sexy'. For myself, I just know that I am attracted to Tgirls more than anything. I have lived all over the world and now at 29 realize the relationship I want is with a Tgirl, ladyboy or shemale (whatever does not matter). I just know thats what I am attracted to. After dating a Filipina in Hong Kong for a few months I knew what I wanted. This is not a fantasy for me. However, and I am not judging, the fact that it is for most guys really makes it difficult here for me to meet a girl to date (but I understand why it is and support you guys 100 percent).

One of the reasons I came back on this site was to give finding love a shot and put myself out there. I know there are lots of escorts here and all that, but that doesn't mean they don't feel the need for a caring relationship.

I guess to fully answer the question, attraction is subjective and inside you just know what you like, becoming a real person is being open and honest with yourself about it. I guess thats my discovery.

Physical traits are whatever to me. I have said I liked tgirls, shemales, and ladyboys. Just like if you like gg or men there is something beautiful about everyone on the outside, its the inside that really matters. I think this is true even if you just want sex.