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Like many of you, I am a straight man who has gradually developed an appreciation for sexy, feminine shemales. After years of fantasizing, I finally took the plunge and made a date with a shemale escort. My date was with an escort who has been occasionally mentioned on this Board, but I cannot recall seeing any posts by her on the Board.
I expected an evening of very hot sex and was not disappointed. My girl was feminine, sweet, smart, gentle and genuinely affectionate. She was also extremely sexy, passionate and rock hard.
Here’s the twist: After an hour or so of mutual sucking and fucking, we relaxed and talked for a while. I discovered that my girl is a highly intelligent, sensitive and thoughtful person with whom I have a lot in common. We have continued seeing each other and have developed feelings for each other which go well beyond mere lust.
In getting to know my girl I have also come to understand the transgender community a little better. What I have learned concerns me, not just as a man who is attracted to transsexual women, but as a person who cares about human rights and dignity for all in our society.
These women that we admire so much for their physical beauty and femininity are part of a community which exists on the fringes of our society. Here in Toronto, arguably one of the most tolerant cities in the world, transgender people face enormous challenges in merely trying to live the kind of normal life that we take for granted. Many find it impossible to find meaningful work, due to either overt discrimination or simply having to endure constant stares, gossip and innuendo. Many have been unable to settle down in stable monogamous relationships because our oh-so-tolerant society still does not really accept trans women as women, and does not accept relationships between men and trans women as “normal”. Let’s be honest: how many of us would be prepared to not only have sex with a shemale in a discrete, anonymous location, but actually have a serious, out-in-the-open relationship with any of the t-girls we admire? Not suprisingly, the marginalization of transsexuals has led to higher than average rates of poverty, unemployment, mental illness, substance abuse issues.
Gentlemen, the sad fact is that many of the shemale escorts who we admire would almost certainly be in other lines of work if they had the same options that other members of our society have.
And let’s not forget the more blatant forms of discrimination. Just last week, 2 Toronto t-girls were insulted, ridiculed and assaulted by some of Toronto’s finest. Their offence? They were sitting in a coffee shop chatting quietly when Mr. Tough Guy cop struts in, tells them “I can’t stand your type”, orders them to leave, and then forcibly throws them out the door. His 2 cop buddies stood by laughing. Unfortunately, this type of incident is not rare for our beloved t-girls. As a small, fragmented (they seem to have virtually no political or lobby organization to represent their interests), marginalized, and yet very visible minority group, they are natural targets for bigots and bullies. I doubt whether there is any other group in our society today which is as vulnerable to this sort of treatment as transsexuals.
I am not so naïve as to think that these problems are going to be solved by the members of this Board – I think it is primarily up to the t-girls themselves to organize and agitate for the respect and equal rights that they fully deserve to have - but I do wonder if those of us who claim to admire t-girls so much bear some small responsibility for raising awareness of these issues and helping to change the way our society views t-girls. Surely these beautiful women are not just sex objects to us, but rather human beings who we care about and want to see respected and treated with basic human dignity. Wouldn’t we rather live in a society where it will be fully socially acceptable for us to marry and settle down with t-girls, should we choose to do so?
One final thought. I had always assumed that the legal and political rights of transsexuals were intimately connected with the movement of gays and lesbians for equality and acceptance. Not correct. Although many of the t-girls are part of the fringes of the gay community, there are clear differences between the two groups and t-girls often face discrimination within the gay community. Further, while organizations which advocate for the rights of gays and lesbians often claim to also represent the interests of transsexuals, the t-girls I have spoken with have told me that their issues are usually pretty far down on the list of priorities of gay rights organizations.
I hope there is room on this board for discussion of the broader subject of admiration and respect for t-girls, not just admiration for their beauty and skills in the bedroom.
MacX
I expected an evening of very hot sex and was not disappointed. My girl was feminine, sweet, smart, gentle and genuinely affectionate. She was also extremely sexy, passionate and rock hard.
Here’s the twist: After an hour or so of mutual sucking and fucking, we relaxed and talked for a while. I discovered that my girl is a highly intelligent, sensitive and thoughtful person with whom I have a lot in common. We have continued seeing each other and have developed feelings for each other which go well beyond mere lust.
In getting to know my girl I have also come to understand the transgender community a little better. What I have learned concerns me, not just as a man who is attracted to transsexual women, but as a person who cares about human rights and dignity for all in our society.
These women that we admire so much for their physical beauty and femininity are part of a community which exists on the fringes of our society. Here in Toronto, arguably one of the most tolerant cities in the world, transgender people face enormous challenges in merely trying to live the kind of normal life that we take for granted. Many find it impossible to find meaningful work, due to either overt discrimination or simply having to endure constant stares, gossip and innuendo. Many have been unable to settle down in stable monogamous relationships because our oh-so-tolerant society still does not really accept trans women as women, and does not accept relationships between men and trans women as “normal”. Let’s be honest: how many of us would be prepared to not only have sex with a shemale in a discrete, anonymous location, but actually have a serious, out-in-the-open relationship with any of the t-girls we admire? Not suprisingly, the marginalization of transsexuals has led to higher than average rates of poverty, unemployment, mental illness, substance abuse issues.
Gentlemen, the sad fact is that many of the shemale escorts who we admire would almost certainly be in other lines of work if they had the same options that other members of our society have.
And let’s not forget the more blatant forms of discrimination. Just last week, 2 Toronto t-girls were insulted, ridiculed and assaulted by some of Toronto’s finest. Their offence? They were sitting in a coffee shop chatting quietly when Mr. Tough Guy cop struts in, tells them “I can’t stand your type”, orders them to leave, and then forcibly throws them out the door. His 2 cop buddies stood by laughing. Unfortunately, this type of incident is not rare for our beloved t-girls. As a small, fragmented (they seem to have virtually no political or lobby organization to represent their interests), marginalized, and yet very visible minority group, they are natural targets for bigots and bullies. I doubt whether there is any other group in our society today which is as vulnerable to this sort of treatment as transsexuals.
I am not so naïve as to think that these problems are going to be solved by the members of this Board – I think it is primarily up to the t-girls themselves to organize and agitate for the respect and equal rights that they fully deserve to have - but I do wonder if those of us who claim to admire t-girls so much bear some small responsibility for raising awareness of these issues and helping to change the way our society views t-girls. Surely these beautiful women are not just sex objects to us, but rather human beings who we care about and want to see respected and treated with basic human dignity. Wouldn’t we rather live in a society where it will be fully socially acceptable for us to marry and settle down with t-girls, should we choose to do so?
One final thought. I had always assumed that the legal and political rights of transsexuals were intimately connected with the movement of gays and lesbians for equality and acceptance. Not correct. Although many of the t-girls are part of the fringes of the gay community, there are clear differences between the two groups and t-girls often face discrimination within the gay community. Further, while organizations which advocate for the rights of gays and lesbians often claim to also represent the interests of transsexuals, the t-girls I have spoken with have told me that their issues are usually pretty far down on the list of priorities of gay rights organizations.
I hope there is room on this board for discussion of the broader subject of admiration and respect for t-girls, not just admiration for their beauty and skills in the bedroom.
MacX
Be kind its my firast day back in a while.
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