Personality

[Rantsalot]

I will make this short. No long thread here. Now obviously people here see and admire one another for appearances that's a given but appearance only goes so far.

This may sound a little odd but I ask this because of experiences that I've talked about within and outside of the forums and not necessarily regarding just t women.

To the guys. Does personality play a big part in seeing a girl on many occasions? Regardless. service provider or not.

To the ladies. Does personality help you to decide whether you will be with and see a guy?

Just how important is personality to you? Is it one of the main priorities or something you could care less about?

Example: Friend of mine, recently saw a girl and they are now bang buddies. Only reason he sees her is that he says she's super hot. I asked about her personality. Basically he said they had nothing in common. He knows her first name and age and that's it. They're totally opposite in every aspect. He even admits she's not really his type and the only reason he wants to see her is because of looks.

Not saying its right or wrong and to each their own but for me, no matter what it is, escort or not, I'd like to know that there's more to the person than what's on the outside because it would seem so cold, so lifeless if you didn't even know the basics. Some use the word "mechanical" for such a meet up and that for me sounds like a very huge turn off.

[sensual_lover20]

In both cases, service provider and girlfriend I will look for both beauty both inside and out. However, it is with a service provider I will place a larger emphasis on outer beauty than inner. If a girl has a very poor personality I will not see her no matter ow hot she is because I know the service will be dismal.

[Rose]

People who are ugly on the inside definitly don't do a single thing for me, no matter how hot they may be on the outside.

[youngboy4ts]

In both cases, service provider and girlfriend I will look for both beauty both inside and out. However, it is with a service provider I will place a larger emphasis on outer beauty than inner. If a girl has a very poor personality I will not see her no matter ow hot she is because I know the service will be dismal.

Dude i am with you...


Respect!!!

[Foxy Basket]

Not a long thread? Guess I need to change that!

Personality is, by far, the most important factor for me.

I place very little emphasis on someone's looks. I have certain hygiene and clothing standards (showered, with fresh breath, and no filthy work clothes - requirements that anyone *should* be able to meet) but that's usually enough for me. It's simple, actually - as a transsexual, I don't like it when people judge me exclusively on physical qualities (such as those between my legs) so I can't, in good conscience, judge anyone else based on their own physical qualities.

Except for someone's eyes - those are the best reflection of who they are. I could care less what colour they are, as long as I can see a genuine love for life within them.

Granted, I do appreciate it when others appreciate my own appearance, but it's rather shallow praise; looks are generally an accident, which we have little control over (at least, up until the surgeon's knife, but I've never been down that road myself, so again, I refuse to pass judgement). Sure, it's easy to say when you're a pretty girl like me, but when someone is only interested in me because of my looks (and nothing else) that's usually an indication that they consider me an object. Sure, I might take your money, and give you a wonderful experience, but you've lost the chance to expand your horizons by getting to know a really interesting person.

Personality is a better reflection of what you've learned and achieved in life. At Goodhandy's or the Lounge, I've spent hours just talking with people who engaged my mind (SL20 is especially wonderful to talk to, and so is uncle monty) and I've had amazing experiences with clients during my escorting as well.

Toban in particular was an absolute joy to spend time with; there have been several others on this forum whose company I genuinely enjoyed, though I'm fairly sure they'd prefer to remain anonymous. I love to learn, and I love to hear about the lives and experiences of others; everyone has a different life perspective, and I'm happy when they choose to share theirs with me. When someone tells me that I'm hot, and nothing more than that, it doesn't teach me anything at all.

How can I tell? Well, it's easier at the Lounge, where we can actually talk and see if our personalities click. I'm fairly easy-going, and very easy to talk to, but when I really connect with someone, the mental turn-on is much stronger than the physical. When Goodhandy's is too loud to get into deep conversations, I won't even try.

People who contact me by e-mail are tricky. However, there are some things I look for: a generally-respectful tone, decent sentence structure and punctuation, showing an interest in my other qualities (education, writing, etc) and a brief description of what he's all about. These things usually translate into a pleasant personality. Since I've gone back to school, I've become very picky about who I connect with; I'll decline many more requests than I'll accept, and these factors weigh very heavily on my decision on whether to arrange an appointment, or politely thank them for their interest.

On the flip side, most of my repeat clients tell me that, while my looks attracted them to me initially, it was my personality that made them want to come back. It's not always the case, but when you genuinely want to spend time with someone, it's because you like them for who they are, not simply how they look.

My two cents.

[Rose]

Another great post Nikki.

[capitus]

Personality is a must for a repeat visit...looks do start the ball rolling though. So I suppose it is a blend of the two, more heavily weighted toward personality though for the repeat.


p.s. Nikki, your brain is turning me on!!

[Nice_Eye_Guy]

Personality is huge when I'm dating. I've known some physically stunning women who turned out to be stunned c-units once I started talking to them. I've also known some women who weren't quite my type, or really didn't catch my eye physically but once I got to know them their personality really made them seem sexy to me.

However, if I'm paying for the time I will be much more picky in terms of looks. I can date a solid '6' or '7' with a great personality for free without too much trouble. :-)

[sensual_lover20]

Thanks Nikki. We all can agree your character is right on par with your physical beauty. It has been great having those long and intellectual conversations with you. I do hope to do it again one day.

[Rantsalot]

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It's RIDICULOUSLY HARD to not create a mental picture of what we may think others are like

I've been thinking about this topic and when the time comes for it to die off then fine but for now I got another thing to ask.



Do you all believe that writing on these boards, regardless if its the men or women, that you get a true feeling of that person's personality?

[snoodle]

Do you all believe that writing on these boards, regardless if its the men or women, that you get a true feeling of that person's personality?

yes

[snoodle]

personality 80%
Looks 20%

[Madchild]

Personality is a must for a repeat visit...looks do start the ball rolling though. So I suppose it is a blend of the two, more heavily weighted toward personality though for the repeat.


p.s. Nikki, your brain is turning me on!!

Agreed! I also love humour in a girl...

[LOLA_]

personality 80%
Looks 20%

for dating looks % 99 personality %1 ,because I believe in love and love can change people...I normally don't like to date whos really gentlemen ,and too kind. because I like really stupid guys and I don't want they know everything, smart guys always remind me a girl.I dont know why I just think girl must be smart and always find the right way.
I want man who is really good looking and crash the wall when he walks (that much stupid ) I dont know why but it really turn me on.I dated with lawyer who has 3 degrees but I dont like it, I feel like I am talking with a girl,I like to have a control,
but everyone has different test, for example for me good looking guys are no shape, I dont like whos really shape and perfect body, I like little bit fat or too skinny, I dont want in the middle, but like I said everyone is not the same

[sadeh]

lol

i like that, lol
for me im happy with looks 51% personality 49%

i prefer a hot date i mean the sex,
hot sex makes up for all.... but personality still shines through

for dating looks % 99 personality %1 ,because I believe in love and love can change people...I normally don't like to date whos really gentlemen ,and too kind. because I like really stupid guys and I don't want they know everything, smart guys always remind me a girl.I dont know why I just think girl must be smart and always find the right way.
I want man who is really good looking and crash the wall when he walks (that much stupid ) I dont know why but it really turn me on.I dated with lawyer who has 3 degrees but I dont like it, I feel like I am talking with a girl,I like to have a control,
but everyone has different test, for example for me good looking guys are no shape, I dont like whos really shape and perfect body, I like little bit fat or too skinny, I dont want in the middle, but like I said everyone is not the same