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How should I approach a service provider?
Hello,
This was my first time answering an ad today.
I now realize this was just an OF scam as the girl isn't even in Quebec city. 1hr ago, I saw her same ad for Vancouver.
Still, if I find a genuine ad, I don't want to miss my opportunity.
The ad said to contact her through her OF page, which I did.
I believe I was polite, but I may have defaulted to a "business" attitude after the usual greetings. Asking the girl where she was from, and then mentioning I saw her ad, to gauge her reaction, seeing if I was talking to a bot or to a human, if it was a fake profile (It's OF, and she appeared offended by my suggestion).
When she asked me to not let her languish, I proceeded to get to the point: ask for her rates, and if she was available for an overnight stay at an hotel with a first time client around specified dates, maybe one day too so we could do something else than sex together.
She then replied I was going too fast, and wanted me to pay for pictures, vids and sex talk first to establish trust. It wasn't about gifts but establishing trust. I was more than willing to pay some sum, even though sex talk does nothing for me.
But after a while, I told her to stop. I reminded her I answered an ad and that I came to her OF to book her time.
That's when she said I was too pushy, she had anxiety and all that, and she wouldn't go with just anybody for money, she had to know the person.
I offered to bring her on a date in a restaurant, no sex involved, I would pay her usual rate, and she would then decide if we would meet at my hotel at a later date. She said she wanted to talk to me first.
To get things short, I simply told her I might pay for more content later but not pay anymore for today, and wished her a good day.
So, was I too business like in asking for rates and availability from the get go? How should I proceed if I find another provider I like? I'm not used in paying for sex, but now, let's say I am in the mood. Should I ask the SP for a one/two hour session first? (I did offer, but not initially). I understand women doing this work need to be extra careful, even more than other women, likely even more so for transgendered women and I absolutely do not want to appear rude or threatening.
This was my first time answering an ad today.
I now realize this was just an OF scam as the girl isn't even in Quebec city. 1hr ago, I saw her same ad for Vancouver.
Still, if I find a genuine ad, I don't want to miss my opportunity.
The ad said to contact her through her OF page, which I did.
I believe I was polite, but I may have defaulted to a "business" attitude after the usual greetings. Asking the girl where she was from, and then mentioning I saw her ad, to gauge her reaction, seeing if I was talking to a bot or to a human, if it was a fake profile (It's OF, and she appeared offended by my suggestion).
When she asked me to not let her languish, I proceeded to get to the point: ask for her rates, and if she was available for an overnight stay at an hotel with a first time client around specified dates, maybe one day too so we could do something else than sex together.
She then replied I was going too fast, and wanted me to pay for pictures, vids and sex talk first to establish trust. It wasn't about gifts but establishing trust. I was more than willing to pay some sum, even though sex talk does nothing for me.
But after a while, I told her to stop. I reminded her I answered an ad and that I came to her OF to book her time.
That's when she said I was too pushy, she had anxiety and all that, and she wouldn't go with just anybody for money, she had to know the person.
I offered to bring her on a date in a restaurant, no sex involved, I would pay her usual rate, and she would then decide if we would meet at my hotel at a later date. She said she wanted to talk to me first.
To get things short, I simply told her I might pay for more content later but not pay anymore for today, and wished her a good day.
So, was I too business like in asking for rates and availability from the get go? How should I proceed if I find another provider I like? I'm not used in paying for sex, but now, let's say I am in the mood. Should I ask the SP for a one/two hour session first? (I did offer, but not initially). I understand women doing this work need to be extra careful, even more than other women, likely even more so for transgendered women and I absolutely do not want to appear rude or threatening.
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