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Hello all, very nice to make your acquaintance. I will admit it’s a little bit intimidating to make my first post here but I wanted to give it a shot.
My name is Kai. I’m a trans woman living in downtown Toronto. I have a penchant for romance, dirty vodka martinis and horror movies/games. I am a bit of a nerdy girl. I work full time as a computer programmer.
A few people DM’d me this week to send kind greetings and ask questions after I posted a few times in a thread about M4. I thought a full answer might just be best suited for a longer introduction in a proper post.
The short version
TLDR; Non-SP Transgirl looking to meet people and learn what makes admirers tick. If a dating arrangement came out of this that would be cool too, but I’m happy just to have chats as long as you’ll welcome me here. More pics attached. AMA.
The long version
It’s complicated for me to explain why I’m here. After being familiar with this site and lurking for a while I found myself compelled to try signing up and say hello. While I am not an SP, I have no qualms with sex work or those who procure it. In fact, I respect that men here actually place value on the time they spend with trans women. Furthermore, from reading others’ posts I know some of you demonstrate a pretty evolved outlook on your trans attraction. Someone used the term “Gynephilia” here the other day and I was notably impressed. Given how plastered the term “Shemale” is everywhere on this forum I wasn’t actually expecting people to take the time to write so thoughtfully about their personal tastes. Even the folks who have messaged me have been kind and thoughtful in their communications and I appreciate that a lot.
I have played the dating game for years on most of the notable sites and I find them all a bit ho-hum. Particularly I’m tired of the expectation from guys that I’m just going to want to meet them discretely at my home on a whim because they sent me a cock pic. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with just wanting a discrete one-and-done encounter, but I think it’s in poor taste to be approaching trans women on regular dating sites, ignoring our profile descriptions and talking to us like all we want is to be a fuck toy for someone who puts no emotional or financial investment into our wellness.
So I’ve managed to find myself signing up here because I’m looking for something different than what I’ve been finding elsewhere. I have curiosity about whether there are guys among the ranks here looking for something more than a by-the-hour connection and closer to either like a “Nice dinner dates for fun” kind of thing or some sort of sugar daddy arrangement.
At the end of the day my career is going to take care of my surgical transition costs and I’m not really seeking financial remunerations. I’m mostly interested in feeling appreciated and nurtured. However I think generosity is probably commensurate with just how discrete my connection wants to be. If you want to take me out to dinners/events, spend time and do nice things together I want very little else. If you’re looking to keep our dynamic mostly quiet and limited to intimate encounters, well spoiling should be appropriately generous, though I’d appreciate it in clothing, makeup and spa gifts.
So to summarize the proposal:
I GET - Appreciation and nurturing of some form, either via public activities at restaurants/venues and/or some sort of gift support arrangement.
YOU GET - A trans girlfriend who gives you attention and affection ongoing. Who cares about you 24/7, texts and sends pics when you’re not together. Cheers you on in life.
A little bit more about me and what I like:
On the subject of honesty I wanted to leave this post open to any and all questions, as long as they are not too personally identifying for my own safety.
I’m also open to feedback and criticism of my proposition. If nothing else, I thought this post might be a nice break from all the crypto and porn spam and an opportunity for discussion about alternative arrangements with trans girls.
I hope you are all having a good week and thank your reading!
Kisses,
Kai 😘
My name is Kai. I’m a trans woman living in downtown Toronto. I have a penchant for romance, dirty vodka martinis and horror movies/games. I am a bit of a nerdy girl. I work full time as a computer programmer.
A few people DM’d me this week to send kind greetings and ask questions after I posted a few times in a thread about M4. I thought a full answer might just be best suited for a longer introduction in a proper post.
The short version
TLDR; Non-SP Transgirl looking to meet people and learn what makes admirers tick. If a dating arrangement came out of this that would be cool too, but I’m happy just to have chats as long as you’ll welcome me here. More pics attached. AMA.
The long version
It’s complicated for me to explain why I’m here. After being familiar with this site and lurking for a while I found myself compelled to try signing up and say hello. While I am not an SP, I have no qualms with sex work or those who procure it. In fact, I respect that men here actually place value on the time they spend with trans women. Furthermore, from reading others’ posts I know some of you demonstrate a pretty evolved outlook on your trans attraction. Someone used the term “Gynephilia” here the other day and I was notably impressed. Given how plastered the term “Shemale” is everywhere on this forum I wasn’t actually expecting people to take the time to write so thoughtfully about their personal tastes. Even the folks who have messaged me have been kind and thoughtful in their communications and I appreciate that a lot.
I have played the dating game for years on most of the notable sites and I find them all a bit ho-hum. Particularly I’m tired of the expectation from guys that I’m just going to want to meet them discretely at my home on a whim because they sent me a cock pic. This isn’t to say that there’s anything wrong with just wanting a discrete one-and-done encounter, but I think it’s in poor taste to be approaching trans women on regular dating sites, ignoring our profile descriptions and talking to us like all we want is to be a fuck toy for someone who puts no emotional or financial investment into our wellness.
So I’ve managed to find myself signing up here because I’m looking for something different than what I’ve been finding elsewhere. I have curiosity about whether there are guys among the ranks here looking for something more than a by-the-hour connection and closer to either like a “Nice dinner dates for fun” kind of thing or some sort of sugar daddy arrangement.
At the end of the day my career is going to take care of my surgical transition costs and I’m not really seeking financial remunerations. I’m mostly interested in feeling appreciated and nurtured. However I think generosity is probably commensurate with just how discrete my connection wants to be. If you want to take me out to dinners/events, spend time and do nice things together I want very little else. If you’re looking to keep our dynamic mostly quiet and limited to intimate encounters, well spoiling should be appropriately generous, though I’d appreciate it in clothing, makeup and spa gifts.
So to summarize the proposal:
I GET - Appreciation and nurturing of some form, either via public activities at restaurants/venues and/or some sort of gift support arrangement.
YOU GET - A trans girlfriend who gives you attention and affection ongoing. Who cares about you 24/7, texts and sends pics when you’re not together. Cheers you on in life.
A little bit more about me and what I like:
- I’m a submissive bottom girl first and foremost. While I’ve never topped a guy before in my life I’m not saying never either. It’s kind of like my last virginity though and I’ve been saving it 😂
- I love dom/sub and Daddy/Babygirl kind of dynamics. Generally I’m an open minded lover with few limits
- I’m basically pre-everything surgical-transition wise, just on hormone therapy for 1.5 years now
- I love fashion and makeup and I’m quite receptive to feedback on things my partner wants me to wear. I actually attribute a reasonable amount of my personal fashion taste evolution to feedback from men. I want to spend energy on looks-maxing
- I also love doing anything for a look, including wigs. My natural hair is in the process of growing out, but I rock it too sometimes.
- I think I’m a very positive and affectionate person overall. I tend toward modesty and have an absolute honesty policy in how I live my life.
- I attached more pics of myself to this post in some different looks, including a natural short-hair demure office girl look 💁♀️
On the subject of honesty I wanted to leave this post open to any and all questions, as long as they are not too personally identifying for my own safety.
I’m also open to feedback and criticism of my proposition. If nothing else, I thought this post might be a nice break from all the crypto and porn spam and an opportunity for discussion about alternative arrangements with trans girls.
I hope you are all having a good week and thank your reading!
Kisses,
Kai 😘
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