Husband into trans escorts

[ladyluv]

Haha I know right? Sorry man, I had to say something 😆

[marinav2]

Question for Tia... Do you let all your clients know before hand that are a post op?

[marinav2]

Lol. Join my onlyfans for the answer or simply call 911 😅

I am asking about the clients you see for escorting. I know the answer is no but I want to hear it from you, haha

[Mister Pantstent]

I’m gonna fucking snap if I hear the word therapy one more time. Enough with the fucking therapy already. Just because we have a sexual/ side sexual preference doesn’t mean we need therapy. Your on here asking for help but your making yourself sound like an asshole by keeping on bringing it up. When I read your comments I picture you as being Fraser cranes ex wife from the show Fraser. ENOUGH WITH THE FUCKING THERAPY LILLITH. Now for the rest of us, let’s all take a shot for every time we read the word therapy in this thread and we’ll all be hammered within the hour.

Thank you! I only continued to read this thread to see if someone said it.

Why does understanding and enjoying your own sexuality mean you need therapy?

OP, I would bet dollars to donuts that your husband has tasted the candy.

[Skippy]

I echo others on here when I say I have no attraction towards men in any way. Except the cock. No idea why but I just like looking at them and them only. I just view is as another body part. And put one on a great looking tgirl and it’s the perfect combo. Not gonna lie either, after a few really bad experiences with rather unhygienic vaginas, I’ve kinda been turned off on that body part a bit.

[Somewan]

Thank you! I only continued to read this thread to see if someone said it.

Why does understanding and enjoying your own sexuality mean you need therapy?

OP, I would bet dollars to donuts that your husband has tasted the candy.

No need to get defensive. I didn’t insist that everyone who has this interest must get therapy. But I would imagine some people might, to understand their attraction better.

I also came here to understand this mindset and this world better as it was a shell shock for me and sent me down the rabbit hole of research to gain better understanding.

Maybe my husband has. He doesn’t feel good about his attraction or his desire to fulfill that fantasy.

I may be speaking out of turn, but based on my, perhaps, superficial research, I understand that the majority of the tgirls want to follow through with the final SRS and change their dicks into vaginas. They don’t particularly want to use it on their partner and feel least attracted to that body part on their body. Majority of them keep it for work related reason, or to just acquire enough funds to go through a full transition. The idea is to fully become a female. Majority of the straight men are into tgirls in the preop form, and many leave after the full transition, some stay because of familiarity. This desire for a preop sex signals a fetish and objectivization. Those two are the signs of psychological issues that may be addressed in therapy. I think any time one fetishizes a person, and desire them only for sex, its not exactly healthy, and is not a sexual orientation. So many of you don't care about therapy, and you have freedom to make that choice, others may have tried. I was asking those that have tried or know someone who has.

I may be wrong, can someone comment on that assessment?

As for me being a man, as someone mentioned, I am not sure how someone can even make that strong assumption from reading my post. Is there something masculine in my writing? Lol Perhaps you don’t really know women well. Most women are not as sexually open minded as men, and most of us would be heart broken finding out about my situation for the reason of the intent of cheating and discovering a sexual fetish that involves the opposite sex. Women are a lot more tame in their appetite and less obsessed with porn. We are just different. Men are a lot more salacious. I would safely say that I am on the fridges of being more open minded to people’s personalities and preferences, but I am not as open as many men here or elsewhere.

[Somewan]

I echo others on here when I say I have no attraction towards men in any way. Except the cock. No idea why but I just like looking at them and them only. I just view is as another body part. And put one on a great looking tgirl and it’s the perfect combo. Not gonna lie either, after a few really bad experiences with rather unhygienic vaginas, I’ve kinda been turned off on that body part a bit.

Thank you for answering honestly and maturely. I wondered about that, if the appearance of the vagina is a turn off for men. To me its still inherently female. I have been with men that really enjoyed vaginas. They loved touching them, feeling them, performing oral. For them they were inviting, and sexual, the idea of it being an inviting orifice, a warm, soft and wet receptacle. My husband was never really attending to my vagina. Most of the time he went go straight into intercourse. He claims he likes it, but I think he prefers dick more. He echoed what someone said about the visual of watching it become erect and feeling dominated by it. But he insists that he cannot imagine kissing or touching a man, and doesnt feel attracted to the tgirls who look more masculine, all of them must have big breasts and big butts, and sexy feminine faces. I looked at the tgirls he contacted and looked at and the majority have that voluptuous latina look. Maybe he doesnt like pussy, because he feels like a pussy himself? Maybe he looks at cock as a sign of masculinity, dominance, something he feels he lacks and desires in himself? I don’t know.

[Somewan]

Your husband is a great man. The fact that he is being honest and open with you about it.

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I am not sure about him being a great man. He went looking for escorts behind my back instead of manning up and being a man and talking to me.
No matter your appetites, you shouldnt be looking to fulfill your sexual fantasy when you have a partner who you have a trusting relationship with you, and if you made a commitment to respect a monogamous and loyal marriage. He also got caught and confessed because I made him swear on our kid’s lives. He had no intention to reveal any of this in the 16 years we have been together. Not sure there is anything great about that.

[southerntrekker]

I can’t comment on you or your husbands relationship. Infidelity is defined differently by each person involved so trying to sort that out here is pointless. That said, in regard to your main question of the attraction to pre op, who knows? That’s the best I can come up with. I love women, love sex with women, smell, taste, feel, everything. I don’t like sex with men, don’t know why, I just don’t, it doesn't turn me on, and I have had sex with men. Pre op trans women though, really turn me on, I like being dominated by top providers. It’s as hot to me as being with a woman. Never really gave it much thought otherwise, and I never will. My sexual preferences are mine, just like yours are yours. Who is anyone to try and figure that out? It’s a go with what makes you happy thing. I think what your trying to do here is rationalize your husbands infidelity by looking at what he’s attracted to and compare that to something you think you’re lacking. I doubt that you’re lacking anything, he’s probably as into you as anything else. The lack of attentiveness to your vagina may actually be that he’s in his head while having sex with you and that’s distracting him. That part I can attest to. If you can sort out the infidelity issues together and move on with that, maybe try indulging him on his fantasies and see if there’s a change, if there isn’t then it might be time to move on.

[marinav2]

Maybe your pussy smells bad, ever thought of that. I have always been shocked at women who dont realize how bad their pussy smells some times. I have seen this many times where a girl wants me to go downtown on them and I do and I have to hold my breath cuz I am gonna throw up from the smell. So now I do not get too excited about eating pussy anymore unless I am in a relationship with them and the puss doesnt stink haha.

[Mugsammy]

This is stupid. It’s just someone playing around.

[Jedward1030]

Good thing the husband wasn't in to FTM as well. The conversation would have took a turn.

[ladyluv]

This is stupid. It’s just someone playing around.

100%. It’s ridiculous

[chuffer]

Not sure if this will help.
I love my wife and eating her pussy etc.
She doenst play with my prostate and i miss that .
However , people are right, something about sucking a cock that makes me SUPER HARD
Also when i have seen escorts, i dont top them, i want to be topped which is something that my wife wont do.
I do not have any attraction to men, but if the right opportunity, i would certainly suck man cock and be fucked by one.
No kissing, dont care for that i just "WANT THE BEEF"
Understand its 1000% sexual, and nothing more
Not attracted to men in any way
Its puerly sexual.
Truth, is my wife fucked me with a strap on and let me suck it, i would not be looking outside my house.
And yes, she know i LOVE anal play and wont participate.

Regarding Therapy? What do you want him to become? He is who he is and that makes the world go round.

[jackshepherd]

Unless it's for something very specific and/or traumatic, therapy for men is not the best idea. I'm speaking from experience. Even talking openly about our preferences on this forum won't always be welcomed. Some people have a specific attraction to pre-op trans women. I'd want to date a pre-op trans woman over dating a woman, and I know I'm not alone in this preference, but there are people who would insist that our preference for pre-op trans women is just us fetishizing them, and it's frowned upon because trans women are women.

I was very straight until my 20s, when I realized that I was attracted to trans women, which eventually made me a bit more bi-sexual. I wouldn't want to date a guy, but I'm okay having sexual experiences with them. I wouldn't want to date or have a sexual experience with a trans man. There are some days where I'm predominantly thinking about a man. Other days it's a woman, and other days still it's a trans woman. It is what it is. I have no desire to get pegged by anyone. If you have a good looking cock, you can fuck me. If you're feminine, I'd love to fuck you. Maybe I'm too bi for my experience to be relevant, but there's no reason why you can't enjoy sucking dick and licking pussy (and ass). How much you enjoy it will depend on a bunch of factors. You also don't have to be into transwomen because you want to be dominated by them & their cock. That can be part of the experience for sure, but some of my most memorable sexual experiences have been topping a transwoman. Women who act masculine, or are disrespectful, can be a huge turn off, even if they're physically attractive.

Men like variety. I'm sure he would love to have other pussy as well, but that would seem like a clearer cut case of cheating, so he's limiting his extracurricular adventures to the trans world, hoping you can learn to accept it. I've been in an open-ish relationship where my partner has been the most okay with me having a rare encounter with a transwoman, or an even rarer encounter with a man (especially if she can join in), but never with a woman. How would your husband feel if you told him you wanted to explore some side fun with a man whenever he went off to explore his trans curiosities? Would either of you be open to you joining him on his adventure, or simply watching?