What's stopping you from dating a transwoman?

[justlurkin]

The obvious thing not being said is most of the men here do not want to come out as gynesexual or wherever under the bisexual umbrella they fall under. Trans escorts allows them to explore and experience that side of themselves without having to face the discrimination LGBTQ people face in heteronormative society. Especially considering that having ever been known for dating trans women automatically eliminates you as a potential partner to most cis women despite their love of virtue signaling otherwise. They are just biphobic and homophobic as men. In other words, dating a trans woman can potentially make it very difficult to impossible to later have a heterosexual relationship even if that's what you truly want.

If you're a man who is attracted to both cis and trans women, you have the option to either deal with all this or play with trans girls in secret, date cis women outwardly, and have a relatively "normal" life. Obviously, the latter is a much simpler path.

Personally, I only recently came to terms with accepting that I'm gynesexual and become open to dating a trans girl. I would actually love to try, but I don't even know where to start. I can't remember the last time I even saw a trans woman just walking around Toronto in any of the major districts. As others have noted, they're a rare sight outside of sex work here.

[closvonbelowyou]

I've dated lots of trans women, all abroad. The approach, the attitude, and the culture of it are entirely better.

More natural, more down-to-earth, less drama, a lot more humility, and less obsession with social media.

To me the trans women in North America have lost any semblance of innocence, or happiness with their bodies. Insta culture, wokeness, and an obsession with surgery as a solution to all problems means a merry-go-round of near constant unhappiness. TikTok, Insta, endless messages....have all killed any possibility of romance as most men dream of it. Now it's just big distorted clown lips, monster tits, garish tattoos, vaping all day, and staring at their phones. How sexy.

The insane cost of living makes it even worse, as being trans is expensive, job prospects are dim, and there's so much hatred and fear of trans in many quarters of the culture wars in America and now here. All that adds noise to any chance of having a meaningful relationship with a trans.

Sad state of affairs. Being trans is tough, but dating a trans might be equally difficult. Add in the fact that straight men are super thirsty for trans women, most trans women have pick of the litter in their private lives, so the average guy doesn't stand a chance–even more so than with GG's.

All of these things and more conspire to make it difficult even to meet a trans woman, let alone make something work on an emotional level. Spend ten minutes on the ground in Asia and you'll be greeted with a thousand good options for having a relationship with a trans. You'll realize Canada is a fucking woke wasteland.

[HipEponymous]

The obvious thing not being said is most of the men here do not want to come out as gynesexual or wherever under the bisexual umbrella they fall under. Trans escorts allows them to explore and experience that side of themselves without having to face the discrimination LGBTQ people face in heteronormative society. Especially considering that having ever been known for dating trans women automatically eliminates you as a potential partner to most cis women despite their love of virtue signaling otherwise. They are just biphobic and homophobic as men. In other words, dating a trans woman can potentially make it very difficult to impossible to later have a heterosexual relationship even if that's what you truly want.

If you're a man who is attracted to both cis and trans women, you have the option to either deal with all this or play with trans girls in secret, date cis women outwardly, and have a relatively "normal" life. Obviously, the latter is a much simpler path.

Personally, I only recently came to terms with accepting that I'm gynesexual and become open to dating a trans girl. I would actually love to try, but I don't even know where to start. I can't remember the last time I even saw a trans woman just walking around Toronto in any of the major districts. As others have noted, they're a rare sight outside of sex work here.

The first point I would like to address, is your claim that once people find out you are dating, or have dated a trans girl, that’s it for cis women. This is false, and probably a product of your own internalized transphobia.

I’ve dated both trans and cis women throughout my life, and I’ve actually used my past encounters and relationships with trans women to my advantage. A couple times when I was having difficulty closing the deal with a cis woman, I slipped in a story or two about my experiences with trans women. Both times, that was the watershed moment where their attitudes completely shifted, and the sexual portion of the relationship began.

In fact, I’ve never received a negative reaction anytime I’ve told a cis woman about those experiences. Women love sexually adventurous and open-minded men. You should stop projecting your own views onto other people… There’s no telling what good things may happen.

I would also like to assure you that what I have stated is not for the purpose of “virtue signalling”. You simply seem to be buying into some of the completely baseless stereotypes surrounding trans women, and I thought you should know that might not be nearly as correct as you believed.

I also find it baffling that one should probably pass up a potential chance at true happiness, simply because you might be exposed to hatred from anti-LGBT bigots? That doesn’t seem very reasonable to me.

As I mentioned, I’ve dated both cis and trans women. The experience is very similar, other than the sex. I find sex with cis women to be boring, to the point of rarely wishing to indulge. The opposite is true with trans women. You’re here. I don’t need to explain what I mean, because I’m sure you know.

As far as exposing one’s self to bigotry, I have only experienced that a handful of times. You simply ignore the bigot’s bullshit, and keep walking. Human garbage like that is not worth the energy it would take to turn around. It is a very rare occurrence. The vast majority of people have no idea, and those who do, don’t give a shit.

Finally, you come around to admitting you’d be open to dating a trans woman, but you have no idea where to begin. I think I can probably help you with this.

I am currently dating a beautiful and young trans girl myself. We have been together for a year now. Best relationship I’ve ever had. Bar none. I’m certain she could do much better than me, but she is fiercely loyal, and seems to be completely in love. Let’s just say that I am not complaining… and before anyone says anything, I am basically broke, and have a very, very average penis.

It definitely wasn’t easy to get to this point. I invested multiple hours every single day on trans dating apps, where I experienced a truly confidence shattering amount of rejection. I mean, it was tough. But I never gave up.

In the end, I wasn’t who swiped right on my girlfriend. I had a lower age limit of 35, and my girl is quite a bit younger than that. It was all the work of my Shiba Inu, whose paw landed on my phone, when she unexpectedly jumped up on my lap. My girl messaged me that night, and the rest is history.

The best place for you to begin, is finding a collection of trans dating apps in the App Store. I found the best, and most used app was Taimi. There are, exponentially more trans girls on that app than any other, plus subscriptions are very inexpensive.

Believe me when I say you can do this. You just have to go in knowing that it could take a very long time, and include more rejection than you’ve probably ever experienced in your life.

Because, in the end, trans women are just like cis women, just a lot better in bed. (generally less annoying as well)

[ladyluv]

[QUOTE=HipEponymous;n1207040]I am dating a super hot, passable and hung trans girl. In fact, our one year anniversary is coming up this week.

She is the most loving, and respectful girl I have ever dated… and the sex is the best I’ve ever had. (as expected)

To the guys who expressed concern for their career being one of the reasons they’d never date a trans girl… They’re not criminals, delinquents or deviants. They’re just like anyone else, and I don’t see why dating a trans girl could damage your career. [/QUOTE

You don’t see it, because you don’t live it.

[nowayjose]

If you're a fry cook, it's probably not going to affect your career. If you're trying to climb the executive ladder at a children's toy company it probably is. In between is case by case. If you are a producer for Ru Paul's Drag Race or work for some kind of LGBTQ organization, maybe it will help.

Also, the world you live in depends somewhat on when you were born. It think it's true that someone of my generation outing themselves as dating trans women might affect their future prospects. For someone younger, it's probably much less of a thing.

[AnnRoberts]

In my experience, it's more about connecting on a personal level rather than any external factors. And let's not forget everyone has their own unique story. We can't lump people together based on one aspect of their identity. If you're approaching someone, trans or not, with genuine interest and an open heart, that's what matters.

Also, totally random, but I'm in the market for a new place, and finding the right mortgage feels like navigating uncharted waters. I was advised to contact Mortgage Broker Leeds. Any tips or advice from the community?

[Luvs2BeTopped]

The fact that she's not a woman. Tgirls are a fetish for most of us, but for an actual relationship we want a real woman.

[Tgirllover07]

Hmm, trans women are definetly a fantasy for me. I do view them as people and see them as friends and treat them with respect. I am not sure if I am truly ready to shoulder the weight of actually being with one. It would be on a situational basis of me meeting someone worth making thay sacrifice for.

[truck]

I noticed people on here complaining about rates and pricing. Out of curiosity what's stopping those of you who hate paying for sex or hate how the rates have gone up from actually approaching a transwoman and dating her?

I’d date a trans woman. Only thing id want to do is have sex. Nothing else. Maybe have breakfast, maybe go on vacation together to fuck but that’s it. Just fucking, nothing else.

[jusakid]

all of the attractive ones are escorts

[skipper2024]

all of the attractive ones are escorts

So true!!!!

[mbrown]

So true!!!!

No true at all wtf! I don’t know where you from, but in Montreal there’s plenty of beautiful trans women that are not escorts. Its really fcked up you guys think that.

[skipper2024]

No true at all wtf! I don’t know where you from, but in Montreal there’s plenty of beautiful trans women that are not escorts. Its really fcked up you guys think that.

Sorry, not just escorts. OF models too!

[ladyluv]

all of the attractive ones are escorts

I disagree. Lots of pretty ones out there not in the sex trade.

[Hoodho]

I would love to date a transwoman. Do you know any transwomen who are free? Let me know.

go to the gay village on church street and approach a transwoman your interested in.