What's stopping you from dating a transwoman?

[LatinFred]

Definitely would love to date one. Even if she was an worker. I just don't know know to find them. If anyone knows of good ways id clagary alberta I'd love to hear.

[Hoodho]

If it were that easy everyone would have a Trans girlfriend.

It is that easy that was how one of my friends met her boyfriend.

[Hoodho]

Yea in all probability she'll simply try to sell you her OnlyFans or tell you that you can "date her" for $400. That's the world we're in now.

if you don't have the gutts to respectfully approach a transwoman you are interested in for a date just say that. Plenty of transwomen are Not sex workers

[ladyluv]

If you live in Toronto, it’s pretty easy to meet trans women that aren’t in the sex industry, whether in the village or via dating apps. That’s been my experience at least.

[Hoodho]

You don't know anything about me so please stop projecting. I have dated lots of trans women and have no problem with either nerve or respect. In fact very few attractive trans women are not involved in monetizing their beauty in some way or another. It's absolutely brutal dating trans women these days for all kinds of reasons, and the idea that if you just approach one on the street and be respectful and everything will work out is silly. Modern dating is brutal in general, even more so around trans women.

There is no guarantee if you approach anyone that there going to be interested in you. That's the risk involved. But to imply that if you approach any transwoman off church street they will tell you their fee is absurd and highly disrespectful to transwomen. Even escorts have boyfriends they see for free while charging the rest of yall. You grossly generalized a whole populace due to your failure at attracting them without having to pay. Point is you have to put yourself out there to eventually get what you want.

[joedaddy]

I have an interesting answer and I may be 100% wrong. I see trans escorts because I have an occasional fetish to get fucked in the ass. I love it, but just on occasion. Otherwise, I'm generally attracted to women and prefer to be more dominant there. Now, my perception is that most trans women want to be bottoms. I assume that those who are tops as escorts do it for the money, but in a relationship they would prefer to "be the woman". I might be 100% wrong, but that's my perception. So I have relationships with women and see trans providers for sex.

[HipEponymous]

Sounds amazing! Happy to hear that relationship is going well!!

For the career comment.. since you made that comment, you’re not in an industry where you would notice the damage, or else you’d be highly self aware. Some industries solely have an ultra masculine, pussy or no show way of things.

Well, I am of the opinion that masculinity is something one either has, or doesn’t. That being said, masculinity can manifest in many different ways. Ultimately, being open about one’s alternative sexuality does not automatically disqualify them from being viewed as masculine.

I served eleven years in the military, and was always very open about my hyper sexual nature, including my love of trans women. Of course, there was the common ribbing, but people respect those who own that which makes them the person they are.

People will almost always respect someone who is open and honest about themselves, and will be far more accepting of their differences, than they would be with those who are dishonest, and hide their true selves in shame. When you dislike yourself, and the life you live, others will naturally take the same path in forming their opinion of you.

Another key element in guiding others to accept the true you, regardless of how you may be different, is roll with the initial negativity you will inevitably receive. Once the few “schoolyard bully” types realize that they can’t ruffle your feathers or cause you to become upset, they will almost always learn to respect you. This also prevents the much needed support network of cronies from overwhelming you. Most other bullies will only join in on bullying when it seems like success is guaranteed. Due to their natural cowardice, if they detect there is a chance the bullying campaign will blow up in their face, they’re not going to want anything to do with it. Once the lead agitator realizes very few people are joining in, their disdain will most often morph into respect.

If you truly believe in yourself, and that in which you believe, others will usually respect you for that fact alone. It doesn’t mean they will ever agree with your alternative views on particular things, but they will usually stop disrespecting you for what makes you different, and in time, stop seeing you as different at all. Just another one of the guys.

[HipEponymous]

Sir this is a Wendy's.

Seriously, dude, someone needs to puncture your self-aggrandizement. You like transwomen; you're not curing cancer or riding the bus in Selma, lol

I’m just living my best life.
I’m sorry that upsets you.

[ladyluv]

HipEponymous sure has long winded self absorbed comments. Very similar to Tia Phoenix’s posts. Maybe just a coincidence, but geez.

[Hoodho]

Well, I am of the opinion that masculinity is something one either has, or doesn’t. That being said, masculinity can manifest in many different ways. Ultimately, being open about one’s alternative sexuality does not automatically disqualify them from being viewed as masculine.

I served eleven years in the military, and was always very open about my hyper sexual nature, including my love of trans women. Of course, there was the common ribbing, but people respect those who own that which makes them the person they are.

People will almost always respect someone who is open and honest about themselves, and will be far more accepting of their differences, than they would be with those who are dishonest, and hide their true selves in shame. When you dislike yourself, and the life you live, others will naturally take the same path in forming their opinion of you.

Another key element in guiding others to accept the true you, regardless of how you may be different, is roll with the initial negativity you will inevitably receive. Once the few “schoolyard bully” types realize that they can’t ruffle your feathers or cause you to become upset, they will almost always learn to respect you. This also prevents the much needed support network of cronies from overwhelming you. Most other bullies will only join in on bullying when it seems like success is guaranteed. Due to their natural cowardice, if they detect there is a chance the bullying campaign will blow up in their face, they’re not going to want anything to do with it. Once the lead agitator realizes very few people are joining in, their disdain will most often morph into respect.

If you truly believe in yourself, and that in which you believe, others will usually respect you for that fact alone. It doesn’t mean they will ever agree with your alternative views on particular things, but they will usually stop disrespecting you for what makes you different, and in time, stop seeing you as different at all. Just another one of the guys.

well said. Unfortunately 98 percent of the men on here are cowards that are afraid of their own shadow. So lack the courage to openly date or even openly acknowledge interest in transwomen. Resulting in the hostility you've just experienced.

[HipEponymous]

I have an interesting answer and I may be 100% wrong. I see trans escorts because I have an occasional fetish to get fucked in the ass. I love it, but just on occasion. Otherwise, I'm generally attracted to women and prefer to be more dominant there. Now, my perception is that most trans women want to be bottoms. I assume that those who are tops as escorts do it for the money, but in a relationship they would prefer to "be the woman". I might be 100% wrong, but that's my perception. So I have relationships with women and see trans providers for sex.

Personally, that has not been my experience. I realize that many trans women are strictly bottoms, but certainly not all.

[HipEponymous]

Sir this is a Wendy's.

Seriously, dude, someone needs to puncture your self-aggrandizement. You like transwomen; you're not curing cancer or riding the bus in Selma, lol

What the fuck does that have to do with what I posted?

You’re clearly upset over what I wrote. As I was careful to be respectful of all groups I mentioned, and I said nothing about you directly, your displeasure isn’t a result of me at all. You’re upset over the way my post makes you feel about yourself.

The manner in which others view us, is greatly shaped by the way we present ourselves to others. Show others that you’re easily upset, and you can count on being upset often.

Just like an animal is far more likely to attack a person who displays fear, people will zero in on an individual’s areas of weakness.

The more personal characteristics with which you confidently and voluntarily self-identify to others, the easier life will be. People simply won’t bother with something which they know doesn’t upset you.

While I totally understand how emasculating it must feel, to lack the courage to rise above this shame you feel. Especially when the shame is a result of something you truly enjoy. It must be terrible to have to hide something, for which you have passion, from your friends, family and co-workers.

All because you’re afraid they might see you as what?

Gay?

Well, you most likely aren’t, so why do you care so much that others may believe you are? It doesn’t make you a bad person, or hurt anyone else.

Seems like this reveals a lot more about who you are, than it does anyone who could possibly shame you.

Your shame is nothing more than the irl manifestation of your internalized homophobia and transphobia.

You can’t open up to anyone about this, because of the unresolved issues and negative manner in which you view gay and trans people.

Are you surprised to learn of this bigotry within you? Or were you aware of it all along.

To lust after a group of people which a part of you cannot stand. I wouldn’t wish that confused, post-nut regretting mess for all the money in existence.

No wonder you’re so fucking bitchy.

[HipEponymous]

I’m sure you share some characteristics with Crossover1, but it appears your issues are more a result of your laziness.

I can’t believe how people cannot grasp that some people like to express themselves through writing, every bit as much as they despise expressing themselves through writing.

As my last two posts have been exclusively about you two, I hope you don’t see me as quite so self-absorbed… actually, I couldn’t care less.

[HipEponymous]

well said. Unfortunately 98 percent of the men on here are cowards that are afraid of their own shadow. So lack the courage to openly date or even openly acknowledge interest in transwomen. Resulting in the hostility you've just experienced.

Every point you made is correct.

So fucking concerned over something they will one day view with regret… when it’s far too late. Once youth is wasted, it never returns.

I say, fuck whatever people may think or say about me. I know exactly what I like, and I’m not going to allow the bigotry of others, cause me to miss out on what I love the most. There are no second chances.

Those two actually represent the “others”.