Loving and marrying a transexual

[deuxglass]

Do any of you have experience with a long-term relationship with a transexual? If so, how did it go? Actually I am searching but I am a one-girl guy and only for life if possible. Do you girls have a view on this also? Thanks very much!

Doug

[merelypink]

good luck

[kristopin]

ditto good luck

what you are looking for is someone to share your life with. the relationship situation is really no different than any other i think. compromise, communicate, etc. you just have to go throught he forums and look for the other factors that would be involved.

you would have to rememvber that these girls have gone through a lot to be who they needed to be and are so strong yet also fragile.

just be loving and supportive.

the partner you want is coming from a much smaller community than say the Gg world so your search will take more time.


cheers, good luck.

[dan_calgary]

good luck

agreed

[deuxglass]

The problem is finding the one who wants to settle down.

I would love to find one here but maybe this is not the right place . Also I live in Paris, France and frankly the scene here is a bit strange. Love to talk to a girl who would be willing. Anyone interested?

[deuxglass]

Thanks for the kind advice. Yes you are right about the difficulty in finding a girl for me and I will apply your advice. I believe many transexuals are looking for the same thing. The problem is getting us together lol.

[shemale_patriciaM]

Another problem is your avatar picture in lingerie.....not too many girls are attracted to men wearing that......leave it to the girls if i were u

[deuxglass]

A valid observation

I realize that my image is not the best but I am a CD and have been one since 11 years old. That is what I am and I don't care to hide it from a potential spouse. It would be like lying to hide my nature and I have spent too long denying who and what I am. Many won't be attracted to me because of it but perhaps some will. I don't know but I think it is best to be honest about it. My real regret is that I will never be as beautiful as some of the girls here lol. You have to play the cards you get. Thanks for the advice all the same. I do appreciate it.

[tslisaparadise]

I My real regret is that I will never be as beautiful as some of the girls here lol.

dontcha meen all of the girls here?

[deuxglass]

Haha. OK. I agree with you. All of the girls here are prettier than I could ever be ( but I bet I could make a nice TS lol).

[deuxglass]

I am removing my avatar by popular demand

You girls must know what transexuals like or dislike better than I know. Out it goes.

[kristopin]

so much info

Haha. OK. I agree with you. All of the girls here are prettier than I could ever be ( but I bet I could make a nice TS lol).

there is so much info on this forum that can help you with your thoughts. i do like your desire to be honest but even in a non tg relationship it has to start somewhere and maybe not showing all your cards right off is the best idea. get to know each other a bit first.

i had to learn to walk and not run. i mean if it is going to happen it will.
i thought europe had lots of tgirls?

[deuxglass]

Have to walk first

Yes I should not be in people's faces on this. Yes there are many tgirls in Europe but I don't find it to be a healthy scene in Paris. You have to be 100% hedonist and act as if you will die tomorrow. Everybody seems to be using everyone else. No time for sentiments. Guess I am incurably romantic.

[kristopin]

romantics

Yes I should not be in people's faces on this. Yes there are many tgirls in Europe but I don't find it to be a healthy scene in Paris. You have to be 100% hedonist and act as if you will die tomorrow. Everybody seems to be using everyone else. No time for sentiments. Guess I am incurably romantic.

you have to read more of the threads in this forum to know that a lot of the girls have gone thru sooooooo much.
i will repeat a story here for you.
i was out having coffee with a tgirl and we were sitting in the public just chatting and she was astounded that i had no reaction to the other folks around us and at that time she thought tis was kinda special and seemed genuinely surprised at my behaviour. i told here that i was sitting in a cafe with a friend just talking. nothing special in that in my thoughts.
she was still amazed.

the thing is when i am out with a friend that is all there is to it. i see no difference. i am not ashamed of myself or her. people are people.
i see people as they are not as 'what' they are.

so i think that as you say you are a romantic, just as i am, then again 'walk dont run', take your time. yeah i know that is hard to do when you just want to be loved but the issue cannot be pushed. trust me on that.

cheers all the best.

[deuxglass]

I can understand that many have gone through so much

Kristopin, I do understand to a degree what they have gone through to become what they are and I admire them for their courage and tenacity. I respect them very much. I have been a CD since I was 11 years old and had the same feeling of being in the wrong body but unfortunately I was never able to summon the strength to change as they have. That is why I do feel a strong kinship with them. In a sense they are "my people". To me sitting in public in a caf? with a Tgirl is a completely normal thing to do. Of course living in Paris helps because anything goes here but as we all know others don't feel the same way. They can be friends in private but not in public and that makes me totally angry. I support my friends to the hilt and if others don't understand then I don't care. I prefer having a richer personal life to having a "correct" reputation with people I don't even know or care about. At work word gets around but I was surprised how few people really cared about it and my friends there remained my friends for the most part (I am in investment banking where results are the only thing that matters). Yes I am taking my time and i know it will take a while to find the right one. It will probably come by surprise. And if I find her I will be proud of her in private, in public and everywhere.