Loving and marrying a transexual

[Tia Phoenixx]

Yes I should not be in people's faces on this. Yes there are many tgirls in Europe but I don't find it to be a healthy scene in Paris. You have to be 100% hedonist and act as if you will die tomorrow. Everybody seems to be using everyone else. No time for sentiments. Guess I am incurably romantic.

omg....we have complitely different experience.

I have always a great time in Paris.

You might be right...Paris is very sensual and suited best for hedonists.

Hemm...i guess i`m a hedonist, especially when i`m traveling lol

Ahh..life is too short, let`s have fun lalala..

[Tia Phoenixx]

Kristopin, I do understand to a degree what they have gone through to become what they are and I admire them for their courage and tenacity. I respect them very much. I have been a CD since I was 11 years old and had the same feeling of being in the wrong body but unfortunately I was never able to summon the strength to change as they have. That is why I do feel a strong kinship with them. In a sense they are "my people". To me sitting in public in a caf? with a Tgirl is a completely normal thing to do. Of course living in Paris helps because anything goes here but as we all know others don't feel the same way. They can be friends in private but not in public and that makes me totally angry. I support my friends to the hilt and if others don't understand then I don't care. I prefer having a richer personal life to having a "correct" reputation with people I don't even know or care about. At work word gets around but I was surprised how few people really cared about it and my friends there remained my friends for the most part (I am in investment banking where results are the only thing that matters). Yes I am taking my time and i know it will take a while to find the right one. It will probably come by surprise. And if I find her I will be proud of her in private, in public and everywhere.

I did not see it that way when i was in Paris though...actually i never see it that way to be more precise

I think u have to adjust yourself first in Paris.

to be romantic is nice, but too romantic can be paint in the ass IMO.

Maybe i can teach you to be more hedonistic next time im in Paris

[deuxglass]

Nothing wrong with hedonism

When the hedonistic mood hits me I go all the way Tia. I love sensuality and the devil may care feeling that comes with it. Yes, I am a hedonist too but I need the right one to find my overdrive switch. Devine Exultation and Dionysiac Rites are sensations we like and need (especially me lol). In Paris I just probably had too many shallow experiences with uninteresting people. The social element was missing. Spending time with someone who bores you to death is hellish.

[sensual_lover20]

Within my time in this community I have found that it is very realizable to marry a t-girl. I have seen and spent time with some girls outside of the working world and they are truly incredible girls. I do not want to mention names, but I have found a few who are set out for marriage once they escape their working career. Many have those intentions entirely. For those that are non working I know one who is looking but never think that they will find one. If anyone has interests I wouldn't mind setting her up with a nice guy who wouldn't use her. There is always hope and chances, you just have to be willing to make that gamble and put your heart on the line. In Thailand, I was told that many of them stay single and do not get married though. If they do get married, it is usually to a foreigner. Even in such an open country. Not sure about Brazil though. Anyways, I have found a nice Thai genetic girlfriend so it looks like this is my time to say goodbye to escort world and any random fun I could have. I feel the trade off paid love versus real love is not comparable. Farewell sex world.

[deuxglass]

I believe

I believe its possible to find true lasting love simply because to love is human and we all seek it. It's necessary for everyone even if some deny it. So why should not happen to Tgirls and to men that like them? The only real barrier is social convention and that is breaking down more rapidly than we think. I am an optimist by nature and I think I will find one eventually. Since there are few of us on both sides the biggest problem is where to find each other. After all we don't have signs on our backs saying "Tgirl" or "Tgirl Lover". I don't know how escorts see things in this. Do they find it possible to love a client or not? I would assume that they keep their professional life and their private life as seperate as possible. I honestly don't have any idea at all. The problem is the barriers we put up to protect ourselves. I don't have a stategy except to be honest about who I am, what I am and hope for the best ( a little luck would help too).
I am glad you found someone and I wish you happiness.
Douglas

[Wiseone26]

Hmm, men

honestly I've tried to find a guy that is honest (which I admire) and supportive. Some are like 'oh if you date a tgirl you better have money' which is crap! Seems like an excuse to me along of the fear of crazy drama. Sure we can be emotional you would be too if you had as much estrogen in your system.

Hmm, where was I going with this.. Oh yea alot of guys just want the penis aspect of it all. Am I a bitch to say "if that is all your interested in then F off.".

Now if a guy doesn't show interest due to the fact i'm not 5'4 an like 98 pounds and have double D's then your being judgemental and I have no time for that.

Am I ranting? No just stating the obvious.

Now comes to the other aspects, guy turns out to be a CD/TV that is something I don't want even though the guy could me nice. Now the age I would prefer someone around my age not 20years older, that would be screwing my dad. Eeeww!

Am I still a bitch? Maybe shallow?

I am a person a human being treat me like a normal person. I'm having dejavu typing this.....

That's my opinion and experience. Take it for what you think it's worth.

Now for gods sake get away from the computer and do something it's summertime. Have a nice day.

[kristopin]

vry happy for you

Within my time in this community I have found that it is very realizable to marry a t-girl. I have seen and spent time with some girls outside of the working world and they are truly incredible girls. I do not want to mention names, but I have found a few who are set out for marriage once they escape their working career. Many have those intentions entirely. For those that are non working I know one who is looking but never think that they will find one. If anyone has interests I wouldn't mind setting her up with a nice guy who wouldn't use her. There is always hope and chances, you just have to be willing to make that gamble and put your heart on the line. In Thailand, I was told that many of them stay single and do not get married though. If they do get married, it is usually to a foreigner. Even in such an open country. Not sure about Brazil though. Anyways, I have found a nice Thai genetic girlfriend so it looks like this is my time to say goodbye to escort world and any random fun I could have. I feel the trade off paid love versus real love is not comparable. Farewell sex world.

i am very happy for you. i hope this lasts a long time and fulfills your dreams of someone to share your love with. i am sure you will be missed.

[deuxglass]

For Paula

When you live with a Tgirl you have to deal with the hormonal issues but don't forget that every relationship has its problems. It is never a calm lake. The penis aspect. Its true I like penises and why would that be wrong to like my lover to have one? Sexual attraction is important to both sides. I am not looking for a platonic relationship. If I just wanted a pretty face and a hot body then I would go to Thailand and within a week I would come back with a superb Tgirl but something tells me she wouldn?t be with me for love so that is not my aim. I have never been to Thailand and I will never go there for sex because that it smacks of sexual exploitation rather than sexual exchange and that is a line I do not want to cross. I am a CD and I like it but I know also that I won?t please everyone but that doesn?t matter. I just have to please my loved one. It?s the same thing for age. I have no idea with whom I will be but she will be with because she likes my good parts and can deal with the not so good parts. And let me add Paula that you are not a bitch and you are not shallow. I have read some of your posts and they well thought-out and articulate. You have been hit on by too many weird guys for too long because or where you work and that hurts you. Not all men are like them.

[sensual_lover20]

i am very happy for you. i hope this lasts a long time and fulfills your dreams of someone to share your love with. i am sure you will be missed.

Thanks. I will still be around to give some input here and there. I truly love the time I spend with her, but I have to keep my past in the past. I think by telling her by previous adventures it may scare her off. Well, back to books!

[snoodle]

Congrats SL20.
I'm happy for you.

I'm gonna marry Danika.

She doesn't know it yet though. lol