Shemale loneliness and feelings of abandonment

[kristopin]

not going

not to worry i am not going anywhere. i had thought of giving the forum a break but i so much new info to share etc. i have also decided that i am in control of my life now. nobody is ever going to make decisions for me again. nobody will ever have authority over me again. i have thought about and planned my future and it will be unfolding sometime towards the end of the summer. i have a few loose ends to tie up and some information gathering to do. but the basic plan is to do a complete legal name change, challenge my work place on gender rights and see where we go from there. i will be coming out so to speak. when i do i will reveal my birth name here and will finally post a true pic on my avatar. i'll warn folks the day before hand because i dont want them getting scared of my face. haha.

i fully intend to live my life the way I want to. being a bit older has now empowered me to be more daring than ever. i may not have that many years left but by all the GODS it will be my way. ok somebody break in with Frank Sinatra. I did it my way.

[Barbie_Swallows]

I can relate slightly to how you feel Tasha. I haven't transitioned for nearly as long as you have, but I've started to feel that loneliness too. I live in an area that is very closed minded, thank god Toronto is only a train ride away, but when I'm not there I have to sit by myself in my room talking to guys online. All these guys just want me to go on web-cam so they can jerk off and then push me aside for the next time they feel horny. While it is flattering sometimes to be the object of someone's sexual desires, there's nothing more flattering than a person who genuinely wants to get to know you, or just be your friend.

I had made a couple friends in Durham but unfortunately I've had trouble recently with friends divulging secrets or going off the radar... So it's back to square one, Shauna all by herself and nobody to talk to on a personal level beyond "show me ur ass" or "how big is ur cock?"

I'm not a terribly social person, I could make do with just 1 person who I could go grab a coffee with once a week just to chat. It seems like finding that 1 person is harder than finding sex, which is odd because everyone puts so much value on sex, as if it's the most important thing in the world, yet friendship and compassion are harder to find, like diamonds in a sea of coal.

I feel the exact same way. Guys all they wanna do is jerk off on cam, or have discrete sex, but when u ask them to chill with u or go to the movies, they don't have the fucking time or day. But we all know the reason behind it, is because there are closet homosexuals, that's the truth. There not comfortable with there own sexuality, so how they hell are they gonna feel comfortable around shemales? Lol. Anyways, yea being a tranny is very lonley, cause everyone isolates away from u, including ur former friends, family members ect. It's a socail stigma. I always feel like guys are just using me for cam sex, and that's all they want. Unforunantly most guys who are into us are 90% bottom fags! The only time my x-boyfriend dallas would call me, is whenever he wanna have sex. But when i ask him to take me out and spend quality time with me, he dosen't have the fucking time or day. Probally cause he's living is fake straight lifestyle with his current girlfriend. I always felt like i was 2nd best, cause men will only show respect with u when there alone with u in the bedroom, but in the public eye, forget it! There a bunch of big fucking pussy's!

B@rbie Swallows

[sadeh]

well said toban

It is a sensitive topic to bare emotions, i have no problem expressing emotion, however does anyone really care to hear
our problems, yes, i think some guys care, some don't, even worse are what some other girls do and say about each other is just disgusting,

i find that keeping my real friends around me, keeps me humble and
i can keep my personal emotions out of my sex life......

There have been two postings made here within the last couple of days, first by Tasha and today, by Grace that have made it abundantly clear just how difficult it may be for these and other girls to live the life they have embarked upon.

http://tgirlforums.com/yabbse/showpost.php?p=201158&postcount=1
http://tgirlforums.com/yabbse/showpost.php?p=200987&postcount=9
http://tgirlforums.com/yabbse/showpost.php?p=200928&postcount=3

It is a fact that most T-girls will likely experience many difficulties in their lives but the one thing I perceived in both Tasha?s and Grace?s posts, were the expressions of a dreadful loneliness, hurt and feeling of abandonment.

My heart goes out to them and to other girls who probably experience the same awful sense of being alone without any really close relationship with someone that can help them through life.

Apparently, as these girls posts demonstrate so well, this feeling of loneliness can be compounded by some guys who deal carelessly and recklessly with these girls who have real feelings. Reading these heartbreaking posts I personally felt a wave of sadness come over me as I realized how low they must have been feeling as they typed their messages.

I urge all those guys who frequent this Forum, to try to develop much more compassion for these girls and their feelings, than they may be accustomed to exhibiting.

[tslisaparadise]

it is a sensitive topic to bare emotions, i have no problem expressing emotion, however does anyone really care to hear
our problems, yes, i think some guys care, some don't, even worse are what some other girls do and say about each other is just disgusting,

i find that keeping my real friends around me, keeps me humble and
i can keep my personal emotions out of my sex life......

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wow talk about being lonley,how do ya think i feel when i have to bribe my damn parret with a cracker just so she gives me a kiss lol

[sadeh]

lol

although the best remedy for a headaches, boardom and a lazy summer night is good sex..

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.........wow talk about being lonley,how do ya think i feel when i have to bribe my damn parret with a cracker just so she gives me a kiss lol

[tslisaparadise]

although the best remedy for a headaches, boardom and a lazy summer night is good sex..

you got that right sister

[tslisaparadise]

ya try and tell that to my girlfriend.

Her headaches are the remedy for not having sex.
(it will just make it worse she says)
:d

you should have a tgirl as a lover,your just the right height to get her off lol

[maddplotter]

It is a sensitive topic to bare emotions, i have no problem expressing emotion, however does anyone really care to hear
our problems, yes, i think some guys care, some don't, even worse are what some other girls do and say about each other is just disgusting,

i find that keeping my real friends around me, keeps me humble and
i can keep my personal emotions out of my sex life......

For me, I think baring your emotions makes you human. It shows that you are more that tits and ass (and cock).

[kristopin]

it can be theraputic

For me, I think baring your emotions makes you human. It shows that you are more that tits and ass (and cock).

i think it can be a good thing but you have to be in the right frame of mind. if you do it while you are angry then you make horrible mistakes. i know because i did it and regretted it the minut i pushed the submit button.