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Some few months ago, Admin did alot of work to try to accomplish something very honourable when he set new guidelines for fighting and attacking on the forum. I am not a moderator here nor do I pretend to understand everything that is going on but I wanted to say something on this topic because I am very concerned.
I would like readers to consider what I say and respond with their opinion. And please... I do not want to start an argument here. I am asking for real opinions and constructive comments.
First, the dictionary definition of "bully": A quarrelsome, swaggering, cowardly fellow,; one who terrorizes or threatens those weaker than himself.
It has long been agreed that young children are detrimentally affected by bullying. So much so that it has been directly linked to shootings, murder, and suicide. But children are not the only ones affected by bullying. Nobody enjoys being singled out and publicly ridiculed or attacked. This can be devastating. It can also anger the victim to the breaking point and this can lead to a direct or a symbolic attack on the bully. Bullying can begin a cycle of violence and intolerance that can only end in widespread damage.
Why are shemales so catty? Why is there bullying going on? Here is my take on it:
Most transsexuals begin their transition from a perspective of a basic and profound dissatisfaction with something about themselves. It is so strong that it can be an imperative to action. But transition itself brings difficulties and new questions arise. I believe that things are a bit better out there now but a transsexual still faces critisism, prejudice, and discrimination. Not to belabour all this, I am trying to say that there is a strong possibility that uncertainty and self-doubt play a role in the beginnings of bullying.
The difficulty is this: If one transsexual, out of a feeling of self-doubt or uncertainty, begins to project out onto others these feelings, this may give rise to a tendency to bully these others. From a falsely perceived sense of persecution, we move into a real case of bullying. The victim then seeks retribution and may even flip and become a bully in her own right. This can go on for a long time and an ever-expanding wave of damage can be seen emanating from ground zero, very much like a tsunami.
At any time, someone can step in and say something to try to prevent further damage. At any time, someone can step in and commit more bullying which will make things worse.
The above presumes that we are destined to only react and are never able to act. The above presumes that we are never able to conceive of a constructive goal and to take action to manifest it.
This forum is public. We are lucky to have it. It offers us the opportunity to be with those of like mind who accept transsexuality and it can be a place to have a honest and open dialogue. My opinion is that bullying tarnishes what we have here, makes it dirty and foul. I think that we should think before we speak. If we have a disagreement with someone, we should deal with it privately with that person rather than bully them in the forum.
I am not saying we cannot freely express ourselves in the forum. I am saying that it should be done in a respectful way. We should try to break this cyscle and create a comfortable place for ourselves.
Sunshine
I would like readers to consider what I say and respond with their opinion. And please... I do not want to start an argument here. I am asking for real opinions and constructive comments.
First, the dictionary definition of "bully": A quarrelsome, swaggering, cowardly fellow,; one who terrorizes or threatens those weaker than himself.
It has long been agreed that young children are detrimentally affected by bullying. So much so that it has been directly linked to shootings, murder, and suicide. But children are not the only ones affected by bullying. Nobody enjoys being singled out and publicly ridiculed or attacked. This can be devastating. It can also anger the victim to the breaking point and this can lead to a direct or a symbolic attack on the bully. Bullying can begin a cycle of violence and intolerance that can only end in widespread damage.
Why are shemales so catty? Why is there bullying going on? Here is my take on it:
Most transsexuals begin their transition from a perspective of a basic and profound dissatisfaction with something about themselves. It is so strong that it can be an imperative to action. But transition itself brings difficulties and new questions arise. I believe that things are a bit better out there now but a transsexual still faces critisism, prejudice, and discrimination. Not to belabour all this, I am trying to say that there is a strong possibility that uncertainty and self-doubt play a role in the beginnings of bullying.
The difficulty is this: If one transsexual, out of a feeling of self-doubt or uncertainty, begins to project out onto others these feelings, this may give rise to a tendency to bully these others. From a falsely perceived sense of persecution, we move into a real case of bullying. The victim then seeks retribution and may even flip and become a bully in her own right. This can go on for a long time and an ever-expanding wave of damage can be seen emanating from ground zero, very much like a tsunami.
At any time, someone can step in and say something to try to prevent further damage. At any time, someone can step in and commit more bullying which will make things worse.
The above presumes that we are destined to only react and are never able to act. The above presumes that we are never able to conceive of a constructive goal and to take action to manifest it.
This forum is public. We are lucky to have it. It offers us the opportunity to be with those of like mind who accept transsexuality and it can be a place to have a honest and open dialogue. My opinion is that bullying tarnishes what we have here, makes it dirty and foul. I think that we should think before we speak. If we have a disagreement with someone, we should deal with it privately with that person rather than bully them in the forum.
I am not saying we cannot freely express ourselves in the forum. I am saying that it should be done in a respectful way. We should try to break this cyscle and create a comfortable place for ourselves.
Sunshine
www.ts-sunshine.ca
Maybe it's time for a timeout. It is too idealistic to have everyone be friends and chummy but I think we need to calm down and leave the anger behind. 
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