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a very personal issue
The transgender community is made up of all sorts of different people - strikingly different. Sure, we all have things in common. And we usually accept being lumped in together under this category. But SRS is not necessarily the ultimate goal for each and every one of us. On the other hand, as Paula states, it is a life-or-death issue for some of us.
Relationships are very difficult when one half of the couple is in a state of transition. After all, exactly who and what is the partner supposed to love and support, what part is the partner supposed to espouse? It is a very tenuous proposition to say that you will continue to love sand support your partner no matter what you change about yourself.
SRS would count as one of those things that might affect a relationship. I think that it can work but it takes a partner who has a very broad and long view of things.
But all this is a little off-topic. The point I was really trying to emphasize is that you cannot assume that a tgirl wants SRS or does not want it. What makes a good candidate for this surgery is not to be found in the physical world but in the heart and mind of the TG. And it is such a big step that it really should be a decision that the TG makes on their own and in their own good time. That is my opinion. I don't think partners and friends are doing the TG a favor by pushing one way or the other.
Einstein opens the thread by saying that certain girls seem to be good candidates based on how they look. But being a woman or a man has little to do with how they look. How many masculine-looking women have you seen? There are lots. How many feminine-looking men have you seen? There are lots.
Being a TG places someone beyond male and female, not in between. What they are is a matter of their own perception. TGs are already manifesting themselves as unique and courageous. That is enough to get a gold star from me.
Sunshine
The transgender community is made up of all sorts of different people - strikingly different. Sure, we all have things in common. And we usually accept being lumped in together under this category. But SRS is not necessarily the ultimate goal for each and every one of us. On the other hand, as Paula states, it is a life-or-death issue for some of us.
Relationships are very difficult when one half of the couple is in a state of transition. After all, exactly who and what is the partner supposed to love and support, what part is the partner supposed to espouse? It is a very tenuous proposition to say that you will continue to love sand support your partner no matter what you change about yourself.
SRS would count as one of those things that might affect a relationship. I think that it can work but it takes a partner who has a very broad and long view of things.
But all this is a little off-topic. The point I was really trying to emphasize is that you cannot assume that a tgirl wants SRS or does not want it. What makes a good candidate for this surgery is not to be found in the physical world but in the heart and mind of the TG. And it is such a big step that it really should be a decision that the TG makes on their own and in their own good time. That is my opinion. I don't think partners and friends are doing the TG a favor by pushing one way or the other.
Einstein opens the thread by saying that certain girls seem to be good candidates based on how they look. But being a woman or a man has little to do with how they look. How many masculine-looking women have you seen? There are lots. How many feminine-looking men have you seen? There are lots.
Being a TG places someone beyond male and female, not in between. What they are is a matter of their own perception. TGs are already manifesting themselves as unique and courageous. That is enough to get a gold star from me.
Sunshine
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