My Personal Relationship With A Shemale Escort

[tedder]

Just saw this thread and have to say, been there, done that.

Kudos to Dreamweaver for posting in a way that was respectful yet personally revealing. This is a good "educational" thread IMHO.

In my case, I fell for a GG escort. Quite hard in fact. She never hit me up for $$$ so my case isn't a parallel to the original post. I have absolutely intent of painting all escorts with the same brush. But we do have to realize, that by the very nature of what an escort does for a living, there is necessarily a certain amount of hiding the truth that goes on. Some do it to a great degree than others. So it should come as no surprise then, that some escorts with less scruples and personal morals might take advantage of certain customers.

I hasten to add that the vast majority of escorts I've had the pleasure of meeting are professional and handle things in a respectful manner. These are the sorts of interactions that keep me coming back for more. But there are those out there who may see a potential personal gain and won't really hesitate to exploit it.

[Dreamweaver]

Clarification

I'm not saying this to be mean but your story makes it sound like you should get some counseling. It seems to me like you may have some self esteem issues if you pursued and paid for this girl in the way you describe. It's not normal to pay for a girl's phone or her rent... why would you even consider it?

And besides that, how many girls are out there that want to be with a guy that uses escorts in the first place? Your first meeting with her involved paying her for sex and it appears as though that's the only relationship she wanted with you.

I'm not a TS, but have dated one, so take this next part with a grain of salt.

If you want a relationship with a girl, why would you pay her for sex. TS girls are no different than anyone else... ask her out on a date... do something platonic. If she happens to escort, at the end of the day, it's just a job like anything else. She is still looking for the same things in a partner that you are: confidence, attraction, good job, intelligence, etc.

Good luck with your journey, and if you want to date a TS girl, ask them out on a date and be realistic. Ask yourself: am I in the same league as them? do we have common interests? are they genuinely interested in me? do we have fun together?

Hey foobar:

I know I said I wouldn't post here again, but this needs some clarification. I think perhaps you just skimmed through my story but didn't read all the details.

I NEVER did pay her rent, in fact I refused to. it was one of the other boyfriends that she was stringing along at the same time as me. HE was the one paying her rent the entire time we were "together" not me.

BUT she was telling me that he had stopped paying her rent back in March in order to scam me out of money here and there. "Oh I need to pay my rent but I'm short, can you send me $100?" and my personal favourite: "Oh I'm stuck downtown and ran out of cash, can you send me cab fare?" When I began to refuse to send her money, she would throw a hissy fit.

Now I'm still paying her phone bills from my big mistake. And she refuses to return my phone to me. I want to move on but I'm reminded of my stupid mistakes each month when my phone bill is due.

By your definition, there could be quite a few guys out there who would "need some counselling" because they fell into this trap, not just me ... including this latest dude who is being conned big time as we speak.

She's that convincing. You believe her. You WANT to believe her.

Don't worry about me though ... I'm good. But thanks for caring.

Cheers

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Primo, thanks Dreamweaver for sharing your experience.

Secundo, I find that I can be full of wisdom and good advice for others, full of goodwill... But don't follow the my own wisdom when I am similarly involved. That's the way it goes for many of us.

[foobar26]

Hey foobar:

I know I said I wouldn't post here again, but this needs some clarification. I think perhaps you just skimmed through my story but didn't read all the details.

I NEVER did pay her rent, in fact I refused to. it was one of the other boyfriends that she was stringing along at the same time as me. HE was the one paying her rent the entire time we were "together" not me.

BUT she was telling me that he had stopped paying her rent back in March in order to scam me out of money here and there. "Oh I need to pay my rent but I'm short, can you send me $100?" and my personal favourite: "Oh I'm stuck downtown and ran out of cash, can you send me cab fare?" When I began to refuse to send her money, she would throw a hissy fit.

Now I'm still paying her phone bills from my big mistake. And she refuses to return my phone to me. I want to move on but I'm reminded of my stupid mistakes each month when my phone bill is due.

By your definition, there could be quite a few guys out there who would "need some counselling" because they fell into this trap, not just me ... including this latest dude who is being conned big time as we speak.

She's that convincing. You believe her. You WANT to believe her.

Don't worry about me though ... I'm good. But thanks for caring.

Cheers

Good luck with everything bro. At the end of the day I suppose I get where you're coming from, if I was dating a girl and she asked for some cab money I would give it to her in a heart beat. But if she kept doing it I would have a frank discussion and set some boundaries. I personally wouldn't date a girl without a stable job, period, unless she as a student or something. And giving her a phone is definitely something you should think about. That seems desperate to me. I know you've learned from this but seriously, I'm sure you're an awesome guy who has a lot to offer the right girl so have some pride and don't spend money inappropriately because you're infatuated.

The fact remains that you paid her for sex the first time you met her. In my view you entered a client relationship at that point and everything else was moot. I'm sure someone, somewhere has a story of how they saw an escort, fell in love and they lived happily ever after but that is like finding a needle in a haystack.

I met my ex in a club and yes, hooked up, but it was just for fun not profit. We ended up getting along really well and I asked her out the next day. I know this also is a risky way to meet someone if you really fall for them. I know some TS girls have booty call lists that would blow your mind and it's pretty easy to get jealous

If you're looking to date a TS girl I would suggest using a conventional method such as personals or meeting them in the club or elsewhere. I personally don't go looking for TS girls but I go to clubs they hang out at a lot in my city so it was just fate I guess.

[Dreamweaver]

Good luck with everything bro. At the end of the day I suppose I get where you're coming from, if I was dating a girl and she asked for some cab money I would give it to her in a heart beat. But if she kept doing it I would have a frank discussion and set some boundaries. I personally wouldn't date a girl without a stable job, period, unless she as a student or something. And giving her a phone is definitely something you should think about. That seems desperate to me. I know you've learned from this but seriously, I'm sure you're an awesome guy who has a lot to offer the right girl so have some pride and don't spend money inappropriately because you're infatuated.

The fact remains that you paid her for sex the first time you met her. In my view you entered a client relationship at that point and everything else was moot. I'm sure someone, somewhere has a story of how they saw an escort, fell in love and they lived happily ever after but that is like finding a needle in a haystack.

I met my ex in a club and yes, hooked up, but it was just for fun not profit. We ended up getting along really well and I asked her out the next day. I know this also is a risky way to meet someone if you really fall for them. I know some TS girls have booty call lists that would blow your mind and it's pretty easy to get jealous

If you're looking to date a TS girl I would suggest using a conventional method such as personals or meeting them in the club or elsewhere. I personally don't go looking for TS girls but I go to clubs they hang out at a lot in my city so it was just fate I guess.

Yep, but like I said it all came right out of left field, I didn't seek her out for a relationship, she sought me out. She was VERY convincing. I was so messed up at the time because of my mom's illness, I fell right into it eyes wide shut.

The phone thing happened early in the relationship. It's impossible for me to resist helping a girl in tears, it was such a great acting job.

It's easy for you as an outsider to say what I should have done logically, but you may have done the same thing if you trusted someone who seemed to be sincere and care for you.

My guess is this new guy is paying her phone bills now ... but I'm still stuck with this old one. I guess I will just need to deal with it and wipe my feet. I won't be expecting any help from her anytime soon.

The hardest part was getting out of it. But it's done, history, lesson learned. Life goes on.

Just as soon as this fucking phone bill is paid! lol

[tao1kiku]

I do feel for ya and sad that this was a such a harsh lesson (but it could have turned out much worse, you really could have gotten taken for a ride). In searching for for love we so often ignore "red flags", hoping it is a one time thing. But haven't we all kicked ourselves at the end of a relationship saying "I shouldn't have ignored those red flags"?

At the same time, there are some wonderful girls who's profession is escorting. And they like anyone else, want and deserve love. But they are truly hard to find.