Does being black hurt my chances?

[Adventure Time]

Stop complaining OP. I'm 21 and black, and I'm not experiencing these problems

[toban]

Get it done and move on!

DevAero, you say you’ve been taught to never pay for sex but I wonder if you have maybe misconstrued the advice you were given. Could it just be that you were advised not to consort with prostitutes, which is an old, well established church-type teaching which a very large percentage of the population (including many clergymen ) chooses to ignore. I too will advise you to consider ignoring that advice for the simple reason that if you truly wish to be with a tgirl you’re highly unlikely to find one that is open to casual dating. Because of the inherent difficulty because of population numbers the best bet is to satisfy the immediate urge by carefully selecting one of the many escorts in your area and get it done and over with. You may decide this is wonderful enough to continue, or you may decide to abandon this idea but you need to get out of your system!

Nor is your blackness likely to be the problem you feel it can be either.

Now as to your statement about “paying for sex”:
The difficulties with trying to get sex for free are the many hidden costs to such free sex such as the time spent in repeated unsuccessful attempts plus the costs of romancing any girl you do connect with. You end up paying for dating, dining, movies, clubs, drinks, transport, accommodations, etc., etc., so it is not likely to ever be free or absent of any costs whatsoever, plus, there may be what I would call the “hangover” costs where you may find it very difficult to disentangle yourself from the girl - she may insist on trying to continue the relationship.

There is a regular poster here whose name I can not recall at this moment, who always closes his posts with a warning which I think is applicable to you DevAero but I can only paraphrase it here below. It goes like this:

Sex for free is always more expensive than paying for sex.

[Perhaps someone who reads this would be good enough to post the identify the poster I refer to here]

Now thanks to rider014 and maddplotter here's the quote I was looking for yesterday:


"The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money costs less." -Brendan Francis

[rider014]

Very True

DevAero, you say you?ve been taught to never pay for sex but I wonder if you have maybe misconstrued the advice you were given. Could it just be that you were advised not to consort with prostitutes, which is an old, well established church-type teaching which a very large percentage of the population (including many clergymen ) chooses to ignore. I too will advise you to consider ignoring that advice for the simple reason that if you truly wish to be with a tgirl you?re highly unlikely to find one that is open to casual dating. Because of the inherent difficulty because of population numbers the best bet is to satisfy the immediate urge by carefully selecting one of the many escorts in your area and get it done and over with. You may decide this is wonderful enough to continue, or you may decide to abandon this idea but you need to get out of your system!

Nor is your blackness likely to be the problem you feel it can be either.

Now as to your statement about ?paying for sex?:
The difficulties with trying to get sex for free are the many hidden costs to such free sex such as the time spent in repeated unsuccessful attempts plus the costs of romancing any girl you do connect with. You end up paying for dating, dining, movies, clubs, drinks, transport, accommodations, etc., etc., so it is not likely to ever be free or absent of any costs whatsoever, plus, there may be what I would call the ?hangover? costs where you may find it very difficult to disentangle yourself from the girl - she may insist on trying to continue the relationship.

There is a regular poster here whose name I can not recall at this moment, who always closes his posts with a warning which I think is applicable to you DevAero but I can only paraphrase it here below. It goes like this:

Sex for free is always more expensive than paying for sex.

[Perhaps someone who reads this would be good enough to post the identify the poster I refer to here]

That would be Madplotter's signature. A very true statement as well !

[VanessaBell]

I don't know much about dating (other than the fact that if you're looking in places like this, then you should quit while you're not ahead), but for escorting, your age is more of a hindrance than your race will ever be.

As for the other topic at hand: everybody pays, we're just more forward about it.

[toban]

Thanks for filling the void guys!

That would be Madplotter's signature. A very true statement as well !

LOL
It was a quote I came across from Irish writer Brendan Francis. Last week I was thinking about changing the bottom signature, but now I think I will keep it a little longer.

"The big difference between sex for money and sex for free is that sex for money costs less." -Brendan Francis

Thank you both, rider014 and maddplotter too for filling in the info I couldn?t find yesterday. I knew it was a regular poster?s signature here and searched many names and would have preferred to use the original because it was so very well worded. Now it is there in plain site!
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