why SMC just makes sense (for both sides of the table)

[candyhilton]

Here's why it just makes sense and I LOVE the concept of it, for both the service providers and the Johns

for the Johns:
Instead of him pretending to want to get to know the girl (when he really could care less), and spending $90 on dinner (25 her meal, 25 his meal, 20 for 2 drinks, 20 for tax and tip), and then followed up by some activity he really could care less to partake in rather it be a $25 movie (12.50 a head), AND THEN hoping she puts out... which may happen or not happen. Lets say she says no... so he goes home ($100 plus dollars in the hole), and jacks off to tranny porn.
Instead he could just put that $$$ towards some girl from the site, and skip the "I'm not like the other guys" act lol u know?

for the service providers:
not getting mislead into thinking "well he may be 'the one'"... so if I put out to him he'll call me the next day or week or whatever... little does she knows he will never call again cuz he got what he wanted.
I knew a girl who handed out a freebie to a guy who pretended to want to get to know her for her, so she put out, and then he called back the next night and said "hey last night was great can we get together again". Upon finding out from her he went in straight for sex after a few mins, I suggested she ask for a donation, so she did during their 2nd phone call... and his end of the line hung up! lol!
A guy will ask u to not be seen with him on public but lets just hangout at your place and we'll watch a movie there and maybe have sex? (again... looking for freebies but ashamed to be seen with her in public).

[Shyla Wild]

Candy,
I am a little confused about your post. Are you saying that an escort site is working as it is suppose to Or are you weighing in the advantages of prostitution as a whole? You have to understand that if you change "SMC" in your post to Eros, Backpage, or even to the word Prostitution the statement you made holds true.

Watch....

why PROSTITUTION just makes sense (for both sides of the table)

Here's why it just makes sense and I LOVE the concept of it, for both the service providers and the Johns

for the Johns:
Instead of him pretending to want to get to know the girl (when he really could care less), and spending $90 on dinner (25 her meal, 25 his meal, 20 for 2 drinks, 20 for tax and tip), and then followed up by some activity he really could care less to partake in rather it be a $25 movie (12.50 a head), AND THEN hoping she puts out... which may happen or not happen. Lets say she says no... so he goes home ($100 plus dollars in the hole), and jacks off to tranny porn.
Instead he could just put that $$$ towards some girl from the site, and skip the "I'm not like the other guys" act lol u know?

for the service providers:
not getting mislead into thinking "well he may be 'the one'"... so if I put out to him he'll call me the next day or week or whatever... little does she knows he will never call again cuz he got what he wanted.
I knew a girl who handed out a freebie to a guy who pretended to want to get to know her for her, so she put out, and then he called back the next night and said "hey last night was great can we get together again". Upon finding out from her he went in straight for sex after a few mins, I suggested she ask for a donation, so she did during their 2nd phone call... and his end of the line hung up! lol!
A guy will ask u to not be seen with him on public but lets just hangout at your place and we'll watch a movie there and maybe have sex? (again... looking for freebies but ashamed to be seen with her in public).

[Rockheart]

Candy,
I am a little confused about your post. Are you saying that an escort site is working as it is suppose to Or are you weighing in the advantages of prostitution as a whole? You have to understand that if you change "SMC" in your post to Eros, Backpage, or even to the word Prostitution the statement you made holds true.

Watch....

why PROSTITUTION just makes sense (for both sides of the table)

Here's why it just makes sense and I LOVE the concept of it, for both the service providers and the Johns

for the Johns:
Instead of him pretending to want to get to know the girl (when he really could care less), and spending $90 on dinner (25 her meal, 25 his meal, 20 for 2 drinks, 20 for tax and tip), and then followed up by some activity he really could care less to partake in rather it be a $25 movie (12.50 a head), AND THEN hoping she puts out... which may happen or not happen. Lets say she says no... so he goes home ($100 plus dollars in the hole), and jacks off to tranny porn.
Instead he could just put that $$$ towards some girl from the site, and skip the "I'm not like the other guys" act lol u know?

for the service providers:
not getting mislead into thinking "well he may be 'the one'"... so if I put out to him he'll call me the next day or week or whatever... little does she knows he will never call again cuz he got what he wanted.
I knew a girl who handed out a freebie to a guy who pretended to want to get to know her for her, so she put out, and then he called back the next night and said "hey last night was great can we get together again". Upon finding out from her he went in straight for sex after a few mins, I suggested she ask for a donation, so she did during their 2nd phone call... and his end of the line hung up! lol!
A guy will ask u to not be seen with him on public but lets just hangout at your place and we'll watch a movie there and maybe have sex? (again... looking for freebies but ashamed to be seen with her in public).

I kind of read it as how escorting is better than dating.

Of course SMC is the ultimate example

[Shyla Wild]

I kind of read it as how escorting is better than dating.

Of course SMC is the ultimate example

So did I.....

[Rockheart]

I suppose if you feel bad about getting treated a certain way when dating some guys, charging them might make you feel better.
However if you feel bad about them not wanting to go in public with you, or that you are only a sex object to them, I do not think the money goes very far in masking your feelings. You still have sex with shallow guys, but you have a few more bucks.
I guess if these guys turn you on and you can't avoid them, the money may help slightly.

But i think there is a trade off between dating the guys that really make your libido tingle and finding a more caring guy that may not be as attractive, physically or otherwise. Even if you are charging many guys there probably is still those bad boys you can't resist. As you get older the sex part takes on less importance.

[TSFantasia]

Here's why it just makes sense and I LOVE the concept of it, for both the service providers and the Johns

for the Johns:
Instead of him pretending to want to get to know the girl (when he really could care less), and spending $90 on dinner (25 her meal, 25 his meal, 20 for 2 drinks, 20 for tax and tip), and then followed up by some activity he really could care less to partake in rather it be a $25 movie (12.50 a head), AND THEN hoping she puts out... which may happen or not happen. Lets say she says no... so he goes home ($100 plus dollars in the hole), and jacks off to tranny porn.
Instead he could just put that $$$ towards some girl from the site, and skip the "I'm not like the other guys" act lol u know?

for the service providers:
not getting mislead into thinking "well he may be 'the one'"... so if I put out to him he'll call me the next day or week or whatever... little does she knows he will never call again cuz he got what he wanted.
I knew a girl who handed out a freebie to a guy who pretended to want to get to know her for her, so she put out, and then he called back the next night and said "hey last night was great can we get together again". Upon finding out from her he went in straight for sex after a few mins, I suggested she ask for a donation, so she did during their 2nd phone call... and his end of the line hung up! lol!
A guy will ask u to not be seen with him on public but lets just hangout at your place and we'll watch a movie there and maybe have sex? (again... looking for freebies but ashamed to be seen with her in public).

Kind of like my earlier thread "Escorting: Making guys pay their share of the fantasy", but yes I agree transgender dating is a dismal prospect in most cities, if the girl is expecting more than a booty call or "friends with benefits" relationship. Not saying casual dating is an all bad thing if the guy wants to genuinely spend the day or evening with you. But yes the guys who nervously fidget with disinterest in the movie, music or conversation and are just waiting for the "green light" to advance to the sex part of the date are really annoying too..lol.

Transgender women's odds of finding genuine meaningful relationships are about the same as winning 649, Lotto max or being hit by lightning on a clear day while sun-tanning on the beach! I think that as Crag said escorting improves a t-girl's financial situation but doesn't really fill the emotional void and need for genuine love, acceptance & companionship.

I've tried to maintain a dating life alongside my escorting with some successes and lots of stories like the ones you are describing too. I've thought about relocating but from what I see and hear it's no different in the bigger centres as far as successful transgender dating & relationships goes. So charge lots of money! I think the happiest T-girls are those who enjoy lots of meaningless sex and like shopping,travel, dining, etc on the guy's dime

[candyhilton]

Hey Shyla!
instead of SMC in the title I should have put Hooking or Escorting, etc. I just put SMC as it was the 1st thing that came to mind.

also, hello Fantasia!
I couldn't agree with your reply more! It's to the T!

[Shyla Wild]

I think the happiest T-girls are those who enjoy lots of meaningless sex and like shopping,travel, dining, etc on the guy's dime

Not just TS women, but I think many genetic women fall into this group.

[Shyla Wild]

Hey Shyla!
instead of SMC in the title I should have put Hooking or Escorting, etc. I just put SMC as it was the 1st thing that came to mind.

also, hello Fantasia!
I couldn't agree with your reply more! It's to the T!

i thought that is what you meant. I have a question for you. This mentality works, but what happens when our looks and beauty fade? What happens when the phone stops ringing? What happens when no one wants our service anymore? The greatest chance for finding a partner for life lies in our younger years. As these years come and go, the chance of being alone increases.

Trading companionship for security doesn't always translate into happiness. There is no one with you on those days you have a cold, no one to share in your victories and no one to support you when we fail. Valentines Day comes and goes, and more and more of your friends are building a family. The feeling of loneliness is always overhead.

My greatest fear is to die alone and be forgotten. Being an escort forces you down that sad road.

[rider014]

i thought that is what you meant. I have a question for you. This mentality works, but what happens when our looks and beauty fade? What happens when the phone stops ringing? What happens when no one wants our service anymore? The greatest chance for finding a partner for life lies in our younger years. As these years come and go, the chance of being alone increases.

Trading companionship for security doesn't always translate into happiness. There is no one with you on those days you have a cold, no one to share in your victories and no one to support you when we fail. Valentines Day comes and goes, and more and more of your friends are building a family. The feeling of loneliness is always overhead.

My greatest fear is to die alone and be forgotten. Being an escort forces you down that sad road.

This is called reality.

[TSFantasia]

i thought that is what you meant. I have a question for you. This mentality works, but what happens when our looks and beauty fade? What happens when the phone stops ringing? What happens when no one wants our service anymore? The greatest chance for finding a partner for life lies in our younger years. As these years come and go, the chance of being alone increases.

Trading companionship for security doesn't always translate into happiness. There is no one with you on those days you have a cold, no one to share in your victories and no one to support you when we fail. Valentines Day comes and goes, and more and more of your friends are building a family. The feeling of loneliness is always overhead.

My greatest fear is to die alone and be forgotten. Being an escort forces you down that sad road.

This is true being an escort has a short shelf life and early expiration date. There are always younger girls coming onto the scene and this is a try the new face/new body kind of business.
Balancing escorting with dating or building a relationship makes finding that needle in the haystack even tougher especially if you tour frequently. I think genetic women yes have similar challenges but times it by 10 for trans women seeing our interested dating pool is smaller than "every red-blooded male" who is interested in women (minus the gay men of course). Add the social "conscience" conflict of dating a trans woman into the mix and as I said we are looking for that one in a million man , who goes with his personal preferences and has the courage to stand up to those who criticize him for dating a trans woman.

[candyhilton]

even if a tgirl hooks or not, her chances of meeting a decent guy thats worth keeping around is slim to none.
Heres why....

lets say your 50 and u and your man have been together forever, and even if u never hooked, he may have a mid life crisis one day and decide to drop u like a hot potato for a 20 year old tgirl fresh from Thailand airport named Ming Ling. He says "it's not u, it's me, goodbye". and your like "But I didnt hook beacuse of u... for the sake of our relationship... I did it all for u" and he's like "that was your choice. Goodbye".

FACT All men will leave u at one point.
so with that in mind...
I would rather have him leave me... at the end of the hour... with my $300 cut at the end of the bed THANK U VERY MUCH!

[JohnnySausage]

Uhh!

even if a tgirl hooks or not, her chances of meeting a decent guy thats worth keeping around is slim to none.
Heres why....

lets say your 50 and u and your man have been together forever, and even if u never hooked, he may have a mid life crisis one day and decide to drop u like a hot potato for a 20 year old tgirl fresh from Thailand airport named Ming Ling. He says "it's not u, it's me, goodbye". and your like "But I didnt hook beacuse of u... for the sake of our relationship... I did it all for u" and he's like "that was your choice. Goodbye".

FACT All men will leave u at one point.
so with that in mind...
I would rather have him leave me... at the end of the hour... with my $300 cut at the end of the bed THANK U VERY MUCH!

All men would leave you? I disagree with that part.

[Tia Phoenixx]

oh...that is actually not correct, though i can see some points of each of you girl, but i disagree with each opinion, if we see it on wiser, bigger perspective

we have some tgirls in here who have boyfriends and sugar daddies..so it is not that hard actually to have a committed relationship.

If i am not mistaken, you have already had a boyfriend right Fantasia?


Me, i am single, and because i am not ready to settle down yet and because i have not really found somebody who is capable to handle me on a daily basis lol.
and why not having a sugar daddy?
well, because i am already a millionaire so i need a billionaire to become my sugar daddy, and it is not easy to find a billionaire nowadays. that is why i am single LOL (joke! I am currently in my crazy, happy mood after having lots of great sex in Finland)

At the moment, i prefer to have lots of toyboys in every country rather than one man in my life. Unless of course, Rafael Nadal or Chris Evans ask me to marry them lol

So cheer up..we will find somebody. Just don't take it seriously, but still keep our doors open.

and btw, i think i hurt guys feeling more than they hurt my feeling. In other words, i am the one who usually say good bye or get bored first, not them.

[Tia Phoenixx]

My greatest fear is to die alone and be forgotten. Being an escort forces you down that sad road.

urg...it is very sad just the thought of it.
why you can think that way?

Personally, i dont care whether I will be forgotten or not, the moment i die.
But, I have the feeling that i will be surrounded by loved ones and will not be forgotten the moment i die.

It is called positive thinking.

So...let cheer ourselves up!!