a question for the girls...

[tslisaparadise]

Let's look at what happened last night in a different light.


I think over all we handled our disagreement in a very good way.

ya nobodys dead yet as far as i know lol

[PapaDartagnan]

Not necessarily what you are looking for, but only trying to help

Let me first start off by saying I know the question wasn't directed at the guys, and that I do not know or pretend to know the full extent as to what you are going through. What I do get however, is the sense that you are being overwhelmed by it all. That is something I have had experience with and if you will allow, what I am doing about it.

Clarity. Discussion. Plan. Do.

There have been many posts with good general advice (as I hope this it too) but it is from our perspective and not yours, so we don't really know if we are hitting close to home. There are so many aspects to emotions or mental state, that I suggest (for yourself and not necessarily publicly) try to define what things specifically that bothers you. I can only assume there are many aspects, but listing them and then asking the question, "Why does this bother me?" for each one, hopefully further clarifies where your anguish is coming from.

Breaking it down into smaller parts, makes it less overwhelming. Some of these points you may be able to resolve fast, others take some considerable amount of time. But if you manage to deal with the some of them, again, not only do you have less to deal with, but the positive frame of mind that comes from accomplishing even the smallest of tasks is worth it. As Tia mentioned, having a positive frame of mind is necessary and helpful.

Once that is done, discuss those specific points that you were not able to resolve on your own with those you feel comfortable with. Take what you feel is necessary from each person and then start to plan and do.

I know I am over simplying things as it is not easy to clarify, discuss, plan, do when it comes to emotions... but maybe it is a way to start.

I sincerely wish you all the best!

P.S. Tasha, I agree with the above post, I think the misunderstanding or argument that occured was not indicative of what I have read in other posts and handled well. I would also like to thank you for sharing your experiences and opinions, quite remarkable.