what comes after judgement?

[sunshine]

unexpected turn of events

As hard as I try, I can't quite understand the significance of this thread. Apparently something of some importance happened in Calgary that seems to have brought three girls to the point that they admit that they should all forgive and forget whatever it was that happened, and live harmoniously ever after.

Geez what the hell happened out there in the wild west? I am getting curiouser and curiouser by the minute just wondering what took place, though I must admit that I could be enticed into placing a bet on what it was, but am not sure who might have done it, whatever it may have been!

Maybe, it just may be, this means that this apparent truce is a start and that there will be no bickering between these three, Rantsalot! Maybe too, a few more of our very vociferous girls will sign on to this pact so we can enjoy a peaceful, harmonious place to visit and discuss Shemale matters without all the acrimony.

Here's hoping your wish comes true!

I didn't originate this thread for any reason other than to initiate a discussion rather than silly arguments. I was very surprised by Lucy and Lola's contribution to the thread because I didn't think they liked me at all. There was some friction in Calgary but this goes back further into the past. I am very happy that they both want to be friends. I want that too. As Aston Martin astutely remarked, regret does not serve any important purpose. To delve into the details of past arguments also serves no purpose. There is no reason for us not to be respectful and understanding of each other here on this forum or out in the world for that matter.

It just seems that the people who participate in this forum are so far past ideas of conformity to some formulaic and authoritan lifestyle imposed by others. We should be able to be open to people's ideas. Not everyone will have the same ideas as us but that should be ok. I was simply inviting an honest contribution from anyone on the topic of judgement and retribution. The thread took an unexpected turn when Lucy and Lola offered so graciously and sincerely to bury the hatchet between us.

I would much rather enjoy this forum with you, with my other sisters and with people who are interested in some aspect of the transgendered lifestyle than to spend it annoyed because of bickering, posturing, and arguing.

Thanks again Lucy and Lola. Anybody else want to play nice? I hope that answers your question Toban.

[aguyoutthere1]

I've always found that I am not responsible for my first thought. It just comes, no matter how much it may bother me, (or impress me) I do not have the ability to stop it.

I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT I DO WITH IT.

Too many people have lost that filter from their mind to their mouth.

I always have a first impression when meeting people. I am rarely wrong but based on the times that I was, I try to leave enough room for a second impression.

[sunshine]

good point

I've always found that I am not responsible for my first thought. It just comes, no matter how much it may bother me, (or impress me) I do not have the ability to stop it.

I AM RESPONSIBLE FOR WHAT I DO WITH IT.

Too many people have lost that filter from their mind to their mouth.

I always have a first impression when meeting people. I am rarely wrong but based on the times that I was, I try to leave enough room for a second impression.

I don't even know if that first thought belongs to you - maybe it just floats through you. But a bit of reflection can help anyone take appropriate actions. Action is superior to reaction. As for spontaneous living... I don't know if that works out well with strangers but there is still room for that with people who know us better.

[sadeh]

goodone

Action is superior to reaction.

I don't even know if that first thought belongs to you - maybe it just floats through you. But a bit of reflection can help anyone take appropriate actions. Action is superior to reaction. As for spontaneous living... I don't know if that works out well with strangers but there is still room for that with people who know us better.

[Lani]

You are one that this board needed glow & sunshine

I don't have a habit of starting new posts on the forum although I sometimes enjoy responding on interesting subjects. Today, I was thinking that there is nothing to lose in posting - just an opportunity to open up to interesting opinions.

It is a fact that we cannot operate without judgement. From the simple act of ordering food in a restaurant to the hard decisions of what to do about people who put you in harm's way, we all make judgements. Some of us make those judgements based on opinion and some make judgements based on some sort of intellectual reasoning. That is not what I would like to ask here though.

Once you have made a judgement, what comes next? Let's say that you make a judgement that a certain person is bad in some way, too unlike yourself to be acceptable to you. What then? Do you segregate yourself? Do you attack? Do you provoke to attack? Do you ignore? Do you condemn?

If we are all unique individual (we certainly are that) then judgement can be passed on each of us depending on the criteria used. Are we all condemned then? Or are some of us the chosen few? Some of us the unpardonable?

What do you think?

What comes after judgement?
Just like in ordering an unknown menu or chosen friends, or making some decisions in life, it's either 'regrets or satisfactions'.

If you choose to be bitchy than be a gracious person that everyone aspire to be, would it make you complete and happy?

If you choose to be vindictive, cunning and spiteful rather than being forgiving and un-censure person, would it make your life satisfied and contented?

If you choose to be historical and hysterical and never wants to let go of the pains you feel you suffered from others in the past (as if you haven't inflicted on others before), would it make you be auspicious, cheerful and hopeful into your future?

If you choose to harbour the hate and ill feelings towards somebody for some reason or another, and you have successfuly inflicted a vengeance to this person, would it make yourself gratified, appease and delighted?

If your answer to all of this is 'YES' then don't change anything, you've been accomplishing what you are in this world for.

But if for some reason you know that some of this feelings is a mistake, dreadful, awful and wishing to change, not only for others but for your own sake, then it's never too late.

It will really makes you un-happy, less lonely ( as some of you maybe have unconsciously have written here in the past, or we need to link the page to remind you what you wrote and posted here at one time). The change of attitude and character would also alleviate some of the burdens you carry in this life.

Always remember, when you hurt someone, they can hurt you back, when you expose their garbage, they can throw yours right in your property, when you shit on them, they can shit on your face. And fighting with people who are close to you before can be the most risky of all, as they must have known about your secrets, your past, your hidden skeleton and it opens up the pandora's box and cans of worms that can always be use against you anytime in the future. Some of us members here only gotten to be aware of this dirty laundries and personal trash because of this fights. Some info we would never heard of otherwise. And now we are all duly noted 'so to speak'.

And 'change' is the only permanent thing in this world.
Your best friend today could be your worst enemy tomorrow. As all of us have witnessed on those war of words and promised physical threats amongst the warring factors here. We often got exposed to their personal and sometimes could be considered criminal activities, and the un-ending hurl of insults and repeated name calling of someone, as if we haven't known, read or heard it a million times before and their reason for bringing those topic over and over again, because we still don't get it, or our thick skull can't absorb it, or we cannot comprehend coz, they must have thought that our brain is dead....pffft.... Please! save it.

We already heard, seen and read all those redundant spiel, and we know what and who to believe, to commend, to apllaud, to respect.

And I have posted already on Admin's deleted thread, on who amongst the T-girl admirers here, who (some I have met and some I judged based on their eloquence of kind words and basic respect for fellowmen) and who I considered to topped my list.

And if I'm gonna make a list of the people whom this admirers are in here for...You Sunshine and Nikki will be on top of that list, as well as some other dignified personalities here who graced this forum with nothing but decorum and propriety and dignity for themselves and towards another.

One must always expect to reap what they sow and harvest what they planted.

[tslisaparadise]

what comes after judgement?
just like in ordering an unknown menu or chosen friends, or making some decisions in life, it's either 'regrets or satisfactions'.

if you choose to be gracious than being bitchy, would it make you complete and happy?

if you choose to be vindictive, cunning and spiteful rather than being forgiving and un-censure person, would it make your life satisfied and contented?

if you choose to be historical and hysterical and never wants to let go of the pains you feel you suffered from others in the past (as if you haven't inflicted on others before), would it make you be auspicious, cheerful and hopeful into your future?

if you choose to harbour the hate and ill feelings towards somebody for some reason or another, and you have successfuly inflicted a vengeance to this person, would it make yourself gratified, appease and delighted?

if your answer to all of this is 'yes' then don't change anything, you've been accomplishing what you are in this world for.

but if for some reason you know that some of this feelings is a mistake, dreadful, awful and wishing to change, not only for others but for your own sake, then it's never too late.

it will really makes you un-happy, less lonely ( as some of you maybe have unconsciously have written here in the past, or we need to link the page to remind you what you wrote and posted it here at one time). The change of attitude and character would also alleviate some of the burdens you carry in this life.

always remember, when you hurt someone, they can hurt you back, when you expose their garbage, they can throw yours right in your property, when you shit on them, they can shit on your face. And fighting with people who are close to you before can be the most risky of all, as they must have known about your secrets, your past, your hidden skeleton and it opens up the pandora's box and cans of worms that can always be use against you anytime in the future. Some of us members here only gotten to be aware of this dirty laundries and personal trash because of this fights. Some info we would never heard of otherwise. And now we are all duly noted 'so to speak'.:d

and 'change' is the only permanent thing in this world.
your best friend today could be your worst enemy tomorrow. As all of us have witnessed on those war of words and promised physical threats amongst the warring factors here. We often got exposed to their personal and sometimes could be considered criminal activities, and the un-ending hurl of insults and repeated name calling of someone, as if we haven't known or heard about it a million times and they reason because we don't get it or it doesn't absorbed by our thick skull and hard to comprehend coz, we have a dead brains....pffft.... Please! Save it.

we already heard, seen and read all those redundant spiel, and we know what and who to believe, to commend, to apllaud, to respect.

and i have posted already on admin's deleted thread, on who amongst the t-girl admirers here, who (some i have met and some i judged based on their eloquence of kind words and basic respect for fellowmen) and who i considered to topped my list.

and if i'm gonna make a list of the people whom this admirers are in here for...you sunshine and nikki will be on top of that list, as well as some other dignified personalities here who graced this forum with nothing but decorum and propriety and dignity for themselves and towards another.

one must always expect to reap what they sow and harvest what they planted.

jenn your post rock,nice job

[toban]

Something WORTH REMEMBERING!

Jenllani’s post today carries one the most important messages to be posted on this Forum for some time.


I hope that members, who sometime seem to forget that very old adage, which Jenn has rephrased here as her closing thought, “One must always expect to reap what they sow and harvest what they planted” will try to remember it.

None of us is perfect, and most of us will have to acknowledge that we may have occasionally failed to remember to follow that principle. We may have stooped to attack when we should have trusted or encouraged that other person. Having done so though, do we really feel good or rewarded because we have rained on someone else’s parade? Remember that it will always be more rewarding to ourselves in the future, to nurture and encourage others, than it is to puncture their good feelings.


Another way of rewording Jenn’s thought is more commonly spoken of as “What goes around, comes around”, or also, “You scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours”!


Adhering to the credo which Jenn has reminded us of, is the surest way to bring about the peace and harmony that we all strive to find in our lives. Doing so can only enhance our enjoyment of that life.

[tslisaparadise]

jenllani’s post today carries one the most important messages to be posted on this forum for some time.



adhering to the credo which jenn has reminded us of, is the surest way to bring about the peace and harmony that we all strive to find in our lives. Doing so can only enhance our enjoyment of that life.

yep thats all well and good but makes for a very boring read iN here.id love to know how many pop in during 2 chicks spatting rather then the same old love in bull shit some people speak of,let me make things crystal clear,most of us girls cant stand each other thats just the way it is period but its alot easier to respcet them when they dont back down stand up for what they believe and fight the good fight rather then sit on the fence and say nothing.im thinkin some of you people aka jenn toban chris seem to think this crap is real in here i just cant figure out if there totally nieve or just plain dumb either way the forum isnt meant for the faint of heart but rather 100 per cent entertainment only.

[Wiseone26]

... the forum isnt meant for the faint of heart but rather 100 per cent entertainment only.

I would agree to this, seeing as I'm kinda an outsider to most. We can try to put some good vibe on stuff and try to be serious. But really this is just a forum for escorts and guys to do their thing.

hmm..where is my flak jacket...??

[tslisaparadise]

i would agree to this, seeing as i'm kinda an outsider to most. We can try to put some good vibe on stuff and try to be serious. But really this is just a forum for escorts and guys to do their thing.

Hmm..where is my flak jacket...??

lol its in the mail lol,too many people get all serious and really this isnt the place period,if ya dont like it start a blog.

[Wiseone26]

lol its in the mail lol,too many people get all serious and really this isnt the place period,if ya dont like it start a blog.

yup, some aspects I find it disturbing the amount of personal attacks, HOWEVER it is kinda entertaining to the fact most end up kidding around after some banter back and forth.

Or Admin flexes his .....

[tslisaparadise]

yup, some aspects i find it disturbing the amount of personal attacks, however it is kinda entertaining to the fact most end up kidding around after some banter back and forth.

Or admin flexes his .....

lol,his 3 foot dick? Lol

[Wiseone26]

lol,his 3 foot dick? Lol

what?! why would I think that, oh wait you did. Hmmm...?!

[sunshine]

This is a forum

lol its in the mail lol,too many people get all serious and really this isnt the place period,if ya dont like it start a blog.

Your point is well taken Lisa. If the forum gets all "serious", it will become unread dribble. But if you look up the word "forum", you will find that "discussion" is mentionned. I think that what we need is honest and open contributions of many kinds. Some threads will appeal to some, other threads will attract the rest.
I just wanted to ask an open-ended question so we could discuss together some of the arguments and attacks that have plagued the forum lately. Clearly, some of the recent activity has not been "fun and games", as you describe it. I am glad I started the thread. Everybody who responded contributed something worthwhile. Including you, Lisa!
I am also glad I started the thread because I have found renewed respect for Lucy and Lola. You know, Lisa, I am not as rosy and nice as Jenllani makes me out to be (thanks Jenllani). I have certainly seen my share of "action". But I am trying to do the best I can here.
Thank you Lisa for your honest contribution and be prepared - I might start another thread someday if I think I should.

[tslisaparadise]

Your point is well taken Lisa. If the forum gets all "serious", it will become unread dribble. But if you look up the word "forum", you will find that "discussion" is mentionned. I think that what we need is honest and open contributions of many kinds. Some threads will appeal to some, other threads will attract the rest.
I just wanted to ask an open-ended question so we could discuss together some of the arguments and attacks that have plagued the forum lately. Clearly, some of the recent activity has not been "fun and games", as you describe it. I am glad I started the thread. Everybody who responded contributed something worthwhile. Including you, Lisa!
I am also glad I started the thread because I have found renewed respect for Lucy and Lola. You know, Lisa, I am not as rosy and nice as Jenllani makes me out to be (thanks Jenllani). I have certainly seen my share of "action". But I am trying to do the best I can here.
Thank you Lisa for your honest contribution and be prepared - I might start another thread someday if I think I should.

marry me lol