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Re: T-girls and feelings of guilt
Hi Everyone,
Well this certainly is an interesting topic for sure.
Here's been my thoughts and experience:
1. You can date tgirl, although yes, it could be tricky if you go out with a encort of any sort, whether she be trans or genetic. Remember not all tgirls are escorts.
2. I've had 3 relationships all which pushed a year and live with one of them for 4 months out of that year and to be honest I managed to mingle into their world easier than thought. (of course it wasn't like I threw myself into ALL the Betty Crocker things that many straight couples do but still a lot of stuff) All 3 would certainly agree, dating me was much easier than they would have imagined. Again, this is just our experiences, but when people actually had a chance to talk about it, ask some questions, my experience has been that more people are sympathetic or indifferent than the ones who'll make a big deal about it.
3. Alot of Tgirls are having fun at this point in their lives and they themselves aren't ready or looking for a relationship (even if on the odd day they might think they are) so don't go chasing one only to be jaded and think that all tgirls are the same. That is like saying all girls are the same. There are some sluts, some good girls and lots of in betweens. :P
4. More people don't actually know WHAT to make of tgirls than do. (you guys are a good example, and you know more than most) I mean guys just stand back and look from the corner of their eyes tryign to figure out what to make of this mess... ha ha I think we have a long ways to go (another 7-10 years) but yes, people aren't so much !!!! about tgirls but rather
the unfortunate part is that so long as the guys who love them the most continue treating them like fantasies only... they will be slow to make it into the everyday.
5. Telling your gf is not a bad thing. All 3 of my ex's have told their more serious gf's since. Most either just didn't really care or were curious about finding out more. I wouldn't tell someone on a first date, but it might be worth talking about at some point especially if you are into receiving anal play so that she can think about it she'd like to help you out or not. he he. I don't think any of them had any big issues with it. Oh yes, there was one, who is going out with bf #1. She was fine until she saw my picture and then she felt insecure that she might not be able to provide him with the same things I did... etc... I think she cried cause she didn't think I'd look quite as good as I looked and her finding out that I had topped him. I guess it's like telling them your other sexual likes, it's a personal decision.
Anyway, I am not going to pretend there is any easy answer here. I suppose it all depends on the individual. But I thought I'd share my thoughts anyway.
All I know is outside of dancing I work a reg job and for the most part have led a reg life. Yes, there is always little bumps in the road (and some pretty big pot holes) but I wouldn't say that my life isn't terribly far outside the norm. Work is good, my family is great, my relationships have not been unlike other straight or gay couples I know.
I know my relationships are far from having been marriages... however, it was enough to know there was hope. I also know of another girl from home, who is actually married of 5 years now and extremely happy. She didn't go for the model superstar look, but she is passable and leads a very 'normal' (whatever the hell normal really is anyway) life.
Is the world ready for a man and tgwife with kids yet? I dunno... I'd say not. But is the world ready for a guy who has a hot gf who just happens to have something different. I think it's getting closer.
Good luck in finding your way. Whatever you do... be true to yourself and try to live (at least a little) in a world that belongs to you and not everyone else.
hugs & kisses
Madison
Hi Everyone,
Well this certainly is an interesting topic for sure.
Here's been my thoughts and experience:
1. You can date tgirl, although yes, it could be tricky if you go out with a encort of any sort, whether she be trans or genetic. Remember not all tgirls are escorts.
2. I've had 3 relationships all which pushed a year and live with one of them for 4 months out of that year and to be honest I managed to mingle into their world easier than thought. (of course it wasn't like I threw myself into ALL the Betty Crocker things that many straight couples do but still a lot of stuff) All 3 would certainly agree, dating me was much easier than they would have imagined. Again, this is just our experiences, but when people actually had a chance to talk about it, ask some questions, my experience has been that more people are sympathetic or indifferent than the ones who'll make a big deal about it.
3. Alot of Tgirls are having fun at this point in their lives and they themselves aren't ready or looking for a relationship (even if on the odd day they might think they are) so don't go chasing one only to be jaded and think that all tgirls are the same. That is like saying all girls are the same. There are some sluts, some good girls and lots of in betweens. :P
4. More people don't actually know WHAT to make of tgirls than do. (you guys are a good example, and you know more than most) I mean guys just stand back and look from the corner of their eyes tryign to figure out what to make of this mess... ha ha I think we have a long ways to go (another 7-10 years) but yes, people aren't so much !!!! about tgirls but rather
the unfortunate part is that so long as the guys who love them the most continue treating them like fantasies only... they will be slow to make it into the everyday.5. Telling your gf is not a bad thing. All 3 of my ex's have told their more serious gf's since. Most either just didn't really care or were curious about finding out more. I wouldn't tell someone on a first date, but it might be worth talking about at some point especially if you are into receiving anal play so that she can think about it she'd like to help you out or not. he he. I don't think any of them had any big issues with it. Oh yes, there was one, who is going out with bf #1. She was fine until she saw my picture and then she felt insecure that she might not be able to provide him with the same things I did... etc... I think she cried cause she didn't think I'd look quite as good as I looked and her finding out that I had topped him. I guess it's like telling them your other sexual likes, it's a personal decision.
Anyway, I am not going to pretend there is any easy answer here. I suppose it all depends on the individual. But I thought I'd share my thoughts anyway.
All I know is outside of dancing I work a reg job and for the most part have led a reg life. Yes, there is always little bumps in the road (and some pretty big pot holes) but I wouldn't say that my life isn't terribly far outside the norm. Work is good, my family is great, my relationships have not been unlike other straight or gay couples I know.
I know my relationships are far from having been marriages... however, it was enough to know there was hope. I also know of another girl from home, who is actually married of 5 years now and extremely happy. She didn't go for the model superstar look, but she is passable and leads a very 'normal' (whatever the hell normal really is anyway) life.
Is the world ready for a man and tgwife with kids yet? I dunno... I'd say not. But is the world ready for a guy who has a hot gf who just happens to have something different. I think it's getting closer.
Good luck in finding your way. Whatever you do... be true to yourself and try to live (at least a little) in a world that belongs to you and not everyone else.
hugs & kisses
Madison
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