TOP GUYS: Keep Up The Good Work! :)

[TSFantasia]

To all the top guys who love to top women and t-girls keep up the good work!

Nothing makes a woman/trans woman happier than you being the man in the bedroom

Not talking about what you can or cannot get a woman/t-girl to do for money in an escort or porn session.
If your a t-girl luver and have gotten into your 20's, 30's, 40s...... with out having any desire to stick
things up your butt no need to start now! In general its a pain in the butt anyways and a messy situation..lol.
Don't let anyone tell you that the only way to enjoy a t-girl is with you in the bent over position or on your back legs in
the air position like a lil biatch . There is definitely a large contingent of those trying to shape the t-girl porn and
escort industry to suit that desire. Each to their own.

As for me it's real not rocket science that I as a trans woman want to be approached as woman, maybe with that something extra to pet & suck like a large clit, but definitely not interested in being turned into a gay dude in a dress!
Why would I say that? Recently had a guy on a social media site ask me after some chit chat about me being a t-girl.
"Do you like to fuck guys?" Meaning of course do I like to top. I immediately answered "No I don't do you like to fuck guys?" The answer came back "HELL NO!!". I asked "Why Not?" "Because I'm not gay!" I said, "Neither am I so why would seeing a guy bent over in front of me excite, arouse, or turn me on in anyway? I would have to have a gay male orientation for that to be the case, right? He had to agree with that assessment. I also asked him why he felt that any trans woman conflicted enough over their outward physical appearance to go through huge efforts to change that through hormones and surgeries would want to continue using their last remaining male part in the most masculine way possible?

His assumptions of course came from shemale porn sites. This of course is not an isolated incident. Just one I decided to confront in that way. To me anyways for someone to want to only view me as a gay male in a dress for their sexual satisfaction is the ultimate slap in the face to my womanhood and how far I've come in my transition.
As a SP I did try to be versatile and did top many guys. Was it ever a turn on for me? NO it was always the least enjoyable part of my JOB. I actually would dissuade many guys from coming to see me when I knew that their only interest was to be topped. I told one guy maybe 4 or 5 mos ago that I was not prepared to top that night if he wanted a regular GFE session that would be fine. He said no problem he still wanted to come over. As we got into mutual oral I got rock hard and he said "I real am a bottom and you should be able to fuck me as you are rock hard?" There was an instantaneous reaction I have NEVER gone soft that fast in my life ..LOL.

After that I think I only topped a few guys during BDSM sessions but finally decided after coming back from Mexico end of March that NO I'm not doing that anymore for any amount of money. My womanhood is not for sale.
So I'm a bottom only provider now and of course in the real world of dating I've always been bottom only. Lucky to have a well endowed man in my life who treats me like a woman in and out of the bedroom. Probably getting to the stage that
I will give up escorting soon as he is starting to get jealous over it (I think we are at the don't ask don't tell stage). But regardless of how much further that relationship goes I will approach escorting as a "Find something to do that you love doing and find away to make money doing it" enterprise, and not a "It's a dirty job, but someones got to do it" or "its a paycheck" approach.

I know my opinions on this are not popular and barely a ripple in the tidal wave that has over taken t-girl porn & escorting but a lot of other t-girls would agree even if they keep their mouths shut for financial reasons.
So again hats off to all you top guys making your women happy keep up the good work!!

[Photo Mann]

I support you . . .

I agree with you Ms. Fantasia. I believe that people should indulge in what suites them, however it seems to have gotten to the point where males who bottom, have become so prevalent in reality and in terms of what you see online, that the idea of guy topping a ts lady seems almost old fashioned and passe. It totally makes sense that a person identifying as a woman, would want to be made to feel as such. I think it is high time we get back to the basics and act in the manner that God intended. Men on top and tgirls on the bottom. Huzzah!

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[xoxJanexox]

Here we come again to one of the brain washing series! I am sure the hidden worriers will just jump soon!

So for you to bottom is enjoyable and for some other human being it is a pain in the butt!
T-girls who top are gays in a dress and only the exclusive bottom ones are women!
You are a woman because you only bottom! So you were a gay in a dress a couple of months ago before you came from Mexico?!
What a great confession!

Girls who top are selling their womanhood! So, girls who bottom must be buying their womanhood then!
Aren't you selling your body for money! You see when you start judging how judgments could go all the way!

Go to a ladies public washroom in suburban areas in Texas and you will discover who is the gay in a dress! There is absolutely nothing wrong with being who you are but there is definitely something wrong when you start judging others!

[Photo Mann]

Ladies please!

I hope this doesn't lead to a heated argument. Everybody has their opinion and preference, and that's a great thing. We can express our opinions, I just hate to see two beauties get into it in a negative way. I think you can be, and are anything as long as you feel it within yourself. Want to be a lady and top, great! Want to be a lady and bottom, great also! I just hope that this topping issue doesn't take over. I like bottom ladies. That's my preference and my choice. Do I in any way have contempt for those gentlemen who like to be topped, definitely not, simply because I would not want to be condemned for my choice as a top.

Thanks for letting me share. The last thing I want is to get caught in between Ms. Fantasia and Ms. Jane . . . wait a minute . . . what am I saying . . . of course I do. Be gentle.

[drigger]

Another Side.

I am definitely of the mind that it takes all types. I myself prefer to be the passive partner when it comes to trans women. It is my opportunity to try something that I would otherwise be unable to do. That being said, if the mood strikes, I am certainly capable of being the dominant top. Putting yourself into one category, either top or bottom is limiting yourself to an entire half of the possibilities. Keeping an open mind and being willing to take on either roll allows you twice the fun and experience of others who stick firmly with one roll.

Just have fun, and don't worry about it!

[TSFantasia]

As I said these are my feelings on how it makes me feel when men choose to try to use me in this way or believe that trans women think this way from their only perspective being shemale porn sites. Roll back 5 yrs and you will barely find any evidence of this current trend. So the fact that interested trans attracted guys on social media and dating sites think this is the preoccupation of a trans woman's sex drive implies that the "brainwashing" is thorough and almost complete!

I have no doubt that the majority but not all who identify as trans women in transition think and feel as I do. That fetish cross dressers think very differently is pretty well known too. Escorting and porn is business and if a person has the goods and interest in fulfilling the current demand all the power to them.

If a farmer calls me up and wants to tie me up in his barn, dress me like a pig and tell me to oink as he fucks me that maybe a kinky
thing to do once (provided his last name isn't Pickton). But if that becomes the only request coming from clients and soon the shemale porn sites become filled with it and guys on social media think they are flattering or enticing me by saying "Here piggy, piggy I've got something for you in the barn!" Then of course I would have to ask myself if this is really how I want to be viewed and treated especially when those "kinky,fetish" perceptions cross over into the real world.

Being penetrated as a woman during sex is a perfectly natural thing. I view myself as a woman there is no conflict in my mind while this is happening. As an escort female or trans I maybe selling my virtue but always better then being the cheap slut most men really want (sex for free). I am selling my sexuality as a trans woman escort like a female escort sells her female sexuality. The odd client will want her to use a strap on or allow anal sex with her some will accommodate others won't. And not many women are trying to fuck their man's ass with their clit or fantasize about growing one because that so turns them on.

[bottomguyusually]

I see GGs on a regular basis and love to fuck, and I see Tgirls who I LOVE to bottom with, although I do top most of the time as well because I love fucking, period.

BTW, I also love fingers, dildos, and strapons in my ass, but like I have said before, the sight of a guy totally turns me off.

If it feels good do it, if you like doing it, do it, that's my 2 cents.

Everyone should just do what they want, and what feels good.

[Tia Phoenixx]

Very honest confession Fantasia.

I will be a post op in few years...so hell yeah...i like to get fucked LOL, so i understand completely your opinion.

it's actually very important to tell the truth about our preference in this business, otherwise we will be jaded and "angry" so quickly, if we say something the opposite.
so...if you like to get topped...say it...there are always men who like to fuck a tgirl...trust me...i have years of experience

However, remember escorting is also a profession. so versatility is one of the key to be successful.

the more versatile and open minded we are...the better it is for the profession.

I'm open minded and versatile, and i totally understand the "need" and the "kink" of men who like to be topped as well.

that's ok..as long as there is enough money on the table...

Besides, sex is not only about being topped or bottomed.

There are other things....that's equally stimulating

[Tia Phoenixx]

I am definitely of the mind that it takes all types. I myself prefer to be the passive partner when it comes to trans women. It is my opportunity to try something that I would otherwise be unable to do. That being said, if the mood strikes, I am certainly capable of being the dominant top. Putting yourself into one category, either top or bottom is limiting yourself to an entire half of the possibilities. Keeping an open mind and being willing to take on either roll allows you twice the fun and experience of others who stick firmly with one roll.

Just have fun, and don't worry about it!

best answer. You say it all

[Tia Phoenixx]

ups.... i repeated myself, check my answer on previous page.

[toban]

There is no standardized form of sexual gratification!

I am certain that for most of the general population of Canada and for 100% of this forum’s members, sex is primarily recreational, not functional (reproductive). We use sexual play for our personal enjoyment!

For this reason I feel that, as has been suggested here, that to achieve such enjoyment all females (including those transgendered) should naturally prefer penetration or that guys should naturally prefer to ’top’, is a bit puzzling. I say this because of the huge variation of methods used to achieve sexual release and enjoyment by any individual of each and all sexual variances.

There is no standard method for achieving the enjoyment such play provides, hence the term “Different strokes - - -”. so I am inclined more to accept the positions stated earlier by bottomguyusually, drigger and Tia, and probably held by most others in this community, that whatever mode of “play” one enjoys it should be wholeheartedly accepted by others without prejudice.

[bottomguyusually]

I am certain that for most of the general population of Canada and for 100% of this forum?s members, sex is primarily recreational, not functional (reproductive). We use sexual play for our personal enjoyment!

For this reason I feel that, as has been suggested here, that to achieve such enjoyment all females (including those transgendered) should naturally prefer penetration or that guys should naturally prefer to ?top?, is a bit puzzling. I say this because of the huge variation of methods used to achieve sexual release and enjoyment by any individual of each and all sexual variances.

There is no standard method for achieving the enjoyment such play provides, hence the term ?Different strokes - - -?. so I am inclined more to accept the positions stated earlier by bottomguyusually, drigger and Tia, and probably held by most others in this community, that whatever mode of ?play? one enjoys it should be wholeheartedly accepted by others without prejudice.

agreed, your a good man Toban! Truth be told, the thing that got me into prostate massage, then Tgirls, is that as I got older staying hard with a rubber on became difficult, so I discovered other means to enjoy new aspects of sex.

[bb420]

*yawn*

poor ol' bottom guys get no love.

[Franklinzed]

What are we to make of the numerous tgirls on SMC that say top only? Is that coz they only want to be topped in their private lives or something?

Honest question, not trolling.

[xoxJanexox]

There was a discussion about t-gilrs in one of the forums and this what was written by a genetic woman about us. It really just amazes me that some genetic women are more understanding of our lifestyle compared to some of the t-girls:

First, I think it's really important to remember that trans women are women. They may have different bits than you're used to on women, but that doesn't make them any less real women.

Like having sex with cis women (cis means not trans), sex with trans women is going to be a unique encounter each time - sex is a dynamic that's created by two people together. It's okay to feel unsure - the important thing is to communicate a lot. Ask her how she likes to be touched and what language she likes when talking about her body.

Some trans people have a lot of dysphoria that can be triggered by certain words or being touched in certain ways, so just use your words.

If she has a penis, it may or may not get hard. A lot of trans women who have been on estrogen for a while don't get erections any more, without the aid of Viagra or other meds. She also may or may not ejaculate still.

She may be a top or a bottom or versatile - definitely something to talk about. Roles may not be quite as easy to assume as they would be with a cis woman.

A lot of straight sex between two cis people often defaults to penis in vagina sex without a lot of discussion. You should expect to talk a little bit more about what kinds of sex you two will have, and maybe you'll need to have a broader idea of what counts as sex, beyond putting your cock in a hole (or maybe you won't.)

I think it's also really important to think about the experiences trans women have. Like all women, there's a real risk of violence at the hands of men, but in addition to male violence against women, they also have to content with transphobic violence. Recognize that she's taking a big risk with her safety by meeting a stranger off the internet, honour any safety measures she decides to take and be extremely respectful of her boundaries. Trans women are murdered all the time simply because people are uncomfortable with their attraction to them or because people can't see them as human beings.

Call her by the name she gives you and use the pronouns she uses for herself (most likely she & her).

I'd recommend reading this guide and checking out some other resources, so that when you meet, you can just focus on being your best self: http://www.autostraddle.com/getting-...-women-160269/

Be awesome, be kind and be okay with not knowing everything (but be willing to listen and learn!)

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If I'm straight and attracted to women is this relationship worth pursuing?

Absolutely. Trans women are women, and no matter what she has between her legs now, or in the future, doesn't change that. Dating or having sex with a trans person doesn't change your sexual orientation in any way - if you're a straight guy who's attracted to women, and you find a trans woman hot, well hey, you just met another woman that you find attractive.