Is having sex with an escort cheating?

[tek1234]

Guys and gals please tell me your thoughts on this subject.Cheating or not?

[Ray]

Only if you get caught.

[toban]

Unfortunately,

Guys and gals please tell me your thoughts on this subject.Cheating or not?

unless you have a very open-minded partner the answer must always be YES!

[Rockheart]

1. First it depends if you think it is cheating?
2. Second is there anyone in your life that may think you are cheating on them?
3. If you answer no to 1 & 2 then you are not cheating.

I think that alot of it depends on your situation and people around you.
However I think most people would answer, YES.

There may be a different answer if you asked an escort that question in regards to their own boyfriends.

[Ana_Jolie]

yes

[xoxJanexox]

Having sex with an escort is a transaction and not an affair. Hence, it is not cheating. I can further elaborate on this if necessary. The fact that a spouse or partner is not approving of the transaction is a different issue.

[zara]

Answer is NO

Guys and gals please tell me your thoughts on this subject.Cheating or not?

Boyscout VS Bad Boy; Faithful VS Cheater; Day VS Night... all of these are considered to be diametric opposites. They are two extreme sides of the same coin. Quite in the same way, so are ?going after what you want? versus ?going after what you should? - all the time. When we apply that to needs, the hardcore moralists out there will tell us that we should always pursue which we are told we need based on the morals, customs and laws of our society. Yet, in spite of that, I have plenty of reasons to believe that doing so is an act of extremism and, at the very least, a recipe for frustration and later failure. Besides, there is a better way to go than just getting stuck in one or the other.


If you share my point of view that going after what you want and going after what you should are two diametrically opposite extremes (sort of like extreme right and extreme left), then the key point to take away from this is that both are extremes.Historically, there is one thing we know to be true about extremes- they are bad. Adhering to extremes is called extremism. Extremism is the term that always gets attached to some of the most negative and dangerous events in societies and individuals the world over.


Follow my train of thought here, If extremism is a bad way to go, then the same goes for choosing to always go after what you want, as well as if you choose to always go for what you should. Now, let?s put this into perspective of our sexual wants and needs. This is not simply because of what I do haha; this is because I assume we have solved so many other problems and have most of what we need to live good lives in the 21st century- save for guaranteed frequent, good and satisfying sexual, erotic and intimate experiences. We are told that what we should go after is finding that one person that?s the most compatible with us including sexually, and then become committed and faithful to that one person. Unfortunately, going after that- the thing you should do as we?re all told- is an extreme diametrically opposite to getting everything you want sexually. The committed faithful couples who always get from each other what they want sexually, till the day they die, are extremely rare. Therefore, for most of us, it is an extreme choice to be sexually faithful to one person, which will not allow us to experience all that we want to experience sexually. On the other hand, the diametric opposite is to always go for what you want sexually and only be faithful as long as it takes for you to move on to the next sexual want on your list and change partners if your current one won?t do what you want. This is another example of extremism because most of us are not wired to handle such deviant partners with love, care and understanding. More likely, vases and plates would fly, wine would end up splashed in someone?s face, or worse- way worse.


So then, what should one do? The smart, the wise and the experienced say we ought to take the middle path.This means we ought to strive towards the middle path right in between doing what we should and what we want.
To walk down the middle, give up a little bit of each extreme, but gain a lot more in return.If you want to experience someone much younger or older than you, enjoy your experience- arranging to make it happen, making it happen, and then reminisce fondly.

Yet, on the other hand, still do what you should. Find someone to always be with and enjoy having someone like that as well. Make sure you know whih of your sexual wants and needs that dear person in your life cannot fulfill before you do anything else. Finally, if you can make that person feel like they are the only one and give them the love, care and attention they deserve while also searching out those like-minded people to fulfill your sexual wants and needs with that are beyond the scope of your committed relationship, you have successfully found your middle path.

If you think that is difficult to do, it only seems that way because you haven?t started down your middle path yet. Even if you?re hesitating as you read this, remember these words: When you are walking down the middle, it is easy to move to the left or to the right any time you may need to do so. If, however, you are already too far left or too far to the right, you are in terrible danger of staying there forever.

[tek1234]

Thanks for all the replies

[Alexis]

Guys and gals please tell me your thoughts on this subject.Cheating or not?

If you do not have the approval or consent of your partner to have sex with undisclosed individuals randomly then yes you'd be cheating..



I'm super lucky since my partner and I share everything openly..

[cobbler]

Perhaps

It all depends on your spouse really.
If she is open to you exploring other sexual options then all is good (and therefore you give her that option as well, right?).
If not, then yes, you are cheating on her.
Trust is what defines a partnership.
I was quite happily married and we were faithful because we were open with each other and explored each other's fantasies.
After 20 years we both realized we wanted to go further afield, so we got a divorce and remained if not best friends, very good friends and committed parents.
Zara is right in that there is a middle road, but if it is done in secret it is no longer in the middle, it is on the outside looking in.
No relationship worth having can exist without trust and mutual respect.
Sorry for the sermon, what can I say, I always get preachy around the solstice.
Must be the pagan in me.

[merelypink]

it depends on what you significant other thinks!!

[Raging Bob]

i know you already know the answer to that question....kinda curious why you asked it.

Obviously "yes". Unless you've been given a free pass.

[tek1234]

i know you already know the answer to that question....kinda curious why you asked it.

Obviously "yes". Unless you've been given a free pass.

My reason for asking is because i have been dating a woman for about 10 months and the relationship has become serious
I am wondering if i should tell her about my attraction to tgirls and that a few times a year i meet tgirl escorts.

[LOLA_]

I think its a really big step to tell her about your relationship with tgirl escorts, I can't not share my man with any female and shemales HELL NO !!! I think you have to find the ways or open subjects about shemales step by step...EVERYTHING IN HER EYES ( just read her eyes ) how is her reaction when you open subject about tgirls !!!

if her reaction wasn't what it should have been forget it ( just keep secret for your self )
if she is cool about it than go ahead and share your story with her.

My reason for asking is because i have been dating a woman for about 10 months and the relationship has become serious
I am wondering if i should tell her about my attraction to tgirls and that a few times a year i meet tgirl escorts.

[bottomguyusually]

Only if you get caught.

I 2nd this comment lol